Girl taking over a week to respond to a text she initiated!

[viking22]

Maybe she’s young and a recent graduate who’s only recently moved to London so probably overstretching herself.

But there’s no real enthusiasm in her responses and it’s hard to be less non commital than perhaps next week and like you said I’m clearly not a priority so can’t see this going anywhere

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Back from my holiday so I asked her out Friday night to a jazz gig.

Bizarrely she then replied to my previous messages using text quoting saying the holiday photos looked great and was looking forward to hearing all about it

Then replied to the latest text saying it sounded good but she had already made plans to go to see a fashion show but perhaps we could do something next week.

I replied “Sure let me know when your schedule is firmer and we can plan something “ and predictably she left that unread and hasn’t responded in a few days now. Couldn’t even be bothered to acknowledge the text with something like “Sure I’ll let you know”.

So yeah this is dead in the water. I’ll delete her number and try to do better next time

Not sure why you felt the need to ask her out again...she chose to ignore you for a reason.

 

[Gamisch]

Not to put OP down since he is probably hurting emotionally, but it looks like he is already overly infatuated with this woman. Nothing good can come off when the attraction is this one sided.

Talk to more women and keep your mind occupied OP.

Leaving text messages unread for days

I have had 2 dates with a woman. 1st date: drinks and then dinner. 2nd date: musical 1st one especially went very well and conversation flowed easily and she was very relaxed and charming and touchy feely holding my hand across the table and linking arms with me as we walked and when I went for t...

www.enotalone.com

Great find, sherlock!!

This is why you should stay away from forums where women calling the shots. I see women actually advising OP to "keep chasing ", because that is what these women are used to..and yes, one of the orbiters will be lucky every now and then, but at what cost?

You are a fool if you listen to them. The most important thing is to TRAIN yourself to walk away from shyte like this, not to double down on chasing when a woman shows you she ain't in to you.

Whatever

 

[Sega Genesis]

This is why you should stay away from forums where women calling the shots. I see women actually advising OP to "keep chasing ", because that is what these women are used to..

I don't disagree with you generally, but to be fair, there were also a few men advising him to continue pursuing.

And a few women advising him to toss in the towel! From very early in!

Just sayin, let's be fair here. Not all women on those forums are entitled ***, many yes, not all.

 

[Gamisch]

I don't disagree with you generally, but to be fair, there were also a few men advising him to continue pursuing.

And a few women advising him to toss in the towel! From very early in!

Just sayin, let's be fair here. Not all women on those forums are entitled ***, many yes, not all.

never said that they all are ×+÷.

Imo still not a great place to get advice as a man. Thing is, none of those women will actually say the TRUTH about why a woman would treat a man like that because they'll protect their own image. The worst advice ( coming from a woman and something tells me OP would rather listen to a woman than a man) is to keep pursuing her and to " be a rebel " and just call her. As he eventually did. OP should've been a rebel with his hand crawling to her vgg or by talking her back home. That should be his biggest lesson.

And the men there know they need to watch their tone because of misogyny allegations.

And I'm biased ...can't deny

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I don't disagree with you generally, but to be fair, there were also a few men advising him to continue pursuing.

And a few women advising him to toss in the towel! From very early in!

Just sayin, let's be fair here. Not all women on those forums are entitled ***, many yes, not all.

Yes, probably guys who still believe in Disney fairy tales they were raised on.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Great find, sherlock!!

This is why you should stay away from forums where women calling the shots. I see women actually advising OP to "keep chasing ", because that is what these women are used to..and yes, one of the orbiters will be lucky every now and then, but at what cost?

You are a fool if you listen to them. The most important thing is to TRAIN yourself to walk away from shyte like this, not to double down on chasing when a woman shows you she ain't in to you.

Whatever

Obviously there are exceptions to generalizations, but men often embody the warrior spirit, which demands a realistic approach, especially during wars. Warriors find beauty in facing reality, understanding their limits, and making the most of their circumstances. In contrast, women might seek their beauty in endless dreams.

