Dont feel like dating anymore

[Barrister]

That I agree with! But when one part (pursuing sex) overtakes other aspects of your life that’s where the balance gets thrown off. The whole point of this thread is it’s not easy to get sex for most guys, it is for some but not most.

Riding a bike is “hard” if you don’t know how to ride a bike. Pulling women is also hard if you don’t know what you’re doing. If you develop a style and confidence and start pulling even some women you notice a snowball effect.

Unless you are some wheelchair bound, hideous monster you can get women. Doesn’t mean it doesn’t take work. And yes, Brad Pitt has a head start on you because of his looks. But you can still get women. Telling everyone here how “hard” it is to get sex not only is inaccurate but brings this whole place down.

 

[corrector]

Actually, yes. Scroll back a few pages. I am exaggerating a bit - but the claim was made that it was “very difficult” for most men to get sex. And, again, yes looks are important. Doesn’t mean a guy who is average or below average can’t pull women though.

Its up to the reader to take these comments with a grain of salt. When someone says most men, what they are saying, it's difficult in particular for themselves and people who look like them or worst or don't have social proof that other woman want them. I always interpreted these type of comments in a bracketed sort of way.

 

[corrector]

Riding a bike is “hard” if you don’t know how to ride a bike. Pulling women is also hard if you don’t know what you’re doing. If you develop a style and confidence and start pulling even some women you notice a snowball effect.

People like @lost_blackbird can easily pull women but don't want to despite the fact he's getting IOIs all over the place or indicators that women want to be approached by someone like him. You seem to get him because he has the same looks like you do so you are used to feeling valued by women in your environment. In your reply with him it seems that even you believe that looks and how women react to your looks is a big part of pulling women.

 

[Barrister]

People like @lost_blackbird can easily pull women but don't want to despite the fact he's getting IOIs all over the place or indicators that women want to be approached by someone like him. You seem to get him because he has the same looks like you do so you are used to feeling valued by women in your environment. In your reply with him it seems that even you believe that looks and how women react to your looks is a big part of pulling women.

I agree looks matter in being able to pull hot women. But the other point being made here, not by blackbird but by Robert, that I do NOT agree with, is that it is “very difficult”/“hard” to get sex. Period. It’s really not. And I believe I have been clear on that from the beginning. Banging a HB8+ generally means you are good looking or high SMV or both. But just getting sex? Anyone can do that with confidence and game.

 

[rjc149]

You and I are never going to see eye to eye. You’re from NJ/NYC I’m from the south. We would not even go after the same types of women. I might be misogynistic to you but now I know why you think I am. You’re surrounded by feminist and everything you do gets labeled misogynistic by them.

Your resentment of women has little to do with our geographic differences, or me being surrounded by feminists. Trust me, I'm surrounded by all types of people. Old-school New Yorkers do not have a reputation for feminism. I think this is yet another instance of you refusing accountability for your situation, preferring to blame it on something external and out of your control.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That sounds like a great slogan to put on an escort-ad.

It's the truth. There is a side of psychology that talks about the shadow where people who try and do these types of things like repress their natural urges can only do it for so long before the shadow comes out and basically refuses to be repressed any longer and can lead to some self-destructive behavior.

 

[SargeMaximus]

It's the truth. There is a side of psychology that talks about the shadow where people who try and do these types of things like repress their natural urges can only do it for so long before the shadow comes out and basically refuses to be repressed any longer and can lead to some self-destructive behavior.

Nice to see someone else knows about the shadow. It should be mandatory learning for any aspiring pua imo.

