Do you get mad when your plate tells you she is banging other guys?

[Vlad the Impaler]

This chick owns you. It's kind of sad when you think about it.

It's true. I can't snap out of it. And I just screwed up again by texting her. She said "ttu later ok?" Then I probably will never hear from her again. I set my own trap and stepped in it.

She's probably getting pounded by some dude while she was texting me back.

I have to get rid of this woman and I feel good about it for awhile, but I always change my mind. I accused her of being a ho last night in the chat, and I honestly think she's going to come over?

The game is driving me mad! I'm gonna end up in a mental ward.

EDIT: Well she just texted saying shes with her bro again so I guess she is still cool even after I called her a ho last night. Maybe I am overreacting. She's probably gonna show up later tonight.

I'm very surprised she hasn't dropped me because I have symped a couple times. I have acted angry and jealous and I've lost the frame and given her the power.

She out played me and now I am her slave.

I'm screwed.

 

[Jerry Maguire]

Vlad, you need to re evaluate your inner game.
Read some good religion/philosophy/game books

Stop listening to Sosuave opinions so much...
Figure yourself out, be sure of yourself, then try "spinning some plates"

 

[Mr_rogers]

Jesus dude, this isn't the end of the world. Quit wallowing in misery. You've developed oneitis for this chick, so start hanging out with other women and cut off contact with this girl until your head is screwed on right again.

 

[Kal0051]

Sosuave needs a mature philosophy if it advocates "spinning plates" then gets annoyed when a "plate" spins her own plates :L

lol, yeah I noticed that a lot of guys here like that. It's ok when they do it but how dare she do it to them (nice double standard ). And then they drop her when they find out she's seeing other guys, which doesn't even matter because she probably doesn't care all that much (she might be annoyed for a bit but she'll eventually forget about it, sooner or later -- my guess would be sooner).

So for all the guys out there who thinks every guy should be spinning plates, don't be surprised when one of the girls your seeing is doing the exact same thing. Actually assume that every girl your spinning is seeing other guys, because there's a good chance that they are.

Hopefully when guys get what I wrote above then we won't see any threads like this one. And no offense to the OP meant.

 

[drak_ool]

She is the only girl I care about and I'm not banging others right now.

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If that is what this plate spinning theory has come to I want nothing to do with it.

Vlad this is exactly your problem: YOU ARE NOT SPINNING PLATES!

So before talking about HOW to spin plates, take a look at what it actually means: you are sexually involved with multiple women, on any given night you could be getting ass from any of them. Sure, you can have a top plate, who you see more often than the others, but you still need to be fvcking other girls.

Why does this work? You never spend too much time with one chick, and, more importantly, when you are not with chick A, you are with chick B, C or D, or you're trying to meet up with another chick, etc... so you don't spend your time thinking about chick A constantly.

In your situation, you were with chick A all the time, she was your only source of pvssy, the more you thought about her, the more you liked her (shyt man, you even mentioned marriage!), and the more you liked her the more she had you by the balls.

 

[Vlad the 1mpaler]

Vlad this is exactly your problem: YOU ARE NOT SPINNING PLATES!

So before talking about HOW to spin plates, take a look at what it actually means: you are sexually involved with multiple women, on any given night you could be getting ass from any of them. Sure, you can have a top plate, who you see more often than the others, but you still need to be fvcking other girls.

Why does this work? You never spend too much time with one chick, and, more importantly, when you are not with chick A, you are with chick B, C or D, or you're trying to meet up with another chick, etc... so you don't spend your time thinking about chick A constantly.

In your situation, you were with chick A all the time, she was your only source of pvssy, the more you thought about her, the more you liked her (shyt man, you even mentioned marriage!), and the more you liked her the more she had you by the balls.

I have tried to spin plates many times and I am terrible at it. I hook up with a girl, then go to the next girl and it just doesn't work for me. For some reason I like focusing on one girl at a time.

I am too honest for plate spinning. I hate lying and I am terrible at it. Whenever I lie I get a sh!tty grin on my face and everyone knows its a lie. When I lie the woman knows it. And they always ask about other girls.

It leads to disaster with my personality. I dont think plate spinning is for everyone and I know it's how to avoid oneitis but if you really like a girl whats the difference? I'll always like my top plate the best and think about her when I'm with the other ones.

And with diseases and everything out there, I'm not sure I want to be banging multiple girls. I just want to tame one girl i like and be happy.