This is why OP is being encouraged to continue pursuing, despite excuses about the girl’s slow responses, as they believe she is still interested. They want to ensure that everyone achieves their ideal resolution and happy ending.

 

[The Diver]

Oh and other thing that is weird her last seen status on WhatsApp only seems to update once a day. That seems implausible as most girls are glued to their phone. So perhaps she is screening texts and has a lot of men on the go

Honestly, it's mind-boggling what some of the guys doing.
Why do you give a F**k about all this nonsense?
When confused, go to the basic: You send her a text and she doesn't respond in a timely manner - stop entertaining her and move on. Plain and simple.
What's the point of all this mind mu$terbation?

 

[Divorced w 3]

Not to put OP down since he is probably hurting emotionally, but it looks like he is already overly infatuated with this woman. Nothing good can come off when the attraction is this one sided.

Talk to more women and keep your mind occupied OP.

Leaving text messages unread for days

I have had 2 dates with a woman. 1st date: drinks and then dinner. 2nd date: musical 1st one especially went very well and conversation flowed easily and she was very relaxed and charming and touchy feely holding my hand across the table and linking arms with me as we walked and when I went for t...

www.enotalone.com

This website banned me in five days. I started a thread over there called “I sent her packing” and they had a nuclear meltdown.

It was funny, because they really took to my masculinity before I aired out that I threw a boundary down.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Not to put OP down since he is probably hurting emotionally, but it looks like he is already overly infatuated with this woman. Nothing good can come off when the attraction is this one sided.

Talk to more women and keep your mind occupied OP.

Leaving text messages unread for days

I have had 2 dates with a woman. 1st date: drinks and then dinner. 2nd date: musical 1st one especially went very well and conversation flowed easily and she was very relaxed and charming and touchy feely holding my hand across the table and linking arms with me as we walked and when I went for t...

www.enotalone.com

I have to admit, actually having read a few posts there….. not terribly awful advice. Basically they’re saying try picking the phone up and not being a text message sending fckboy. I can’t argue with it.

 

[Solomon]

Honestly, it's mind-boggling what some of the guys doing.
Why do you give a F**k about all this nonsense?
When confused, go to the basic: You send her a text and she doesn't respond in a timely manner - stop entertaining her and move on. Plain and simple.
What's the point of all this mind mu$terbation?

OP is doing exactly what happens when you have a scarcity mindset it then manifests in

• Neediness
• Thristyness
• Desperation

What's the solution IMO the best solution is not to overinvest in a woman that underinvest. If OP had a rotation of 3 or 2 other women he would not care why cause he has other options but since OP doesn't he's stuck. This is why I laugh at people on this forum who still preaching this "Text her a week later or a month later" nonsense. In 2024 women always have their phones on them some check their phone every hour some check their ****ing phone every 5 minutes! if a woman has real HIGH IL this thread wouldn't be a question

OP not to be harsh with you, I have made the same mistake many times you need to move on, readjust your mindset and stop being overinvested in chicks. You are coming of as desperate and needy and this is turn off. Even if you were to get this women you would lose her because of your simping ways. Learn to be a man of self-respect and options!

I'll use myself as an example. I texted a girl on Monday she didn't respond. She had initial high IL(we already hooked up twice)and I noticed the last 2 weeks it has dropped. If she responds or reaches out cool if not that's fine because I won't reach out as I have other options and even if those optons fail you have to have respect for yourself and be willing to walk away instead of chasing a woman who is lukewarm at best.

A woman that truly wants or likes you won't act like this to confuse you she basically letting you know she ain't feeling you

 

[viking22]

Yeah it is good advice. I got sloppy because I forgot that women can be strokers and fake high interest which she probably did on the first date and to a lesser extent the second date. I should really be looking at consistent high interest and good behaviour over a period of time before investing. I had other options of course but it is hard to be coldblooded and treat them equally.

