Do you get mad when your plate tells you she is banging other guys?

[WC2]

Dropping a plate because she is spinning other men (or spinning ontop of other men) is perfectly fine and actually necessary.

Unless you like sticking you d!ck into a *** receptacle that you KNOW is a *** receptacle, it's usually a good idea to drop a chick like this.

With that said, getting mad over this is not perfectly fine. Just like you, she is deciding to spin other plates. Who knows why. Maybe she just isn't into you; maybe she wants strange d!ck; who knows?

There is nothing you can do about it except move on and spin others.

This is what separates the experienced from the inexperienced; the experienced will move on to other plates with no animosity, while the inexperienced will complain about it. They just can't understand that it IS what it IS.

I'd also like to add that just because a woman goes around having ONS with men or dates multiple men doesn't make her a wh0re. We'd be hypocrites to say that, as I know I've done the same.

 

[ketostix]

Dropping a plate because she is spinning other men (or spinning ontop of other men) is perfectly fine and actually necessary.

Unless you like sticking you d!ck into a *** receptacle that you KNOW is a *** receptacle, it's usually a good idea to drop a chick like this.

With that said, getting mad over this is not perfectly fine. Just like you, she is deciding to spin other plates. Who knows why. Maybe she just isn't into you; maybe she wants strange d!ck; who knows?

There is nothing you can do about it except move on and spin others.

Well she was deceptive abiout her plate spinning. Vlad was not spinning plates. He has an expectation that he's having exclusive sex with a girl if that's what she is telling him.

This is what separates the experienced from the inexperienced; the experienced will move on to other plates with no animosity, while the inexperienced will complain about it. They just can't understand that it IS what it IS.

I'd also like to add that just because a woman goes around having ONS with men or dates multiple men doesn't make her a wh0re. We'd be hypocrites to say that, as I know I've done the same.

That is the definition of a hor. It's not hypocritical at all to hold a woman to a different standard than a man. The reasoning is even as a man you stop spinning plates she's still going to be a hor. What a man does has nothing to do with what a woman is doing.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Alright, I have realized I haven't won anything. And I made huge mistakes acting like a psycho with this girl showing her jealousy and anger.

So in order to salvage what I can for my own benefit, I contacted her today. For my own benefit I mean if this whole relationship falls apart because I acted like a AFC (jealous, angry, posessive) then it will haunt me later.

So I leveled with her in the message and told her I dont own her, we aren't exclusive so I'm not mad about her banging that guy. I told her if she forgets my behavior 100 percent I'll forgive her 100 percent.

She said "we'll talk about it tomorrow".... she still needs me. She can't cut me off from her life completely this is obvious. Because when those other guys dump her who is she crawling back to? Yours truly. That thought pisses me off actually.

She is supposed to come over tomorrow. I feel like banging her up the ass busting in her face and then never calling her again. What do ya think?

 

[bukowski_merit]

That is the definition of a hor.

Actually the definition of a hor will change from guy to guy... i'd probably consider a girl a hor if she had $ex with 2+ guys in one day.... but then again - some couples swing (i don't)... so im not sure i'd consider her a hor if she had $ex with her bf/husband, and then with his permission had $ex with another guy while he banged another girl...

i'd also consider a girl a hor if she had $ex with like 30+ guys... but what if 28 of those guys were in the summertime 6 years ago? i probably wouldn't consider her one anymore... but some guys would... even if it was 30 years ago...

i can play the "would you consider a girl a hor if..." game... and can guarentee you'd get a wide variety of answers as to which guys consider a girl a hor and for what...

now if course the real def of hor is someone who has $ex for money... which i think everyone would agree - that's a hor!

but for the purposes of this - i think most people call hors and s!uts the same thing... so the definition of a s!ut is - "a dirty untidy woman".... or "Refers to a sexually promiscuous person, usually female. One who engages in sexual activity with a large number of persons ......"

again "large number" and "promiscuous" is going to change from person to person...

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as far as the OP.... you're fighting an uphill battle here... i see you playing child games... and then trying to use logic with this girl... on top of that you confess to her that you're doing stuff just to bother her... all these things will make her lose attraction to you...

yeah, she seems like a psycho... but even psychos will lose attraction to a man who seems like a psycho right back to them...

your best bet would be to start over fresh with a new girl and forget this one... but you don't seem like the type who cares what his best bet is.... so... all i can say is... good luck....

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

as far as the OP.... you're fighting an uphill battle here... i see you playing child games... and then trying to use logic with this girl... on top of that you confess to her that you're doing stuff just to bother her... all these things will make her lose attraction to you...

yeah, she seems like a psycho... but even psychos will lose attraction to a man who seems like a psycho right back to them...

your best bet would be to start over fresh with a new girl and forget this one... but you don't seem like the type who cares what his best bet is.... so... all i can say is... good luck....

I agree. that's what I'm going to do. I just don't want this relationship to end with me acting like an AFC.

