The debate has gone on since the beginning of time
who needs / wants sex more men or women ?
Well at some stage in history that debate was firmly settled when men happily started using money and gifts to lure women into sexual favours
Sex work has been around since medieval times and it hasn't really stopped since but 99% of the time its men propositioning women and not the other way around
Of course this is going to leak into ordinary dynamics between men and women
Part of a female dating strategy has always been too try and extract as much "value" out of a man before opening her legs
( this is probably largely where the "3 date rule" originated from ) but because of testosterone .
Men WANT sex a lot more than women do, the power dynamic affords a lot of females the luxury of being very selective over whom they will have sex with and often women want the best they can get
Where as most men will generally have sex with almost anyone in a short skirt and high heels
Men being men want a quick and easy solution and that solution is pay to play
Personally I have always enjoyed the thrill of the hunt more than the actual sex , using your skills and experience to get a woman to sexually submit to you and please you is always going to be a lot more rewarding than simply handing over a fistful of cash and going at it
Plus if you actually like her you can then develop a bond and gain a companion out of it
This isn't possible with pay to play but each to their own.
For young men, I totally agree men want sex a lot more.
Once a man is in his 30s (like me), this changes. I'm not nearly as horny as I used to be (other men in their 30s and above have told me the same).
A woman's sex drive, on the other hand, supposedly increases once she reaches 30.
That being said, even a 30+ year old man might
appear hornier than his female peers. For one simple reason: For a man, sex is sex. We climax during the vast majority of sex sessions. All we need is a slot to park our sausage. A woman, on the other hand, is less likely to reach climax from sex. So even though a woman might
want sex more badly than we do, she's not going to pick just anyone. She wants a man who's going to satisfy her.
As for your assertion that you like the hunt more than the sex itself, I respect that stance. I've heard other men say the same. For me, however, being on the spectrum, the hunt leads to frustrations/mess-ups the vast majority of the time. So as rewarding as it is for a woman to submit to me sexually
without payment, I hate the hunt with a burning passion.