thunder_god said:
Challenge accepted. Looking forward to trying this move this week. Do I just go for the kiss right away after spinning here or do I need to wait for a bit and stare into her eyes? Thanks for the tip.
Do it like a man. Do it like a boss.
Here's the scene:
1) You're behind the chick grinding away. Make sure she actually
knows she's dancing with you; on packed dancefloors, you can get pushed up against people by mistake. You can do this in one or all of the following ways:
a) Put your head right next to hers, like where you basically try to use her shoulder as a chin rest (but don't actually!). Your cheek rests right by her opposite ear/cheekbone. This is a very sensitive area of a woman. If she allows you to do this for anything longer than 10-20 seconds, you can escalate straight to 'the spin'.
b) You have your hands on her waist, which if you are properly dancing, you should have at least one anyway. I normally go for just the one, making a few random moves with my other hand; two hands on her waist limits the flow of the dance and makes it kinda rigid or two-dimensional.
c) First point of escalation is one hand on her belly - some chicks will let you, a lot will be insecure about it. If she moves your hand back, don't try again straight away; wait another 30seconds to a minute. If she moves your hand a second time, forget this point of escalation. But sometimes if a chick is well into it (reaching back to touch too), I sometimes just go for both arms straight around the midriff. At this point you can almost always escalate to the spin also.
2) 'The Spin'.
You're dancing, dancing, but not for too long. This whole process should not last more than a couple of minutes (or for one whole song of the music, at the absolute maximum). The reason she's grinding with you after all is because she wants to be kissed. And by you. If you take too long about it, the tingle has subsided.
a) So with two hands on her waist, or one on the belly which makes the manoeuvre slicker, you spin her, fast (but not too fast) to be directly facing you, ideally with one of your feet between both of hers (feet get in the way of each other here otherwise). The essence is on the speed; fast enough so she doesn't (really) have a choice, but not so fast that she falls on her ass (she may have been drinking. Be in control of the move.
b) Now she's facing you and you've 'caught' her, both your hands now on opposite sides of her waist to where they were when you were behind. You now pull her towards you (
DO NOT lean in). This is where the foot position is crucial, you don't wanna be off balance/step on her feet. Adjust as necessary.
c) The Close.
As you start pulling her towards you, look her dead in the eye and give the best 'come to bed' you can possibly muster. You should look happy, mischievious, not stare-y.
Pull her chest in to yours (DO NOT lean in, but you will probably have to tilt your head down as her chest meets yours). Simultaneously slide one hand to the small of her back and the other to the same place your cheek was in point 1(a), but preferably closer to her neck. Keep your eyes OPEN until her lips meet yours; this way you avoid miss-direction, clash of teeth and can gauge her pulling away, but at this stage she shouldn't.
Kiss her for about 5-10 seconds, longer if she gets in to it. Be firm with your holding of her, be strong, but not overly rough or aggressive.
The key is:
-Don't hang around too long before escalating.
-Smooth, firm and manly moves.
-'Not giving her a choice' but allowing her to pull away if it's obvious she's not game.