But yeah she doesn't give a damn about me. Her last texts were littered with typos and even if she is a bad texter she would know that most people do not like to be left unread for days and I am sure she doesn't treat her friends and men she is actually interested in like that.

But yeah this one is dead and I am going on some dates with other chicks over the weekend.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Yeah it is good advice. I got sloppy because I forgot that women can be strokers and fake high interest which she probably did on the first date and to a lesser extent the second date. I should really be looking at consistent high interest and good behaviour over a period of time before investing. I had other options of course but it is hard to be coldblooded and treat them equally.

But yeah she doesn't give a damn about me. Her last texts were littered with typos and even if she is a bad texter she would know that most people do not like to be left unread for days and I am sure she doesn't treat her friends and men she is actually interested in like that.

But yeah this one is dead and I am going on some dates with other chicks over the weekend.

It's likely your excessive interest and investment in her for no real reason is what scared her off and made her pvssy dry up.

No woman wants a guy who acts like they have no options. It's highly unattractive.

 

[viking22]

Out of the blue got a text from her:
"Sorry. It's been bit of a rollercoaster the last few weeks. My phone got aggressively stolen and I've moved flats. Hope you are doing well"

Not sure why she felt the need to send this. It was over two weeks since my last text which she ignored.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Out of the blue got a text from her:
"Sorry. It's been bit of a rollercoaster the last few weeks. My phone got aggressively stolen and I've moved flats. Hope you are doing well"

Not sure why she felt the need to send this. It was over two weeks since my last text which she ignored.

Notice she made no mention of meeting up.

All she wants to do is see if she still has you on the hook.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Sound like everything you hoped for, doesn't it?

Now be a man and tell her you moved on and she has to find another hand to massage her bruised, ahem, ego.

More like bruised ass from whatever other guy has been leaving his handprint on it from spanking it while pulling her hair with the other hand.

 

[jhonny9546]

It has happened to me too at times, but the truth is that not all women are the same. Some will write to you, while others, even if they are very interested, may not.

I met a girl while we were both studying in the library. I discovered that she was genuinely interested in me, but for some reason, she never reached out. Instead, she only showed interest in subtle ways, as many women do. I eventually understood this when I invited her for a walk.

What about you? How does it happen for you? Do you find that interested girls don’t write to you too?
Or do you think a woman which would be interested would write your first?

 

[Barrister]

It has happened to me too at times, but the truth is that not all women are the same. Some will write to you, while others, even if they are very interested, may not.

I met a girl while we were both studying in the library. I discovered that she was genuinely interested in me, but for some reason, she never reached out. Instead, she only showed interest in subtle ways, as many women do. I eventually understood this when I invited her for a walk.

What about you? How does it happen for you? Do you find that interested girls don’t write to you too?
Or do you think a woman which would be interested would write your first?

Most women, even those who are high interest, put the ball in the man’s court to initiate. There are some exceptions, but they are very rare. Women who are high interest will give cues that they are high interest, but they generally don’t come out and ask a man out nor do they initiate sex. It is your job as the man to LEAD and take the reins, especially when it comes to sex. Always be initiating and always test the limits for how far you can go. If she lets you get all the way to sex, then you take it.

Failing to move things forward will make you look indecisive and not like a leader and make her high interest begin to fall off quickly.

 

[jhonny9546]

Failing to move things forward will make you look indecisive and not like a leader and make her high interest begin to fall off quickly.

I recognize that my "failing to move things forward" is an issue I face at the beginning of interactions. When a woman starts to show me signals, I struggle to convey that I like her too, in the subtle way that experienced men do.

Once she knows I like her or that I'm interested in a physical relationship, it’s practically a snowball effect. I don’t have a problem with that part. The challenging aspect for me is the initial escalation—getting to the top of the mountain, so to speak.