I said in the other post she is coming over tomorrow night she confirmed that with me just now. She thinks I love her and all that garbage but I don't think I could ever love this woman after she has confirmed she is a lying piece of trash. Maybe before when she seemed innocent and I was the only one but never now.

I was thinking about banging her up the poop shoot and never calling her again. What do ya think?

Oh yeah, and if the subject of being exclusive comes up I'm going to tell her I dont think she's ready yet and we'll see what happens.

Then the frame is back in my favor.

 

[DonGorgon]

no cause i know she is a ho and i have other girls.. cause we are human and we F around and lie about it..lol

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

no cause i know she is a ho and i have other girls.. cause we are human and we F around and lie about it..lol

I have realized that I only get jealous and possessive after I've been drinking. All the jealous incidents with this girl happened when I'm drunk so yep I acted like a big a-hole.

But she was a bigger a-hole for sneaking around behind my back banging this guy and pretending that she wasn't. I'd rather her tell me the truth than sneak around and lie.

I think it is funny as hell this guy dumped her a$$ and now she feels like sh!t. I might as well bang her again, because if I don't she'll just go ho around even more.

So when she comes over tonight I'll forgive her on the condition she forgives me for all my AFC behavior. And then when she leaves in the morning I will know she is disqualified for a LTR and I will pursue other plates and keep this one on the backburner.

I wonder if she'll be the one pushing to be exclusive now since she is all butthurt over being dumped.

 

[Son of anarchy]

So when she comes over tonight I'll forgive her on the condition she forgives me for all my AFC behavior.

So you use an afc behavior as asking her forgiveness,to have her forgiving your afc behaviour?
Well we are lucky you never kicked her,i wonder how would you settle it.

 

[drak_ool]

Vlad you are hopeless, you have no power over your woman because you have no power over yourself, you have no self control.

this girl has you by the balls. If she stops talking to you, goes on a fvcking spree for 10 days and just eats d.ick from any guy she can find, then comes back to you, you will take her back!

You're trying to rationalize this as teaching her a lesson, earning power over her, and many other ways, but the truth is: she is your only source of pvssy and you're afraid if you let her go, you won't get another one for a WHILE.

And she can sense that, which make all the little games you play with her ineffective. Like I said, a dirty hor has you by the balls, you know it, yet you don't have enough pride and self control to snap out of it...

ARE YOU A MAN OR ARE YOU A SLAVE?

 

[EFFORT]

Wow this is a mess. Vlad is deep in the fog and i don't think anything we say can get him out at this point, but i'll try.

Vlad you have oneitis bad. The standard answer people give is to have sex with a bunch of other women, which is right. But that advice falls short because you would be having sex with other women right now if you could. So basically you have to take your current needy, negative, emotional, depressed, jealous (incredibly unattractive) self out and some how create new sexual experiences (hard) ....all while you already have a vagina ready to spread legs for you (easy). This is why you'll see guys with oneitis lingering in and out of it for years. They'll try to pull away and maybe make progress but then the girl gives them vagina and there caught up again.

Sounds drastic but the most effective way I've seen people/myself crack oneitis is leaving town for awhile (3+months, pref an airplane flight distance away) and while gone building up a new life with hobbies,friends, new chicks,and not having any contact what so ever with the oneitis chick. This is ideal and i know not many people can just pack up and leave but if your younger you probably can, talk to friends that live in different places/family explain the situation, and you may very well have a new life changing experience infront of you ...traveling is amazing.

You probably won't do the above but thought I'd just mention it. But regardless of where you are you still need to build a lifestyle for yourself , this will get you over your oneitis but it'll take time. And no contacting her/seeing her fight the urge!!!

Lifestyle

Join a Gym

Play some sort of sport Basketball,Soccer,Football,Baseball,Softball

Practice a Martial art

Learn to play a musical instrument and when you get good start a band and jam

Join PAIR on fastseduction.com/ and go out with guys in your area (will meet interesting people sometimes but just go with it)...can also look at the wing man forum here

Go out Thurs/Fri/Sat nights with old friends/new friends/alone and talk to women and men while out just be social

Make a profile on all the free online dating sites (some will say its lame but whatever, just do it nothing to lose)

Watch/Listen to the Blue Print Real Social Dynamics

Watch/Listen Flawless Natural Game Real Social Dynamics

Watch/Listen Jeffy Show Real Social Dynamics

and also read this http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=90482 learn what plate theory really is

and read this http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=162396

 

[Nutz]

She is the only girl I care about and I'm not banging others right now. But what does that have to do with anything really?

It has everything to do with it. You're coming across as needy and clingy and it's impinging on her freedom to get other c0ck. That's why she dropped you from her lineup. In short, you have oneitis. Spinning multiple plates keeps your sexual neediness in line because you're getting ass elsewhere so what she does on her own doesn't bother you. It's like a subtextual game of oneupsmanship, and so long as the guy feels he's getting more plan than the women we can some how justify them getting more c0ck and not bothering us.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Vlad, listen to me now.

