Dealing with dry spell

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You can't 'meet' them through IG, but that's not how you should handle that. I get DMs from women on IG, but I just keep the contact friendly, not sexual. IG is not a dating app, but you can have chemistry online with someone and then meet with them IRL.
Or, what happens to me a lot, is a brief meeting in person and continuing the conversation through IG DMs.
Ive never understood communication through a platforms messaging system. Why not just text.
 

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I strongly believe that lack of access to sex really causes mental health issues for men. I'm convinced that there would be less violence in the middle east if more men where getting laid...seems like I am not the only one:



 
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Ive never understood communication through a platforms messaging system. Why not just text.
Well, text / whatsapp goes through my phone number, which I keep reserved for my inner circle.

IG is easy to exchange without any expectations of future contact. Just because a woman has my IG doesn't mean she is obliged to message me. But when she does, her interest is often heightened and I stay in her mind because of the photos in my IG account. If she turns out to be a loon (happens rarely but still possible), she's easily blocked. As for sharing my IG, when cute women take my photo, I tell them to send it to me on my IG.
 

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I strongly believe that lack of access to sex really causes mental health issues for men. I'm convinced that there would be less violence in the middle east if more men where getting laid...
Nope

The greatest philosophers to ever live were abstinent

Probably not by choice!
 

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Also, struggle builds character. Good looking people don't even think about it.

Struggle creates genius in men

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"…if the lives of men were relieved of all need, hardship and adversity; if everything they took in hand were successful, they would be so swollen with arrogance that, though they might not burst, they would present the spectacle of unbridled folly—nay, they would go mad. And I may say, further, that a certain amount of care or pain or trouble is necessary for every man at all times. A ship without ballast is unstable and will not go straight."
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

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Nope

The greatest philosophers to ever live were abstinent

Probably not by choice!
Correlation does not imply causation, but given your argument says it does...

Here are a few examples:

However, it’s important to note that correlation does not imply causation. It’s also worth noting that mental health awareness and understanding were not as advanced in the past as they are today, which could have influenced how these philosophers’ mental health was perceived and reported.

If getting laid often by a passel of different women in any given week makes me weaker, I'm OK with it.

And given I do, and I'm better than you, that begs one to question your assertions...:cool:;)
 
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Correlation does not imply causation, but given your argument says it does...

Here are a few examples:

However, it’s important to note that correlation does not imply causation. It’s also worth noting that mental health awareness and understanding were not as advanced in the past as they are today, which could have influenced how these philosophers’ mental health was perceived and reported.

If getting laid often by a passel of different women in any given week makes me weaker, I'm OK with it. And given I do, and I'm better than you, that begs one to question your assertions...:cool:
How did you leave out the heavyweights?

Nietzsche and Schopenhauer?
 

Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.

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He said as he was busily pounding Cleopatra till her hair braided itself.
-- "Men seek retreats for themselves, houses in the country, sea-shores, and mountains; and thou too art wont to desire such things very much. But this is altogether a mark of the most common sort of men, for it is in thy power whenever thou shalt choose to retire into thyself. For nowhere either with more quiet or more freedom from trouble does a man retire than into his own soul, particularly when he has within him such thoughts that by looking into them he is immediately in perfect tranquility; and I affirm that tranquility is nothing else than the good ordering of the mind. Constantly then give to thyself this retreat, and renew thyself; and let thy principles be brief and fundamental, which, as soon as thou shalt recur to them, will be sufficient to cleanse the soul completely, and to send thee back free from all discontent with the things to which thou returnest. For with what art thou discontented? With the badness of men? Recall to thy mind this conclusion, that rational animals exist for one another, and that to endure is a part of justice, and that men do wrong involuntarily; and consider how many already, after mutual enmity, suspicion, hatred, and fighting, have been stretched dead, reduced to ashes; and be quiet at last.- But perhaps thou art dissatisfied with that which is assigned to thee out of the universe.- Recall to thy recollection this alternative; either there is providence or atoms, fortuitous concurrence of things; or remember the arguments by which it has been proved that the world is a kind of political community, and be quiet at last.- But perhaps corporeal things will still fasten upon thee.- Consider then further that the mind mingles not with the breath, whether moving gently or violently, when it has once drawn itself apart and discovered its own power, and think also of all that thou hast heard and assented to about pain and pleasure, and be quiet at last.- But perhaps the desire of the thing called fame will torment thee.- See how soon everything is forgotten, and look at the chaos of infinite time on each side of the present, and the emptiness of applause, and the changeableness and want of judgement in those who pretend to give praise, and the narrowness of the space within which it is circumscribed, and be quiet at last. For the whole earth is a point, and how small a nook in it is this thy dwelling, and how few are there in it, and what kind of people are they who will praise thee."
 

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Yeah, i used to think that.

But you become more picky as you get older and experience more.

Best to settle down young, i think
Cosign. As I have gotten older I have no patience for deranged women. She says some slight of disrespect and I’m dropping her quicker than a bad habit. I have also become more cautious to any woman with red flag traps. “Trust but verify”.

If your gut instinct says "don't trust her" listen to it. Don't show it but absolutely listen to it. It is easier to trust people and girls when you are younger but the older you get the more careful you become.

The hard part is the balance between being cautious and having fun, that's why young people get more hurt and older people seem more cynical and distanced and in some cases more desensitized.
 

If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.

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