Do you get mad when your plate tells you she is banging other guys?

[Vlad the Impaler]

Let's say you are seeing a plate and you catch some feelings for her and then she tells you that YOU are just a plate and she has been banging other guys behind your back.

She has been trying to hide the fact she is banging other dudes but one night she admits it.

Could you deal with this girl if she was your top plate? I thought I could deal with it and pretend I don't care she is banging other guys. But then she tells me she is going someplace and I immediately get paranoid she is banging a guy there. And she probably is. Then she wants to come over and kiss me with those lips?

Hell nah, I can't deal. I gotta get rid of her. Maybe plate spinning isnt for me. I just want a girl who wants only me and I would like to only want her too.

Would you guys be able to deal with this or launch?

 

[worship]

I just want a girl who wants only me and I would like to only want her too.

You are setting yourself up to be hurt in this world with that mindset.

And yes I think it is a primitive reaction when someone you are involved with has sex with another guy to get angry/paranoid. You have to learn to suppress that and not show it.

What's the solution? Spin some more plates and you'll forget it about it, she'll likely come running back anyway.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

I would usually ask her to be exclusive since I like her alot, but even if I did that and she accepted I would be paranoid she is cheating.

We had plans for the morning and then she flaked to make it in the evening. We had plans for the 4th and she just tells me she cant hang out because her girlfriend just got dumped.

I know her past, and I know she has been slutty and she has low self esteem and she has been burned and hurt many times.

I got into the chat with her tonight and I really let her have it. It started out good and then I told her I can see right through her and her stupid games. I told her she doesnt need to ho herself out she is better than that. I asked her if she thinks her p/ssy is the only thing she thinks she is good for?

She has done nothing for me in 2 months except spread her legs. I asked her how can you expect me to give you a relationship when you are running around banging guys behind my back? I told her I care for her alot.

Then she said she has to go to bed. She bailed on the convo saying she's "not that type of girl and I'm sorry you think that" and she left without answering any of my questions. (typical).

The last thing she said to me was "f--- you"


What do you think about me confronting her like that?

Keep in mind this girl said she would marry me if I asked.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

You are setting yourself up to be hurt in this world with that mindset.

And yes I think it is a primitive reaction when someone you are involved with has sex with another guy to get angry/paranoid. You have to learn to suppress that and not show it.

What's the solution? Spin some more plates and you'll forget it about it, she'll likely come running back anyway.

I dont even want to be involved with a woman who bangs multiple guys. It makes me sick. The thought of her sucking a d!ck and then kissing my lips. What is more gross than that?

Screw spinning plates.

 

[909pua]

I would usually ask her to be exclusive since I like her alot, but even if I did that and she accepted I would be paranoid she is cheating.

We had plans for the morning and then she flaked to make it in the evening. We had plans for the 4th and she just tells me she cant hang out because her girlfriend just got dumped.

I know her past, and I know she has been slutty and she has low self esteem and she has been burned and hurt many times.

I got into the chat with her tonight and I really let her have it. It started out good and then I told her I can see right through her and her stupid games. I told her she doesnt need to ho herself out she is better than that. I asked her if she thinks her p/ssy is the only thing she thinks she is good for?

She has done nothing for me in 2 months except spread her legs. I asked her how can you expect me to give you a relationship when you are running around banging guys behind my back? I told her I care for her alot.

Then she said she has to go to bed. She bailed on the convo saying she's "not that type of girl and I'm sorry you think that" and she left without answering any of my questions. (typical).

The last thing she said to me was "f--- you"


What do you think about me confronting her like that?

Keep in mind this girl said she would marry me if I asked.

my take on this is somebody elses "d_i_ck is better than yours..you should have never showed her that it affected you, now she has a reason to stop talking to you...

but by all means, whether you act like an AFC or not, if you have a good d ick she will come back, but at that point, she'll be considered a trick

 

[drak_ool]

Vlad, what do you mean exactly by "spinning plates"? how many other chicks besides this one do you bang on a regular basis?

From the sound of things, it seems like this is your only chick...

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Vlad, what do you mean exactly by "spinning plates"? how many other chicks besides this one do you bang on a regular basis?

From the sound of things, it seems like this is your only chick...

She is the only girl I care about and I'm not banging others right now. But what does that have to do with anything really?

Sure, it makes me like this girl a little more but what about her behavior? Banging god knows how many guys, pretending like she isn't.

