Dont feel like dating anymore

[BackInTheGame78]

I dont miss either; dating or sex.Can this be 'low T' like someone here pointed out.

Possible, or your brain trying to protect your ego from being bruised due to lack of success which makes you want to believe you don't really want it even tho you do.

I mena let's be real...if you had hot swimsuit models begging you to bang them are you claiming you'd be like "Nah, I'm good"? If you are, I simply don't believe you.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

You mean get sex easily from a girl with the exploding tree trunk legs in the other thread? No thanks.lol You can have all the game you want but if you aren’t a tall Chad that she fancies, you have no shot. Oh maybe in a few years when she’s overweight and desperate but who wants to be second place to a girl far from her prime?

Get real man...you think all these women are out dating "Chads"? Walk out to any public place and you'll see plenty of below average dudes with hot chicks.

You know why? Because unlike many on this board, they didn't convince themselves they couldn't get her.

 

[Robert28]

Get real man...you think all these women are out dating "Chads"? Walk out to any public place and you'll see plenty of below average dudes with hot chicks.

You know why? Because unlike many on this board, they didn't convince themselves they couldn't get her.

I see it too but it’s misleading. What you’re seeing is a “last resort” for the woman. A woman freshly kicked off the carousel of c0cks with confidence so beaten down from the hundreds of hookups she’s had that she grabs on to the first swinging d!ck desperate for a woman beta bucks. Maybe she’s got two kids by two different dudes, maybe she’s got a whole bunch of mental issues, could be any reason. What I do know is in her prime she’d have never even been friends with such guys but she’s on her last hoorah looks wise and she knows she better cash in on what little looks she has left. If you think these women have many choices left other than the average dudes they’re forced to pick from, you’re delusional.

 

[Robert28]

Here’s a couple pics to prove my point. I personally know this girl. These two pics represent a 6 year difference. When I hooked up with her she was divorced with a kid, now look at her. She’s gotten herself knocked up by some big teeth beta bucks and she looks NOTHING like she did back when I knew her. She used to have a BANGING little body. Now she’s picking from the tree of the beta bucks. This girl would have made fun of a guy like this back when I knew her, now she’s forced to be with someone like him because guys like me got her in her prime and now won’t have a thing to do with her.

 

[FruitLoops]

Possible, or your brain trying to protect your ego from being bruised due to lack of success which makes you want to believe you don't really want it even tho you do.

I mena let's be real...if you had hot swimsuit models begging you to bang them are you claiming you'd be like "Nah, I'm good"? If you are, I simply don't believe you.

I would agree. My brain is trying to protect from the possible disappointments from failures. But i do feel happier without these possible disappointments.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I see it too but it’s misleading. What you’re seeing is a “last resort” for the woman. A woman freshly kicked off the carousel of c0cks with confidence so beaten down from the hundreds of hookups she’s had that she grabs on to the first swinging d!ck desperate for a woman beta bucks. Maybe she’s got two kids by two different dudes, maybe she’s got a whole bunch of mental issues, could be any reason. What I do know is in her prime she’d have never even been friends with such guys but she’s on her last hoorah looks wise and she knows she better cash in on what little looks she has left. If you think these women have many choices left other than the average dudes they’re forced to pick from, you’re delusional.

Trying to generalize one situation to evey situation is another common thing on this board.

That doesn't explain women in their early 20s with dudes like this.

 

[Focal core]

I have been in monk mode for almost 1 year now. During this time I completed my studies and got my dream job. But now after staying away from dating for so long, I am much happier and content with staying single that i dont feel like dating anymore. Is that normal? Or am i going crazy?

Its normal until you found someone whos in the same aituation as yours.

 

[lost_blackbird]

I mena let's be real...if you had hot swimsuit models begging you to bang them are you claiming you'd be like "Nah, I'm good"? If you are, I simply don't believe you.

