Does "No Contact" really work?

[My Name is Nobody]

Nevermind

 

[reset]

At least you're honest with yourself. I was the same way. Thing is she did eventually try to make nice with me (like--a couple months later) but by that time I was already determined to move on. I thought about her ALL THE TIME, there was nothing else in my life but her even though I really tried to not think about her. But how could I not think about her when she went out of her way to pass MY DESK every day and make me feel like crap? I stayed away from her but she sought me out. Every day. EVERY DAY. She was relentless. And I just looked at my computer and listened to my iPod while the nightmare circus went on around me, and I turned up the volume to the degree that her artificial laughter would rise.

I just wanted it to stop. And when she started being nice it made me want to throw up because I knew it was all an act (it was). So somewhere deep down there was enough strength to refuse to be fooled by her niceness.

Not to get too heavy on you. I'm 99% sure this chick in my life was BPD so I don't know if less crazy chicks eventually give up. Making me miserable was her mission in life. It's a zillion times easier if you DON'T see them every day.

HOPEFULLY this will work itself out in a while for you.

But you can't respond to her little imaginary email you're thinking of if it ever happens.

THIS IS WHY people say don't get involved at work.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

At least you're honest with yourself. I was the same way. Thing is she did eventually try to make nice with me (like--a couple months later) but by that time I was already determined to move on. I thought about her ALL THE TIME, there was nothing else in my life but her even though I really tried to not think about her. But how could I not think about her when she went out of her way to pass MY DESK every day and make me feel like crap? I stayed away from her but she sought me out. Every day. EVERY DAY. She was relentless. And I just looked at my computer and listened to my iPod while the nightmare circus went on around me, and I turned up the volume to the degree that her artificial laughter would rise.

I just wanted it to stop. And when she started being nice it made me want to throw up because I knew it was all an act (it was). So somewhere deep down there was enough strength to refuse to be fooled by her niceness.

Not to get too heavy on you. I'm 99% sure this chick in my life was BPD so I don't know if less crazy chicks eventually give up. Making me miserable was her mission in life. It's a zillion times easier if you DON'T see them every day.

HOPEFULLY this will work itself out in a while for you.

But you can't respond to her little imaginary email you're thinking of if it ever happens.

THIS IS WHY people say don't get involved at work.

Did she do anything so crazy like throw you out in the middle of the night for no reason? I am scared of this woman now.. there's no telling what she could do..stab me... who knows.

 

[reset]

All we did was make out a few times. It didn't even get that far. I could tell she was a little nuts and I felt like she was using me so one day like a baby I told her I thought she was crazy and that she had led me on. This is pre-so suave days. This is actually how I got involved in this whole thing. Thus unleashing the wrath of a BPD AW and everything that entails.

Again, hopefully this girl is just acting like a bytch and not really nuts.

I feel for you dude.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

My uncle married a woman and one day he woke up in the middle of the night she was standing over him holding a butcher knife.

Meeting these types must run in the family...

 

[MikeYikes122]

I DO have a huge problem. If she called me up and was sorry for what she did I would be over there in a heartbeat. Not good! Not saying it's going to happen just sayin'...

All right MNIN, I quit posting on this thread because I was suspicious of you. Now I am pretty certain. I think you are a troll. If you aren't you have some major issues.

There is no way you are still freaking out about this. Just forget her and mentally force yourself to stop thinking about her.

When you first logged on to this site, you initially came to learn how to talk to chics and how to act around them. But along the way, you have to learn self-control and will power as well. That self-control is required for situations like the one you are in. I have a feeling you know that, on a logical level, you must cut this chic out of your life. But on an emotional level you keep drawing yourself back to her, partly out of a want for closure and partly because of your neediness. You're at the point where you must make a stand mentally and force yourself to quit thinking about her. If that includes not posting about her on SoSuave, do that as well. This whole situation is nothing to allow your ego to be bruised over. Every guy on this message board and in real life has done some sh!t they aren't proud of with the opposite sex. The key is to not stew over it, but to grow as a man from the experience and never let it happen again.

When people who are out of shape get into exercising, it usually seems easy to them at first, because it's not all that hard to stick to a diet and workout regimen in the first couple of weeks because they are motivated and seeing immediate results. But usually after about three weeks, the results begin taper off and motivation in turn begins to dwindle. It becomes a grind then to force yourself to diet and go to the gym. Self-control and will power become key at that point.

