Dealing with dry spell

[Romanemp22]

This is a litmus test for me and I watch for it very closely in the beginning while courting a woman, I’ve mentioned it in other threads.

If she doesn’t like having sex enough to do it for the pleasure of it she’s not for me because I’m a horny heathen that would rather be inside an attractive woman over most other things. It’s usually not a problem with gals that are in great shape and workout frequently, they love their bodies and are healthy. Protip: Xfit gals are the horniest women around as are most female athletes. My prey of choice.

They usually out themselves fast, so thank the heavens she did. I’d count it as a blessing, cause homie don’t play dat.

In an hour or so I’m headed out to my second date with a cute little pixie, and I’ll be watching very closely for the signs. If I can’t get some lubbinz, at least a passionate kiss and a little groping, she gets relegated to second class, backburner, time waster status. Might* message her again if I’m coming up snake eyes some random day in the future.

Often after you turn back the attentiveness they reach out and ask to meet again, knowing they’ve got to do better or be benched.

I think it has to do more with natural libido. I also can’t stand sleeping with girl who don’t like sex in generally. It means you’re not sexually compatible and therefore the sex would be miserable most of the time.

 

[Romanemp22]

i ended a long dryspell with some escorts/sex workers, no regrets

Too bad I can’t post recordings here

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Too bad I can’t post recordings here

More than passing talk of prostitution is prohibited on the board.

 

[Romanemp22]

More than passing talk of prostitution is prohibited on the board.

It was a joke sir

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Whilst you make valid points on a wider spectrum of philosophy we are on a pickup forum and OP is asking how to deal with a dry spell

Objectively theres not going to be a boat load off difference between say a 6 & 7 which is the range the majority of men are going to be interacting with

these women probably aren't the types a man dreams of conquering but often living a normal lifestyle this is all he is going to come across and most men struggle to even get these into bed because they lack the experience of being with women and in turn this repels them

I think I saw a statistic the other day that the average man in the UK has sex about once a year

I talk to a lot of women their number one complaint about men is always the same ..... men saying or doing something stupid which turns them off because fundamentally men do not spend enough time with enough women to understand them.

The female mind must be stimulated before her body will submit to sex you can't stimulate her mind when you have no idea how it works

You really think hooking up with 5s and 7s will increase your chances of hooking up with 10s? Or are you saying that you're settling for 5s and 7s because you're just so horny and can't stand it?

In my experience the former has little to no effect. What has the most profound effect is when I know I'm hot shiit. And knowing that I'm hot shiit comes from rigorously working on my mind and body, to the point where I can look in the mirror and love what I see. This attitude let's me flaunt and show off confidently and naturally. It makes standing up to everyone in life easier and it makes putting women in their place effortless.

The female mind is stimulated by a man that knows himself. And you owe it to yourself to go after the hottest, most top tier women you can find. Anything less is a cop out, settling.

 

[Bingo-Player]

You really think hooking up with 5s and 7s will increase your chances of hooking up with 10s? Or are you saying that you're settling for 5s and 7s because you're just so horny and can't stand it?

In my experience the former has little to no effect. What has the most profound effect is when I know I'm hot shiit. And knowing that I'm hot shiit comes from rigorously working on my mind and body, to the point where I can look in the mirror and love what I see. This attitude let's me flaunt and show off confidently and naturally. It makes standing up to everyone in life easier and it makes putting women in their place effortless.

The female mind is stimulated by a man that knows himself. And you owe it to yourself to go after the hottest, most top tier women you can find. Anything less is a cop out, settling.

You really think the average dude in his 30's or 40's posting on an online pickup forum is going to have constant access to the "hottest women" he can find

I know I certainly don't and my lifestyle & social life is a hell of a lot more active than anyone else I know because I've had to fight tooth and nail to build it

The reality is most of the hottest women are either already in relationships or the single ones are usually gate kept by men in circles where they can keep fvcking them without bother from the masses

As a side note ALL women want to be comfortable around men before sex is even considered doesn't really matter what rank they are , its just easier for men to be more relaxed around women they are not that impressed by. But as with anything in life you can use the experience to start climbing the ladder

Trust me the " focus on yourself" trope is just nonsense spouted by men who don't get ANY pu$$Y and want to cope

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

You really think the average dude in his 30's or 40's posting on an online pickup forum is going to have constant access to the "hottest women" he can find

There is always a hottest woman in the room. Why would you tell people to not even bother trying to sleep with them on a pick up forum? Whining about a dry spell is bad enough.

I know I certainly don't and my lifestyle & social life is a hell of a lot more active than anyone else I know because I've had to fight tooth and nail to build it

So what you're saying is if you put in the work you see results, wow isn't that interesting...

The reality is most of the hottest women are either already in relationships or the single ones are usually gate kept by men in circles where they can keep fvcking them without bother from the masses

There is not some cabal of men that are magically keeping all the hot women away from you, that's a cope. As time goes on there are less SANE hot women available for relationships yes, but there is no shortage of good looking girls if a lay is all you want. Hell if you only want a lay even most of the taken ones will be down.

As a side note ALL women want to be comfortable around men before sex is even considered doesn't really matter what rank they are , its just easier for men to be more relaxed around women they are not that impressed by. But as with anything in life you can use the experience to start climbing the ladder

There's the kicker, 'women they are not impressed by'. You're happily advocating men should not even bother going after hot women and should settle for the ones they don't even find attractive. For what? To jizz and have a little ego boost? To have some horrible memories of disgusting sexual encounters? According to you we should all have sex with trolls and leave the hot women alone. What ladder are you talking about? The ladder of sadness? lol

Trust me the " focus on yourself" trope is just nonsense spouted by men who don't get ANY pu$$Y and want to cope

Yeah the guy with a hot body and fun hobbies is coping, right. This is the BS you feed yourself to feel better about not putting in the work, because that's way easier to do than actually growing. To imply working on yourself is a waste of time is ridiculous. I'm not going to sit here and listen to you argue AGAINST a better life and better women for yourself. If you've convinced yourself you shouldn't even strive for them then you've already lost.