 

[lost_blackbird]

I don't have any desires per-se. I'm not interested in seeking women, or sex. As long as I'm earning something
I am content in whatever I'm doing. I have no drive to be rich or successful. I don't have any active hobbies
although I play a little online video gaming to stay in touch with a few friends I no longer live nearby otherwise
I wouldn't have much contact with them anymore as we live hundred of miles apart. I go to my friends bar from
time to time but stand alone and drink for a few hours and only talk to the staff in there who I already know.
Plenty of women there but I never ever approach as I have no drive to do so as the ultimate goal of that is
largely unappealing. For the most part I sleep, get up and go to work where I interact with as few people as
possible although there's not really much of a social element to my job and it's quite solitary work, then I come
home, cook something to eat, eat it and go to bed again. On my days off I clean, maintain or improve my house
in some way, do some washing and some food shopping and if it's a weekend day I'm off I'll go to my friends bar
for a few beers by myself in the evening, otherwise I'll just watch something on tv in my downtime or surf the internet
in a mixture of reading articles, a couple of forums or doing online shopping for stuff for my home. I spend a great deal
of my life saying nothing and living in pretty much total silence, I type more on forums than I say in real life.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I don't have any desires per-se. I'm not interested in seeking women, or sex. As long as I'm earning something
I am content in whatever I'm doing. I have no drive to be rich or successful. I don't have any active hobbies
although I play a little online video gaming to stay in touch with a few friends I no longer live nearby otherwise
I wouldn't have much contact with them anymore as we live hundred of miles apart. I go to my friends bar from
time to time but stand alone and drink for a few hours and only talk to the staff in there who I already know.
Plenty of women there but I never ever approach as I have no drive to do so as the ultimate goal of that is
largely unappealing. For the most part I sleep, get up and go to work where I interact with as few people as
possible although there's not really much of a social element to my job and it's quite solitary work, then I come
home, cook something to eat, eat it and go to bed again. On my days off I clean, maintain or improve my house
in some way, do some washing and some food shopping and if it's a weekend day I'm off I'll go to my friends bar
for a few beers by myself in the evening, otherwise I'll just watch something on tv in my downtime or surf the internet
in a mixture of reading articles, a couple of forums or doing online shopping for stuff for my home. I spend a great deal
of my life saying nothing and living in pretty much total silence, I type more on forums than I say in real life.

If you are happy with living that way then you do you...

To me, I would consider that wasting my life and what I would think of when I hear "Everyone dies but not many actually live"

 

[corrector]

It's the truth. There is a side of psychology that talks about the shadow where people who try and do these types of things like repress their natural urges can only do it for so long before the shadow comes out and basically refuses to be repressed any longer and can lead to some self-destructive behavior.

But I thought that seeking out sex, in any terms with anyone, or being a sex addict is in and of itself a self-destructive behaviour. You can expose yourself to STDs, demonic possession along with panic/anxiety attacks depending on the type of demon attacking you, etc....

 

[corrector]

I agree looks matter in being able to pull hot women. But the other point being made here, not by blackbird but by Robert, that I do NOT agree with, is that it is “very difficult”/“hard” to get sex. Period. It’s really not. And I believe I have been clear on that from the beginning. Banging a HB8+ generally means you are good looking or high SMV or both. But just getting sex? Anyone can do that with confidence and game.

Again, this is something you have to bracket as well. When people talk about sex here, they are talking about hb8+, maybe hb7+ and if hungry enough, hb6+, but definitely nothing lower. I don't think they have meeting a WARPIG off Tinder for anal sex in mind.

 

[corrector]

I don't have any desires per-se. I'm not interested in seeking women, or sex. As long as I'm earning something
I am content in whatever I'm doing. I have no drive to be rich or successful. I don't have any active hobbies
although I play a little online video gaming to stay in touch with a few friends I no longer live nearby otherwise
I wouldn't have much contact with them anymore as we live hundred of miles apart. I go to my friends bar from
time to time but stand alone and drink for a few hours and only talk to the staff in there who I already know.
Plenty of women there but I never ever approach as I have no drive to do so as the ultimate goal of that is
largely unappealing. For the most part I sleep, get up and go to work where I interact with as few people as
possible although there's not really much of a social element to my job and it's quite solitary work, then I come
home, cook something to eat, eat it and go to bed again. On my days off I clean, maintain or improve my house
in some way, do some washing and some food shopping and if it's a weekend day I'm off I'll go to my friends bar
for a few beers by myself in the evening, otherwise I'll just watch something on tv in my downtime or surf the internet
in a mixture of reading articles, a couple of forums or doing online shopping for stuff for my home. I spend a great deal
of my life saying nothing and living in pretty much total silence, I type more on forums than I say in real life.

