Just because you get a date these days doesn’t mean she thinks you meet the bare minimum to have sex with. Used to be that way, not anymore. What she’s thinking is “ok he seems cool enough to hangout with, I’ll have a nice time and free dinner but this guy is in no way my type to sleep with”. I promise you that happens more often than not. I can get dates, I can line up dates from here to October. What I’m struggling to do is hookup.
Robert, you've got a lot of hangups about women and you fairly consistently present a black pill perspective on women and dating. You're definitely not alone here on this forum, but you really need to get that handled if you're going to be happy, forget getting laid.
As is common with red/black pill ideology, the few instances of sh!tty women behaving in an entitled, openly solipsistic manner represents the gender as a whole. That small percentage of the female demographic who go on dates with men simply for a free night out is confirmed as the rule, rather than the exception.
Most women go on dates with men because they're looking for romance. Yeah, as lame and idealistic as that sounds. If she agrees to go on a date with you, she is giving you the opportunity to seduce her. Women like being swept up in those emotions by the man who can sweep her up. It's that simple.
If you're sitting with her at a bar over drinks, alone, on a date that she agreed to, assume that your looks, height, whatever, already met her standards. Now it's up to your game and personality to take her home. You're struggling to hook up because your game and personality is lacking. I think that's pretty clear in the disposition of your persona here. Bitter, frustrated, resentful, despairing -- women pick up on that. Get that handled.
PS: First dates should NEVER be over dinner. Dinner first dates put her on the spot, they're inherently approval-seeking and beta (way too much of a "treat"), trap her in an interaction in which there is no socially tactful opportunity to exit if she's uncomfortable, and of course, you better be paying that bill, which puts more expectation on her to reciprocate sexually.
If you meet for drinks at a bar, there's no expectation on her to stay to sit through anything. She knows she's free to leave at any time, which puts her at ease. There's no pretense of trying to impress her or learn her fvcking life story. You're just there to have a drink or two and flirt. You're sitting close to each other, not across from a table, where you can flirt and get physical. Alcohol lubricates conversation and laughter. Worst case scenario, you bought a stranger a drink.