Women let their emotions rule their logic. This means the decisions they make can be very wrong, yet they will never admit it because it feels so right to them. When it comes time for a woman to defend her decision, she will twist and bend logic until it supports that decision.

Like a woman, every decision you've made so far in this thread was ruled by an emotion and explained by logic you think supports your decision. Each time you decide to do something to teach her a lesson, get even or try to fix it, you are doing it to feel better and you are twisting DJ logic to explain and support your decisions.

Listen to yourself:



^^ This is AFC decision making ruled by emotion.



^^ This is DJ logic twisted into supporting your emotional, AFC decision making.

You are not thinking like a man.

You are thinking like a woman.

Men who think like women never act like men. Men who do not act like men never gain the love or respect of women.

And that's all there is to it.

It's time for you to act like a man and decide to cut off all contact with this girl. You do not tell her it's over. You do not tell her you're cutting her off. You just do it. No second chances, even when they come crawling back. That's what a real man does.

What are you, Vlad?

I agree I do need to cut her off but it's too late she's going to be over here in a few hours unless she flakes.

How do I handle it when we start talking about all the drama and her banging other guys and my AFC behavior?

I want to fix this somehow if thats possible. She's vulnerable now because the other guy hurt her so I can get the frame back.

 

[EFFORT]

Vlad is deep in the fog and i don't think anything we say can get him out at this point

unfortunately looks like this holds true

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

I think it's finally over... she hasn't shown up tonight and she was supposed to be here 2 hours ago.

I called her once and she bounced the call.... I spoke to her on the phone last night and she said she was coming.

I dont know what kind of sick game she is playing but this really is the last straw. She stood my ass up so she can go to hell and if I ever go back to her after this somebody better shoot me in the head.

I guess she could still show since it's only 9pm but I am not betting on it. Only a coward would make plans the night before and then not give any explanation for not showing up.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

She just sent me a text saying she had family drama and that's the reason she stood me up.

I replied to her Good luck. Lose my # because I already lost yours.

 

[Mr_rogers]

She just sent me a text saying she had family drama and that's the reason she stood me up.

I replied to her Good luck. Lose my # because I already lost yours.

Hopefully you're serious this time.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Hopefully you're serious this time.

She replied one more time trying to explain herself but I just deleted it. I don't even remember what she said but it wasn't anything great. Something about her being really stressed out and some family issues. I don't believe a single word that spews from her lying mouth. She has lied so many times in just 2 months of dating it is not even worth thinking about. She is a pathological liar.

Whatever she said doesn't matter. She was supposed to be here and I didn't even get a call with a reason why she didn't make it.

I really did lose her # and I never plan on contacting her again. Just for sh!ts and giggles it will be interesting to see if she starts calling... but that's not important. It's time to move on away from this psycho and it's VERY important I keep my word to MYSELF that I lose her # and never contact her.

 

[Mr_rogers]

She replied one more time trying to explain herself but I just deleted it. I don't even remember what she said but it wasn't anything great. Something about her being really stressed out and some family issues. I don't believe a single word that spews from her lying mouth. She has lied so many times in just 2 months of dating it is not even worth thinking about. She is a pathological liar.

Whatever she said doesn't matter. She was supposed to be here and I didn't even get a call with a reason why she didn't make it.

I really did lose her # and I never plan on contacting her again. Just for sh!ts and giggles it will be interesting to see if she starts calling... but that's not important. It's time to move on away from this psycho and it's VERY important I keep my word to MYSELF that I lose her # and never contact her.

Good man. Sounds like you're seeing clearly again. :rockon:

 

[Kal0051]

She is a pathological liar.

all women are pathological liars, the most annoying ones are the ones that will stick to their lie no matter what (or actually believe their lie is the truth). Like a girl telling you that she really likes you but she always has excuses for flaking or sucking on some other guys ****.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Vlad, listen to me now.

Women let their emotions rule their logic. This means the decisions they make can be very wrong, yet they will never admit it because it feels so right to them. When it comes time for a woman to defend her decision, she will twist and bend logic until it supports that decision.

Like a woman, every decision you've made so far in this thread was ruled by an emotion and explained by logic you think supports your decision. Each time you decide to do something to teach her a lesson, get even or try to fix it, you are doing it to feel better and you are twisting DJ logic to explain and support your decisions.

Listen to yourself:



^^ This is AFC decision making ruled by emotion.



^^ This is DJ logic twisted into supporting your emotional, AFC decision making.

You are not thinking like a man.

You are thinking like a woman.

Men who think like women never act like men. Men who do not act like men never gain the love or respect of women.

And that's all there is to it.

It's time for you to act like a man and decide to cut off all contact with this girl. You do not tell her it's over. You do not tell her you're cutting her off. You just do it. No second chances, even when they come crawling back. That's what a real man does.

What are you, Vlad?

I'm cutting her off starting now. I'm done with the woman. I won't reply to her or take her calls.