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Just because she hasn't responded in a few hours doesn't necessarily mean she ghosted. Give it a few days to see if she responds. If she doesn't then move on. Don't double message.
 

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Just because she hasn't responded in a few hours doesn't necessarily mean she ghosted. Give it a few days to see if she responds. If she doesn't then move on. Don't double message.
I blocked her already she was boring
Who told you to talk to her like your her gay best friend?
Next time, play it cool, banter a little, sexualize a bit, and then make plans to hang. Not saying prolong the texting, but it is extremely rare for a woman to see sex (unless that's her profession) as a transaction.


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That’s who.

And all of you to be very honest.
 

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She? Brother look in the mirror :D
yes my conversation as boring because I wasn’t being direct like I normally am. @Modern Man Advice said I gotta be chill, that other guy who I blocked said I just have to have a normal conversation. What’s more normal than talking about food? The advice you guys give me doesn’t work and is absolute garbage then you call me boring when I use it. Fvck right off
 

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I like it.

Like, "hmmm what other guilty pleasures do you have"

But with the flirting smirk emoji instead of the winky face. Like being super suggestive what I'm hinting I want her response to be.

If her answer is boring I'd punish that with some teasing.

But good idea of noticing a transition into sexual, getting away from boring conversation
 

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I like it.

Like, "hmmm what other guilty pleasures do you have"

But with the flirting smirk emoji instead of the winky face. Like being super suggestive what I'm hinting I want her response to be.

If her answer is boring I'd punish that with some teasing.

But good idea of noticing a transition into sexual, getting away from boring conversation
So go sexual like I have been! You guys are a riot!
 

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That’s exactly what I was doing. Please you and @catsmeow
I WAS having a normal fvcking conversation and got ghosted
Nothing works all the time.

You got you're panties in a bunch throwing a temper tantrum like a 9 year old girl because you got ghosted a couple times?

This is why you won't be successful, you not built for this, too sensitive.

Take care and good luck.
 

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@Modern Man Advice said I gotta be chill, that other guy who I blocked said I just have to have a normal conversation
You may want this give this a read:

The OP on a gifted writer giving cliche advice, similar to Striker/Modern Man Advice:

"Speaking of writing, this post was prompted by Sasha Chapin’s post How to Crush it on Twitter When You Don’t Want to Do That. Sasha only gives a few pointers, one of them is:

"Think Less

All of the tweets I do that perform really well have one thing in common. Which is that I didn’t think about them too hard".


But of course, Sasha is a successful writer and writing coach. As for people who aren’t, they rarely produce perfectly crafted, viral tweets without trying. It takes many years of thinking hard to not have to think hard!"

 

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You may want this give this a read:

The OP on a gifted writer giving cliche advice, similar to Striker/Modern Man Advice:

"Speaking of writing, this post was prompted by Sasha Chapin’s post How to Crush it on Twitter When You Don’t Want to Do That. Sasha only gives a few pointers, one of them is:

"Think Less

All of the tweets I do that perform really well have one thing in common. Which is that I didn’t think about them too hard".


But of course, Sasha is a successful writer and writing coach. As for people who aren’t, they rarely produce perfectly crafted, viral tweets without trying. It takes many years of thinking hard to not have to think hard!"

This isn’t relevant
 

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With my suggestion, it was transitional to sexual talk after you had general chitchat. A couple of back and forth texts of general talk, then seize the opportunity to take it sexual.
How do you suggest I do that? I can’t stand chit chat
 

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Just recognize the opportunities to take something she says and turn it sexual after a couple back and forths. I think had you turned it sexual when I suggested, the convo wouldn't have been considered boring. The amount of familiarity talk would have been fine.

How would you have felt @catsmeow had he responded with what I said with my first reply?
I’ll give it a try next time but that’s hardly authentic. It’ll just feel like I’m doing some fake politeness to get to the “good stuff”
 

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OP, If it makes you feel better I just got rejected/ghosted by two different girls I tried to hit on via Facebook so go figure.

I experience the same things average looking men experience, I get rejected, ghosted, flaked on ect I'm not speaking from a high horse and if I came off that way that wasn't my intention.

Iife has humbled me, I'm not the most handsome guy in the world lol I have friends that look better than me and when we go out sometimes they get more attention than me, so trust me, I know how everyone of you guys feel sometimes, I may not experience it as often but it does happen.

Just don't give up and keep working bruh,

Pull your skirt down and fix you're attitude because the way you are coming at some of the people who continously give you advice is not called for.

Don't ask for help while acting like a d!ck at the same time.
 

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The women may not interpret it like that. In your conversation, my suggestion would have been after her seventh response to your general talk. Just use that as a guide line... Have some familiarity talk, get 5-7 responses from them, and around that time see if you can pick something out to turn sexual. If they ghost before you have an opportunity, then lower the responses to 4-6.
I don’t like it but I’ll try
 

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This isn’t relevant
I suggest Striker and Modern Man Advice provide real life examples of normal conversation. So that you can observe patterns and pick out what you notice they do. Not the actual sentences (that's pickup lines. Bro I used your same line and it didn't work"). Obviously them saying "dude just be normal" isn't very helpful advice.
 

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Shades of Cyrano…
 

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I suggest Striker and Modern Man Advice provide real life examples of normal conversation. So that you can observe patterns and pick out what you notice they do. Not the actual sentences (that's pickup lines. Bro I used your same line and it didn't work"). Obviously them saying "dude just be normal" isn't very helpful advice.
What line? I have a theory which is that different things work for different people hence why my lines work for me and why other guys lines don’t work for me
 

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What line? I have a theory which is that different things work for different people hence why my lines work for me and why other guys lines don’t work for me
But they aren't at the moment, no? Think you mentioned you haven't been getting laid all that much. Please correct me if I'm wrong.

But yea I want you to get away from this line of thinking that it's all about pickup lines. It's not helpful.

WHY did you say that? -> Well because xyz.

Then we attack this ("because xyz") line of reasoning. See a pro's (just someone who gets laid a lot from cold approach) analysis of what he saw based on the context and why he responded the way he did. Compare his response with how'd you respond were you presented with the same scenario. You'll notice "ohhhhh see thats where I fvcked up with tinder girl #69. I thought she meant X with that. so I responded Y. When she was actually just trying to see if I would Z. smh..."
 

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But they aren't at the moment, no? Think you mentioned you haven't been getting laid all that much. Please correct me if I'm wrong.

But yea I want you to get away from this line of thinking that it's all about pickup lines. It's not helpful.

WHY did you say that? -> Well because xyz.

Then we attack this ("because xyz") line of reasoning. See a pro's (just someone who gets laid a lot from cold approach) analysis of what he saw based on the context and why he responded the way he did. Compare his response with how'd you respond were you presented with the same scenario. You'll notice "ohhhhh see thats where I fvcked up with tinder girl #69. I thought she meant X with that. so I responded Y. When she was actually just trying to see if I would Z. smh..."
I said it because it has worked in the past but yeah it’s not going so well atm. But as we just saw, doing the whole “convo” thing doesn’t work.
So what are you suggesting? I don’t want to use lines but I don’t naturally enjoy conversations with girls because they are shallow and non logical
 
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