 

[Kal0051]

I have tried to spin plates many times and I am terrible at it. I hook up with a girl, then go to the next girl and it just doesn't work for me. For some reason I like focusing on one girl at a time.

it seems that some guys just don't have the ability to spin plates.

 

[drak_ool]

I'll always like my top plate the best and think about her when I'm with the other ones.

Look, I understand that you can like one girl way more than the others. But that is exactly where plate spinning comes in the picture. It helps you keep in touch with reality. It helps you not lose your head over one chick. It helps you stay cool headed when judging her behavior. And it helps for a better relationship with the girl, because you don't come off as needy, you give her more space, etc...

After some time passes by, if your feelings for her keep getting stronger, if you don't see any red flags, if she proves to you that she really cares for you, then you can drop the other plates and start a serious relationship.

But if you start serious right away, so many things can (and will) go wrong.

Everybody can spin plates. If you have enough game and a healthy sex drive, you can do it too. I don't know what's up with your defeatist attitude?!?! You can always find a girl who's hotter, smarter, has bigger boobs, has different hair, is freakier in bed, has different eyes, fvcks better, or watever else turns you on, than your one-itis.

The only question is, will you have the balls to go out and do it, or will you keep whining on sosuave?

 

[jafyk]

Well, as someone explained to me here maybe Rollo or somebody else. The person said spinning plates is seeing more than one girl at the same time but that it doesn't necessarily mean sleeping with all of them. He also said that the point of spinning plates is that it helps some guys develop confidence and not just keep them hooked on one woman which can make a guy seem needy.
I think this reasoning seems fair.
However, what I think most people here believe is that it's ok to fvck all the plates you're spinning even if it means lying and deceiving them. While it's ok for guys to spin plates women can't or shouldn't. If they are found out they are hoes etc (any wonder we have cheating women, lesbians and feminists) because of these double standards. Vlad I can relate to you. I'd like to spin plates(doesn't have to be fvking involved) but have one woman I'm serious with because it shows more focus and it's more manageable. Well, that's my 2 cents.

 

[drak_ool]

However, what I think most people here believe is that it's ok to fvck all the plates you're spinning even if it means lying and deceiving them. While it's ok for guys to spin plates women can't or shouldn't.

I use the "don't ask/don't tell" principle. I won't ask my women what they are doing when they're not with me as long as they don't ask me. If they bring up the topic, I usually brush it aside with a funny comment. If they insist, I tell them we are not exclusive, and what I do when she's not around is none of her business.

I'd like to think that I give my women what they want, so they don't need to get it from somebody else. But if they do, that's ok, as long as I do the same!

no double standards here

 

[Son of anarchy]

I use the "don't ask/don't tell" principle. I won't ask my women what they are doing when they're not with me as long as they don't ask me. If they bring up the topic, I usually brush it aside with a funny comment. If they insist, I tell them we are not exclusive, and what I do when she's not around is none of her business.

I'd like to think that I give my women what they want, so they don't need to get it from somebody else. But if they do, that's ok, as long as I do the same!

no double standards here

I think this is the best solution.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

I use the "don't ask/don't tell" principle. I won't ask my women what they are doing when they're not with me as long as they don't ask me. If they bring up the topic, I usually brush it aside with a funny comment. If they insist, I tell them we are not exclusive, and what I do when she's not around is none of her business.

I'd like to think that I give my women what they want, so they don't need to get it from somebody else. But if they do, that's ok, as long as I do the same!

no double standards here

If a girl really likes you and you give her that "its none of her business" line I can't see how she will just accept that answer. She will keep prying until she gets the truth.

 

[Joe Stud]

Vlad, for what it's worth, I have been there before. I feel your pain. It's kinda like when you see a guy who's stopped on the side of the road, receiving a speeding ticket. you think to yourself "there, but for the grace of God, go I". So I can understand it. Take a little break, go out with the guys, sarge some new Hb's. Leave your cell at home. Regroup.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Vlad, for what it's worth, I have been there before. I feel your pain. It's kinda like when you see a guy who's stopped on the side of the road, receiving a speeding ticket. you think to yourself "there, but for the grace of God, go I". So I can understand it. Take a little break, go out with the guys, sarge some new Hb's. Leave your cell at home. Regroup.

I'm going to end the pain when I see her. I'm telling her to stop seeing other guys or I won't deal with her anymore. If I have to tell her I wont bang other girls so be it. I know she will say yes. Then I will monitor her behavior to see any signs of cheating.

