I hate to say it but the formula here is really simple, all the guys here know it and we all learned passing it around to each other … orgasm for women happens between the ears before it happens between her legs.
imo, a couple things killed you.
1: she initiated contact with you multiple times and you didn’t escalate. You very simply have to get to no, and then try to push through the door once more and you obviously don’t go and assault her but sometimes no is maybe, so just be super careful there.
2: the nonsense on the text messages sealed your fate- If you were someone who got back right away (which is not good either) and all of a sudden you’re two dates in and not was escalating and now you’re basically telegraphing you’re blowing her off, you’re done. Refer to point 1. You had her but this ensured you didn’t after. She sent one more, thought about it and left your fvcjboy ass in the dust.
happened to us all, learn and move on.