You mention being real and then cite a wholly unreal example. Who has hot swimsuit models lining up and
begging to be banged by them? Nobody, that's who. As for ability to parachute out of a sexual encounter, in the past I've
thought better of it and turned down sex with my p3nis literally inches away from the hole-y grail so to speak, in the apartment
of some chick I met on holiday, called a taxi and then left her alone with her fingers. The last overt attempt to seduce me came from
a girl in her 20's who was a big fat old lump, none the less we exchanged numbers at my friends bar as personality wise she was
fun. She sent me video after video of herself toying with some buzzing thing, endless invitations to come over and do her and I
repeatedly turned her down until after some weeks of trying she eventually gave up. In the past I have attempted to leave a girls
flat who I'd met in a pub on a Rock night. She invited me over to her place and then spent the evening playing hard to get. I was
bored playing her stupid games and got up to leave just to have her stand between me and the door and hike her skirt up and
show me the stockings and suspenders she was wearing. I said "that's nice" and then left anyway without laying a finger on her.
I got a girl pregnant when I was 18 and have been VERY cagey about where I put my d1ck ever since.

 

[Georgepithyou]

Getting sex is VERY difficult for some men. Most men actually. You can’t just walk outside and snap your fingers and get sex. Women can, men can’t. Men have to WORK at it, compete with other men who are more desperate for it, it just gets old and wears you out. Most women aren’t giving up sex before a first date or few dates anyways, unless you’re a mega Chad.

Get rich and invest in escorts, if you want kids work out a co parenting agreement with some woman.

 

[ubercat]

I m in 50s have same notch count and been in LTRs most of my life. I personally think you're doing great a lot of men never get comfortable in their own skin. I suppose the only thing you have to think about as you get older is legacy but there's alternative arrangements now if you want a kid you don't have to necessarily get married.

I've got a great woman been with anearly 6 years now. And I still wonder how I would do on my own sometimes. You've answered that question and you've kept your goals a lot of guys might as well have a chick because otherwise they piss it up against the wall or lump on their couch playing games.

Lot of guys might say I have low t but come on I'm still an extremely skilled fighter and beat guys in their 20s at A grade tennis. Faced off against a junky at the bus stop who was threatening to beat his woman few weeks back not a moment's hesitation. So physically and competitiveness wise it still seems to stack up.

 

[derby1]

It's been years since I had sex and I honestly couldn't care less.

Ive struggled to get sex since i stopped drinking, irony is Im 10 times smoother.

but if the woman isnt tipsy, she puts huge ASD/LMR up

Im also dissapointed with womens behaviour, so like you Im coming to the point of couldnt care less.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Having read some of the posts in this thread i believe a lot of disappointment and despondence is because men want and almost expect far too much from todays women

Some of you guys have illusions of this perfect unicorn type whom is a virgin , innocent , does as she is told and has no other aspirations of doing anything other than loving you and becoming a housewife / mother to your children

I don't know how many more times this needs to be said

WE DO NOT LIVE IN THAT WORLD ANYMORE

It is dog eat dog out there , innocence is a now a fantasy ….the vast majority of us are morally corrupt by old world standards

Ok so what you gonna do sit and cry about it or work it too your advantage ?

I don't date women i sleep with them......why ? because why would i want to waste my time and money footing a bill some simp happily will

Todays women are as sexually liberated perhaps as they ever have been ..... why would you not want to be getting a piece of the action ? because you are worried your feelings or ego may get hurt ?

get a grip squash the insecurities and play the hand you are dealt.

 

[FruitLoops]

Full filling our mating strategies as men should be somewhere in our radar. Does it make us complete. No
But being able to defend yourself is another one.
OP is their some underlying issue at hand?

Well the underlying issue is that somewhere my brain is trying to protect myself from all the disappointments that come in with dating. Other than that i am just happy and content being alone now and concentrated on my career.
Another issue i pointed earlier, and the reason why i posted here was that i am concerned that what if staying away from dating fpr too long could just rust my game and after a while if i decide to get back into it i would lose all the time cause now my game is gone; what if i become the guy that cant even hold a conversation with a woman.

 

[AttackFormation]

Well the underlying issue is that somewhere my brain is trying to protect myself from all the disappointments that come in with dating. Other than that i am just happy and content being alone now and concentrated on my career.
Another issue i pointed earlier, and the reason why i posted here was that i am concerned that what if staying away from dating fpr too long could just rust my game and after a while if i decide to get back into it i would lose all the time cause now my game is gone; what if i become the guy that cant even hold a conversation with a woman.

Do you see how unhealthy dating is for your life? You now have a NEW worry that youll be 'too rusty' to do it if you dont do it, even though all it has actually given your life is 'disappointment'. It's so toxic that as long as you think about it, it can find a way to make you anxious and deprive you of peace, even though you are abstaining from it.