You're at that kind of fork in the road right now when it comes to women. You can either mentally force yourself to go down the path you know you should be taking, or you can succumb and continue to stew over this BPD and undo any progress you've made. Success with women is a lot like getting into shape. There's way more to dealing with chics than learning how to talk and act, just as a lot more than just lifting weights goes into getting into good shape. You have to learn inner game, and part of that is learning self-control and will power. Hopefully, you'll take everyone's advice.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

All right MNIN, I quit posting on this thread because I was suspicious of you. Now I am pretty certain. I think you are a troll. If you aren't you have some major issues.

There is no way you are still freaking out about this. Just forget her and mentally force yourself to stop thinking about her.

When you first logged on to this site, you initially came to learn how to talk to chics and how to act around them. But along the way, you have to learn self-control and will power as well. That self-control is required for situations like the one you are in. I have a feeling you know that, on a logical level, you must cut this chic out of your life. But on an emotional level you keep drawing yourself back to her, partly out of a want for closure and partly because of your neediness. You're at the point where you must make a stand mentally and force yourself to quit thinking about her. If that includes not posting about her on SoSuave, do that as well. This whole situation is nothing to allow your ego to be bruised over. Every guy on this message board and in real life has done some sh!t they aren't proud of with the opposite sex. The key is to not stew over it, but to grow as a man from the experience and never let it happen again.

When people who are out of shape get into exercising, it usually seems easy to them at first, because it's not all that hard to stick to a diet and workout regimen in the first couple of weeks because they are motivated and seeing immediate results. But usually after about three weeks, the results begin taper off and motivation in turn begins to dwindle. It becomes a grind then to force yourself to diet and go to the gym. Self-control and will power become key at that point.

You're at that kind of fork in the road right now when it comes to women. You can either mentally force yourself to go down the path you know you should be taking, or you can succumb and continue to stew over this BPD and undo any progress you've made. Success with women is a lot like getting into shape. There's way more to dealing with chics than learning how to talk and act, just as a lot more than just lifting weights goes into getting into good shape. You have to learn inner game, and part of that is learning self-control and will power. Hopefully, you'll take everyone's advice.

Chill out. If she called and begged for it sure I would still go shag her. Like you wouldn't. I have no other plates right now but I'm working on it. Not a troll, this is my life.

Also I sent Francisco a pic of her so he can confirm she's real.

And yes I do need to stop posting about her it delays getting over her. Thats why i locked the thread but screw it I don't care anymore keep it going. Seeing her everyday also delays getting over her but nothing I can do about that now.

 

[MikeYikes122]

Chill out. If she called and begged for it sure I would still go shag her. Like you wouldn't.

No, I wouldn't.

Anyway, I'm not the one who needs to "chill out". One might argue that you are the one who needs to chill out. Nothing was harsh or obnoxious about my response. You can read my previous posts. I don't ever come down hard on anyone.

You'll also probably see in my previous posts where I had freak outs like the one you're having right now. The smart thing is to force yourself to move on.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

No, I wouldn't.

Anyway, I'm not the one who needs to "chill out". One might argue that you are the one who needs to chill out. Nothing was harsh or obnoxious about my response. You can read my previous posts. I don't ever come down hard on anyone.

You'll also probably see in my previous posts where I had freak outs like the one you're having right now. The smart thing is to force yourself to move on.

You called me a troll. That warrants my "chill out" response. I'm not freaking out. I'm ignoring her completely. If I was still contacting her then yes, you could insult me all day but I am not doing that and I won't.

 

[Eddie417]

I've been out of here for a few weeks and come back to this? Man this is THE FUNNIEST THREAD I HAVE EVER SEEN IN HERE.

I would PAY to read this kind of stuff. Seriously.

MNIN - smart of you to leave this girl for some AFC guy. A DJ like yourself can't waste his time with the crazy ones. Props.:rockon:

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I've been out of here for a few weeks and come back to this? Man this is THE FUNNIEST THREAD I HAVE EVER SEEN IN HERE.

I would PAY to read this kind of stuff. Seriously.

MNIN - smart of you to leave this girl for some AFC guy. A DJ like yourself can't waste his time with the crazy ones. Props.:rockon:

Thanks. Yes I shouldn't even be posting about her but like you said it's fun and it passes time..

I am NOT ever contacting her again. I already lost her #.

If she chooses to contact me I will have fun with it. I don't hate her, she just has issues.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Chill out. If she called and begged for it sure I would still go shag her. Like you wouldn't. I have no other plates right now but I'm working on it. Not a troll, this is my life.