I'm going to tell her if she cheats I will go bang my ex who is begging me to come back.

 

[Son of anarchy]

I'm going to end the pain when I see her. I'm telling her to stop seeing other guys or I won't deal with her anymore. If I have to tell her I wont bang other girls so be it. I know she will say yes. Then I will monitor her behavior to see any signs of cheating.

I'm going to tell her if she cheats I will go bang my ex who is begging me to come back.

You cant try,but it wont work for me Vlad.
Usually requests or ultimatums get the opposite effect,you should try an other way like make her so interested in you to be uninterested to others.
And also she can think that you feel something special for her so you're not anymore a challenge,and we know what happen usually.

 

[SleepyRangerMedic82D]

Vlad,

Dude you are totally emotionally attached to this woman. Like I said in a previous post, she WAS A PLATE and then you actually caught feelings for her. All I can tell you is that you need to get out of this cycle.

I honestly doubt she knows what she is doing to you. Well, not at first but your desperation now gives her all the power and the ball is totally in her court.

IF I WERE YOU, I would step back and not text her for a few days. Just chill, seriously, it is a woman.

To the "DJ's".. Most of you have this weird complex where you are allowed to hook up with as many girls as you want, but as soon as one of them grabs another guy, you all get super territorial. You can't expect her not to unless you all are exclusive.

Bottom line.. You can't be mad at her..

 

[drak_ool]

If a girl really likes you and you give her that "its none of her business" line I can't see how she will just accept that answer. She will keep prying until she gets the truth.

If you ve been working a girl the right way, she will accept anything from you...

Sure, she might bust your balls about it, but if you set up the frame right you will manage to always turn it into a joke, always evade her questions.

Maybe after you tell her it s none of her business when she gets too insisting, she won't talk to you for a few days. But if you have set the right frame, then she ll eventually come back to you, apologizing,etc.

In your situation, it seems like the girl has the power not you...

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

1) Any woman who spins her own plates after she sleeps with you instead of fvcking just you, should be dropped from your rotation because she will soon do that to you anyway. Her interests in you aren't as high as they were before and now you got to chase her a bit more and make fvcking (mating) plans around her fvcking (mating) schedule? no thanks.

I was thinking about this today, and could it be that she made up the fact she banged another guy to make me jealous and want to go exclusive with her? If she did make it up it worked and I am falling right into her trap. This girl knows how to play guys. She has the "I can get what I want" attitude.

It did make me jealous and I'm about to lay down the law that she can't bang other dudes and ofcourse that will mean I supposedly cant bang other chics.

I know she is in a hurry to get into a real relationship and she will do whatever it takes to get into one. And she is also worried I'm a player and will dump her. She has expressed these concerns to me.

She knows I cant be mad if she says she banged another dude because I never once expressed to her I care what she does when I'm not around.

 

[goodfoot]

I was thinking about this today, and could it be that she made up the fact she banged another guy to make me jealous and want to go exclusive with her? If she did make it up it worked and I am falling right into her trap. This girl knows how to play guys. She has the "I can get what I want" attitude.

I think you are thinking about this girl so much you're going crazy. Even if she made it up, that doesn't mean she won't do it eventually.

It did make me jealous and I'm about to lay down the law that she can't bang other dudes and ofcourse that will mean I supposedly cant bang other chics.

But you aren't banging other chicks.

I know she is in a hurry to get into a real relationship and she will do whatever it takes to get into one. And she is also worried I'm a player and will dump her. She has expressed these concerns to me.

She knows I cant be mad if she says she banged another dude because I never once expressed to her I care what she does when I'm not around.

So you want an exclusive relationship, and she wants an exclusive relationship. Why are you mad at her again?

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

I think you are thinking about this girl so much you're going crazy. Even if she made it up, that doesn't mean she won't do it eventually.



But you aren't banging other chicks.



So you want an exclusive relationship, and she wants an exclusive relationship. Why are you mad at her again?

I'm not mad at her. I just have realized she is playing my a$$ like a fiddle and all along I thought I was in charge. But this girl knows the game better than I do.

The good news is, I havent contacted her at all today and she is sitting online in the messenger right now. She is probably expecting me to get online and talk to her but it's not going to happen.

I was just wondering if she could have made up that story about the other guy to make me commit to her sooner? Because it is a good way to make me get jealous and want to commit.