The only way to mental freedom is to let it go, and build your life. You have to stop letting a negative activity like dating define your life and your mental state.

 

[Robert28]

Trying to generalize one situation to evey situation is another common thing on this board.

That doesn't explain women in their early 20s with dudes like this.

That’s not just the only example, just one of many. I see this every single day! This isn’t something I’m dreaming up. I just posted this example because I personally knew the girl.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That’s not just the only example, just one of many. I see this every single day! This isn’t something I’m dreaming up. I just posted this example because I personally knew the girl.

One thing most people are missing is that social circles tend to have a lot of this because the longer a woman knows a man and spends time around him, the less looks matter and the more other traits become attractive to them.

 

[Robert28]

One thing most people are missing is that social circles tend to have a lot of this because the longer a woman knows a man and spends time around him, the less looks matter and the more other traits become attractive to them.

That’s true too

 

[rjc149]

Just because you get a date these days doesn’t mean she thinks you meet the bare minimum to have sex with. Used to be that way, not anymore. What she’s thinking is “ok he seems cool enough to hangout with, I’ll have a nice time and free dinner but this guy is in no way my type to sleep with”. I promise you that happens more often than not. I can get dates, I can line up dates from here to October. What I’m struggling to do is hookup.

Robert, you've got a lot of hangups about women and you fairly consistently present a black pill perspective on women and dating. You're definitely not alone here on this forum, but you really need to get that handled if you're going to be happy, forget getting laid.

As is common with red/black pill ideology, the few instances of sh!tty women behaving in an entitled, openly solipsistic manner represents the gender as a whole. That small percentage of the female demographic who go on dates with men simply for a free night out is confirmed as the rule, rather than the exception.

Most women go on dates with men because they're looking for romance. Yeah, as lame and idealistic as that sounds. If she agrees to go on a date with you, she is giving you the opportunity to seduce her. Women like being swept up in those emotions by the man who can sweep her up. It's that simple.

If you're sitting with her at a bar over drinks, alone, on a date that she agreed to, assume that your looks, height, whatever, already met her standards. Now it's up to your game and personality to take her home. You're struggling to hook up because your game and personality is lacking. I think that's pretty clear in the disposition of your persona here. Bitter, frustrated, resentful, despairing -- women pick up on that. Get that handled.

PS: First dates should NEVER be over dinner. Dinner first dates put her on the spot, they're inherently approval-seeking and beta (way too much of a "treat"), trap her in an interaction in which there is no socially tactful opportunity to exit if she's uncomfortable, and of course, you better be paying that bill, which puts more expectation on her to reciprocate sexually.

If you meet for drinks at a bar, there's no expectation on her to stay to sit through anything. She knows she's free to leave at any time, which puts her at ease. There's no pretense of trying to impress her or learn her fvcking life story. You're just there to have a drink or two and flirt. You're sitting close to each other, not across from a table, where you can flirt and get physical. Alcohol lubricates conversation and laughter. Worst case scenario, you bought a stranger a drink.

 

[Robert28]

But yet you can talk your way out of her panties. Interesting contradiction that.

How the hell does one converse with a girl on approaching her, have a bit of banter, get her back to yours and seduce her......
without verbal game. The mind baffles.

According to you we are all just nicely dressed meat and the women gets sexually aroused by her eyes. nothing else.

Anyone mentions "chad" anymore, instant ignore. Ridiculous outlook.

She’s not coming back to your place only because of verbal game. She attracted to you and likes what she sees, you knowing what to say just helps the cause. If all it took was talking to a girl, the PUA community would be slaying but they weren’t. You can’t cheat physical attraction. A dumb good looking guy beats a smooth talking average guy every time.

 

[corrector]

I would agree. My brain is trying to protect from the possible disappointments from failures. But i do feel happier without these possible disappointments.

Nothing wrong with putting yourself first. As you should but this kinda thing in your mind can lead to Blackpill thinking and it could be bad for you.

Maybe you would find it better to just forget about "the dating" part and just enjoy talking to as many girls as you run into. Without the goal of getting them on a date. Take the pressure off.

Yeah, with a mask on during covid delta. Very encouraging to do that.

Who got vaccinated?