I mean, you guys would keep a girl like this in your rotation? If she sucks a d!ck and then comes over to kiss your lips you are cool with it just because you are spinning plates?

If that is what this plate spinning theory has come to I want nothing to do with it.

 

[WaterTiger]

This is EXACTLY what spinning plates means. It means you are NOT exclusive to one girl, but she isn't exclusive to you either! You have one of three choices:

1- Find more girls to have sex with then this won't bother you so much.
2- Dump this girl & find another
3- Enter an exclusive relationship with this girl (NOT advised because of her past history)

 

[ketostix]

There are girls who fvck only one guy at a time. While they are single they might get into a a few ONS or short flings but once they starting having sex regular with a guy they cut the rest off. They might only stay exclusive for a few weeks or a few months before they branch swing, but as long as they are regularly fvcking one guy they aren't receiving it from others. You just need to find a girl who isn't as much a hor, or is more into you.

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

This is EXACTLY what spinning plates means. It means you are NOT exclusive to one girl, but she isn't exclusive to you either! You have one of three choices:

1- Find more girls to have sex with then this won't bother you so much.
2- Dump this girl & find another
3- Enter an exclusive relationship with this girl (NOT advised because of her past history)

Answer the question.

You are ok if your top plate sucks a d!ck and then comes over and kisses you on the lips?

My answer to this is no, I am not OK with it. It would bother me more than being single and lonely.

Therefore spinning plates is not for me... or maybe I'm way off... what is it?

 

[worship]

Answer the question.

You are ok if your top plate sucks a d!ck and then comes over and kisses you on the lips?

My answer to this is no, I am not OK with it. It would bother me more than being single and lonely.

Therefore spinning plates is not for me... or maybe I'm way off... what is it?

What the hell is wrong with you?

If you have problems with girls ****ing other guys then go find yourself some ugly fat virgin, will that make you happy?

It's not like these girls are sucking some guys d1ck in front of you then shoving their *** filled mouth into yours 10 seconds later (or are they? heh).

 

[Willis]

^^^^i dont care if it was 10seconds or 10years..why would you want to kiss a b!tch knowin or not knowing if she been out there giving top...
Alright
First- it should never bother you that one of your shortys is ****i other guys cuz thats what humans do,,,men fVck women and women **** men this is one of the things we been put on earth to do...if yo had more girls your were pounding you wouldnt really give a damn who she was sexin...

Second- i used to think well i only want a girl that only wants me and i only want her...smh...that dont exist..there is always someone out there that you gonna wanna fvck an your girl is gonna wanna fvck and probaly will..if she isnt fvcking somebody already..so keep that in mind...

what always help me is not getting attached to anyone and or any girl..and jus because your and the chick has sex dont mean she loves you or feel the same way you feel in terms of you wanting a relationship and all that other b.s.

and last I with you on the whole di<ksucking thing and kissing a harlot,,you dont know where her mouth been last and thats one of the reasons i dont kiss or eat pvssy at all because i know somedodys d!ck been in there and im not puttin my mouth were ****s been at...

 

[horaholic]

Its definitely not good for you if you arent banging anyone else, and she is. That will eat you up. The whole point behind spinning plates is that you have multiple women, and if one is causing headaches, you drop her, and go to the next ones house and bang her. The more chicks you're banging, the less time you'll spend with each one, and the less feelings you'll get. You could always tell her that you arent banging anyone else, and you dont want her to either, but still wont call it a relationship. I did that for a year with a chick.

What you should do, if its not an exclusive thing, is only keep plates around that are at least less likely to hor around.

 

[SleepyRangerMedic82D]

Vlad,

Basically, you were spinning plates, found someone you liked and developed serious feelings for her. You probably acted like you didn't care when you did, and now it is eating you up knowing she is getting it from other people.

I like this site, I truly do, but a lot of what is taught here leaves guys brainwashed and sets them up for heart break and a lot of pain later on. You might be "DJ" and a player, etc.. but you are also a human with emotions and it is human nature to start caring for someone you are hooking up with and spending time with..

Your other problem is that you want to have your cake and eat it to. You want what every man in the world wants deep down. Great piece of a$$ who only hooks up with you, and the ability to hook up with whoever you want. This is something that is pretty much impossible to find without lying and eventually hurting a woman.