Also I sent Francisco a pic of her so he can confirm she's real.

And yes I do need to stop posting about her it delays getting over her. Thats why i locked the thread but screw it I don't care anymore keep it going. Seeing her everyday also delays getting over her but nothing I can do about that now.

She's real, she's cute, she ain't worth obsessing over. Sit back, feel good that you tapped it and move on. It's not the thread that's holding your back, thinking things like "If she called and begged for it sure I would still go shag her" is the thing that'll hold you back.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

I have decided if she contacts me again I am going to turn her down. I'll tell her she had her chance and I've moved on.

I've always wanted to do that to a woman like this. It would probably make her want me more than ever.

Not saying I think she will contact me, but just sayin'...Thanks for kicking some sense into me.

Going back to her after this would be a horrible move and it would go against everything this site stands for. I have to set a good example.

 

[Latinoman]

I have a feeling it was over after the first night with her when my ex got in her face and wanted to fight her. Also when we smoked weed (I got her to smoke too, her first time she ever saw pot she claims) really upset her. She said that was worse than what my ex did.

Listen...I have to be blunt. I have been holding back...but I must be blunt.

The ex- is NOT the reason why is over. If the ex- would have been the reason, then she would HAVE NEVER allowed you to go to her house on NYE to avoid issues with your ex-. So, stop using that as an excused.

The smoking pot either, because she still invited you to her house.

The TRUE issue here was that she found you attractive and after sleeping together the first time...something happened. Something that made her reconsider. But...she gave you the benefit of the doubt and allowed you to have sex a second time as most experience women know that very few men can do the deed correctly the first time they hook up with a particular woman. And guess what...something also happened the second time. To the point that she decided to LJBF on you. Maybe you talked to her to death...or you acted desperated...or you two were not "compatible" in bed..

So...stop blaming your ex- or pot and ACCEPT the fact your performance during or after the sexual act potentially made her reconsider.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

To the point that she decided to LJBF on you. Maybe you talked to her to death...or you acted desperated...or you two were not "compatible" in bed..

So...stop blaming your ex- or pot and ACCEPT the fact your performance during or after the sexual act potentially made her reconsider.

Actually she LJBF me right after the incident with the EX. She sent an email saying saying I am too complicated and "she is out and we can be friends". This was right after the incident. And stated the weed was worst than the ex. Just sayin'... Then she tells me she went on dates after that happened.

Then she came over one more time and that was it. I'm over it though, thanks for the input.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

As for my performance? Well she was a zombie and just laid there didn't do anything memorial. So her performance was severely lacking. I fvcked her pretty good the first time for over 3 hours and I didn't even bust a nut.. Not so good the 2nd time i admit. But she was pretty lame in the sack, pretty lame indeed.

 

[Latinoman]

As for my performance? Well she was a zombie and just laid there didn't do anything memorial. So her performance was severely lacking. I fvcked her pretty good the first time for over 3 hours and I didn't even bust a nut.. Not so good the 2nd time i admit. But she was pretty lame in the sack, pretty lame indeed.

I truly respect your honesty.

Forget about her. She is not worth of your time. Go take some dancing lessons...plenty of women go there.

 

[Mr. Me]

she was a zombie and just laid there didn't do anything memorial.

Memorial? You mean, like, she was dead in bed? Sorry. Couldn't resist.

Well, now that you're done with that zany, find someone less crazy.

I hear Britney Spear's available.

 

[My Name is Nobody]

Memorial? You mean, like, she was dead in bed? Sorry. Couldn't resist.

Well, now that you're done with that zany, find someone less crazy.

I hear Britney Spear's available.

Well the first time the only work she did was get on top for a little while. I did do her doggie style. But she was quiet except for short moans here and there nothing extreme. I didn't go down on her I felt she didn't deserve it. I did her for over 3 hours and I don't think the came. Probably all the anti psychotics she is on. She didn't shave down there either at least not bald. I had my loud rock music blasting the whole time. She now says she hated the music. Well say something woman. She liked it fine at the time.

But the next morning she told me how "sore" she was and smiled from ear to ear while she told me. Good luck finding another guy to give it to her that good.

The second time I didn't even care. I just wanted to bust a nut and be done with it. I probably should have done it better I do regret the second time.

God I hope she never finds this thread.

 

[JLR]

Like others have stated/asked: why are you so fixated? I'm not sure what you're trying to accomplish w/ this thread at this point...