Guess the woman are flat and have no personalities?

 

[Barrister]

Again, this is something you have to bracket as well. When people talk about sex here, they are talking about hb8+, maybe hb7+ and if hungry enough, hb6+, but definitely nothing lower. I don't think they have meeting a WARPIG off Tinder for anal sex in mind.

Okay - so then you agree that sex is not very difficult for men to get? Men just go after HB8 and above and strike out? Sounds like hedging.

 

[corrector]

Okay - so then you agree that sex is not very difficult for men to get? Men just go after HB8 and above and strike out? Sounds like hedging.

I leave that to the OP to confirm that, but that's what I believe they are saying.

 

[MatureDJ]

I have been in monk mode for almost 1 year now. During this time I completed my studies and got my dream job. But now after staying away from dating for so long, I am much happier and content with staying single that i dont feel like dating anymore. Is that normal? Or am i going crazy?

No, you are reaching the stage of life where the juice is no longer the squeeze; I certainly don't care to date anyone unless she has proven to me that she has strong interest. "A33hole Consulting" internet philosopher Aaron Clarey has discussed it.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

But I thought that seeking out sex, in any terms with anyone, or being a sex addict is in and of itself a self-destructive behaviour. You can expose yourself to STDs, demonic possession along with panic/anxiety attacks depending on the type of demon attacking you, etc....

Why do people always insist on either being at one extreme or the other on this forum?

Having a healthy sex life where you enjoy sex and have it regularly doesn't make you a sex addict. It means you aren't afraid of your sexuality.

Demonic possession? Come on man...what kind of crazy are you talking?

 

[FruitLoops]

Okay - so then you agree that sex is not very difficult for men to get? Men just go after HB8 and above and strike out? Sounds like hedging.

I would agree. Getting sex per se isnt hard. There are still some average looking women who are easy to bang. This is completely subjective opinion but i think if you are white male you have it much easier with immigrant females.

 

[lost_blackbird]

Guess the woman are flat and have no personalities?

I wouldn't know, they're just women in a bar, or women at work, or women at the supermarket
or women in the street. They're everywhere, I can see them, they can see me. That's where it starts
and ends. I don't care about how their day is going so I don't ask, I don't care what dress they wore
today so I don't mention it, I'm not bothered if I do or don't find them physically appealing so it too
goes by without a mention, couldn't care less about their hair, clothes or politics, not interested in
what they do for a living, couldn't give a sh1t about their kids if they have any. And here's the kicker,
I can't fake interest in those things just to get poon and the inevitable headaches that go with that.
If I have to interact, for example with a shop assistant or something like that, then I'm pleasant and
amiable to a fault so long as I'm not being bu11shi1tted in some way, I even flirt sometimes just to
make the interaction feel normal for them, or make a joke or two. But it's all superficial and done
so that I get what I want, whether that's served at the till or my insurance renewed, whatever.
Then I bounce and don't give them a second thought. I do see 'hot' girls from time to time but
experience has taught me that the better they look on the outside, the more insufferable and ugly
they are on the inside so I casually observe whatever it is about them I think is hot and then get on
my way and on with my day. Hell would have to freeze over thrice before I'd consider going over
and starting any kind of interaction or conversation. In my past every woman I've ever been with has
approached me first, every last one of them.

 

[DonJuanjr]

The usual line that's put about around here now is women of a lower smv think they are a couple of points higher than what they are due to them apparently having so many options and apparently being built up by the so many thirsty males...
I often think it sometimes is a projection from men who are not willing to date/sleep with their own smv and use this as an excuse or that they feel a sense of outrage that they still have to make an effort with lower smv women and they are just to arrogant to be willing to make that effort (even though they are of the same smv)

It is not a projection. Have you seen some of the demands by obese ogres on dating sites?

 

[RBK]

Man, I've been on this forum for a long time. Mostly a lurker. Some of you blackpill guys would rather whine about a problem than do anything to fix it. Last 6 pages is nothing but whining. This forum really went downhill the last few years.

Women should never be your life. Worry about THINGS you can actually fix. Can't control height so don't worry about it.

Sometimes you need a break from dating and women and that's fine. Some of you need some therapy.