 

[Romanemp22]

There is always a hottest woman in the room. Why would you tell people to not even bother trying to sleep with them on a pick up forum? Whining about a dry spell is bad enough.



So what you're saying is if you put in the work you see results, wow isn't that interesting...



There is not some cabal of men that are magically keeping all the hot women away from you, that's a cope. As time goes on there are less SANE hot women available for relationships yes, but there is no shortage of good looking girls if a lay is all you want. Hell if you only want a lay even most of the taken ones will be down.



There's the kicker, 'women they are not impressed by'. You're happily advocating men should not even bother going after hot women and should settle for the ones they don't even find attractive. For what? To jizz and have a little ego boost? To have some horrible memories of disgusting sexual encounters? According to you we should all have sex with trolls and leave the hot women alone. What ladder are you talking about? The ladder of sadness? lol



Yeah the guy with a hot body and fun hobbies is coping, right. This is the BS you feed yourself to feel better about not putting in the work, because that's way easier to do than actually growing. To imply working on yourself is a waste of time is ridiculous. I'm not going to sit here and listen to you argue AGAINST a better life and better women for yourself. If you've convinced yourself you shouldn't even strive for them then you've already lost.

Agree to the fullest. I also noticed there are too many trolls on this forum as well who don’t even provide good opinions, just sh1t and trolling lol.

This should be the place where we anonymously share our thoughts,experiences and ideas to assist each other in having better sexual life and overall relationships with women.

i agree when you say that you need to see yourself as a top-notch because otherwise you won’t show proper confidence and will end up putting women on pedestal,even the ones that are way below your league.

 

[Chow Mein]

There is always a hottest woman in the room. Why would you tell people to not even bother trying to sleep with them on a pick up forum? Whining about a dry spell is bad enough.



So what you're saying is if you put in the work you see results, wow isn't that interesting...



There is not some cabal of men that are magically keeping all the hot women away from you, that's a cope. As time goes on there are less SANE hot women available for relationships yes, but there is no shortage of good looking girls if a lay is all you want. Hell if you only want a lay even most of the taken ones will be down.



There's the kicker, 'women they are not impressed by'. You're happily advocating men should not even bother going after hot women and should settle for the ones they don't even find attractive. For what? To jizz and have a little ego boost? To have some horrible memories of disgusting sexual encounters? According to you we should all have sex with trolls and leave the hot women alone. What ladder are you talking about? The ladder of sadness? lol



Yeah the guy with a hot body and fun hobbies is coping, right. This is the BS you feed yourself to feel better about not putting in the work, because that's way easier to do than actually growing. To imply working on yourself is a waste of time is ridiculous. I'm not going to sit here and listen to you argue AGAINST a better life and better women for yourself. If you've convinced yourself you shouldn't even strive for them then you've already lost.

Exhibit A : Keyboard Jockey

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Agree to the fullest. I also noticed there are too many trolls on this forum as well who don’t even provide good opinions, just sh1t and trolling lol.

This should be the place where we anonymously share our thoughts,experiences and ideas to assist each other in having better sexual life and overall relationships with women.

i agree when you say that you need to see yourself as a top-notch because otherwise you won’t show proper confidence and will end up putting women on pedestal,even the ones that are way below your league.

I've noticed the same regarding SS, but maybe we can change that for the better. There are amazing posts locked away in old threads. I remember reading posts that resonated with me and reading all of the post history for a particular user, years back to when THEY joined, then reading further back on the users that were advising them at that time. The same tenants kept coming up. I highly recommend exploring what feels valuable here, the material is timeless.

Exhibit A : Keyboard Jockey

Happy to meet up and flex on you in person. You won't.

 

[Solomon]

You really think hooking up with 5s and 7s will increase your chances of hooking up with 10s? Or are you saying that you're settling for 5s and 7s because you're just so horny and can't stand it?

In my experience the former has little to no effect. What has the most profound effect is when I know I'm hot shiit. And knowing that I'm hot shiit comes from rigorously working on my mind and body, to the point where I can look in the mirror and love what I see. This attitude let's me flaunt and show off confidently and naturally. It makes standing up to everyone in life easier and it makes putting women in their place effortless.

The female mind is stimulated by a man that knows himself. And you owe it to yourself to go after the hottest, most top tier women you can find. Anything less is a cop out, settling.

This guy is speaking facts, when I was at my best game-wise I had a similar mindset, any venue I walked in I would say to myself "I'm the hottest guy in the bar". It may sound corny but my belive was any girl who got to meet me it would be a privlige for them as meeting me would mean she would be in for a fun or epic night. This mindset really radiates if you truly believe it and women picked up on the vibes. Once you start seeing the success it compounds itself to a point that you become really bold with women, some of the stuff I've said to women you guys won't belive ha ha It's not something you do arrogantly though it was more of a positive confidence at a ridiculously high level which I learned from Snowplowman who use to post FR's here. A lot of guys don't have this mindset and it shows by the post, and when a guy sounds like it people will say he's ****y when that isn't always the case!

I purposely would go to a bar/club/Fashion event and find the hottest woman and chat her up. Granted I got blown out a lot, but it does build your build confidence when you aren't phased by a woman's beauty and give it your effort, even if it didn't go anywhere I've had tons of fun just chatting, dancing, or flirting with them, and best believe other women notice!