Let her go, or stick around and get played with.. She obviously cares if she is spreading her legs for you.. You just gotta decide what you want. If you wanna date her exclusively, you need to push for that. But truthfully, we all know that your mind is gonna fvck with you big time and you will never completely trust her again.. Even though SHE DIDNT LIE TO YOU considering you both were dating other people.. she PROBABLY FOUND A MAN WHO WANTED TO BE WITH ONLY HER.. and now she is over you..

 

[Vlad the Impaler]

Vlad,

Basically, you were spinning plates, found someone you liked and developed serious feelings for her. You probably acted like you didn't care when you did, and now it is eating you up knowing she is getting it from other people.

I like this site, I truly do, but a lot of what is taught here leaves guys brainwashed and sets them up for heart break and a lot of pain later on. You might be "DJ" and a player, etc.. but you are also a human with emotions and it is human nature to start caring for someone you are hooking up with and spending time with..

Your other problem is that you want to have your cake and eat it to. You want what every man in the world wants deep down. Great piece of a$$ who only hooks up with you, and the ability to hook up with whoever you want. This is something that is pretty much impossible to find without lying and eventually hurting a woman.

Let her go, or stick around and get played with.. She obviously cares if she is spreading her legs for you.. You just gotta decide what you want. If you wanna date her exclusively, you need to push for that. But truthfully, we all know that your mind is gonna fvck with you big time and you will never completely trust her again.. Even though SHE DIDNT LIE TO YOU considering you both were dating other people.. she PROBABLY FOUND A MAN WHO WANTED TO BE WITH ONLY HER.. and now she is over you..

I texted her letting her know I want to talk about it and she replied but kinda blew me off "we can talk im with my brother ttu later ok"

Sure. She's with her brother.

I replied and told her to come over.

I'd put 50 bucks down right now she is on a date with another dude. She better get rid of him and get over here. If she doesn't show tonight I'll know what she was doing.

Maybe she is thinking of reasons to ditch the guy. She didn't reply to my come over text yet which is odd. I can read this girl like a book.

 

[Willis]

^^^^....SMH....
why did you even text her...you should be out doing your own life and smahing other chicks down and not caring if she was with her brother or suckin some guys shlong...

and if shes fVcking these other dudes and you dont want that in a chick why keep shorty around for...

she knows you want to b with her and as soon as she told you that she cant be the chick you want her to be you shoulda jus left her alone...be a man and let her go...

and so what she didnt reply to your text,,dont be sending follow up text if yu didnt get a reply from the first

 

[user43770]

I texted her letting her know I want to talk about it and she replied but kinda blew me off "we can talk im with my brother ttu later ok"

Sure. She's with her brother.

I replied and told her to come over.

I'd put 50 bucks down right now she is on a date with another dude. She better get rid of him and get over here. If she doesn't show tonight I'll know what she was doing.

Maybe she is thinking of reasons to ditch the guy. She didn't reply to my come over text yet which is odd. I can read this girl like a book.

This chick owns you. It's kind of sad when you think about it.

 

[DJDamage]

Here are my hard learned lessons from spinning plates:

1) Any woman who spins her own plates after she sleeps with you instead of fvcking just you, should be dropped from your rotation because she will soon do that to you anyway. Her interests in you aren't as high as they were before and now you got to chase her a bit more and make fvcking (mating) plans around her fvcking (mating) schedule? no thanks.

2) Any woman you can't trust should not even be a plate. If you suspect that she has a tedancy to lie behind your back then she should be dropped.

3) Any behaviour by a plate you are spinning that you do not like which causes you to be either be disgusted or pissed by her choices, should be dropped. No texting, no 'Lets have a talk" no nothing. By showing you her true colours and being just a plate, she therefore isn't worth more then that.

4) Any woman who you currently view as a plate, you cannot be emotionally involved with. Spinning plates helps you to drop the undesirable and unworthy and replace them with those who can be worthy of your time and emotions.

5) Even plates need to know boundries before hand. A plate needs to realise that you have no quams of dropping her if she does something that you don't like (ie. sleeping with other men) because you have other options available.

6) If you realise that you aren't going to make a certain plate your g/f, then why do you keep wasting time with her?! drop her already and go out with another chick.

 

[Kal0051]

well, if that happened to me she'd drop in my list of priorities. But this is only if I'd been banging her, if I hadn't been then I'd just drop her completely.

 

[Jerry Maguire]

Sosuave needs a mature philosophy if it advocates "spinning plates" then gets annoyed when a "plate" spins her own plates :L