Dealing with dry spell

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Correlation does not imply causation, but given your argument says it does...

Here are a few examples:

• William James: Known for his work on the philosophy of religion and pragmatism, he suffered from various ailments in his youth, both physical and mental. His mental illness, known at the time as “neurasthenia,” included many separate and severe depressive periods which lasted for months and during which he considered suicide.
• John Stuart Mill: A crucial figure in the development of utilitarianism, Mill was a child prodigy whose father deliberately sought to educate him from an early age in the philosophy. His father’s intensive instruction eventually took its toll, and at the age of 20 he was struck by a nervous breakdown and a depression which he credited to having been deprived of a real childhood.
• Søren Kierkegaard: Considered the grandfather of existentialism, Kierkegaard was profoundly critical of the idealist philosophers of his time. He regarded depression as a failing, maintaining that the depressed individual always had “an equal or perhaps greater possibility of the opposite state.” This view is all the more poignant when you realize that Kierkegaard himself, and many of his family members, were themselves sufferers of deep depression.
• Michel Foucault: Engaged in critical studies on social institutions such as psychiatry and prisons, his writings on discourse and power were profoundly influential during the latter part of the 20th century and beyond. His importance within philosophy and across a variety of academic disciplines is marked by the fact that he is one of the most frequently cited scholars within the humanities1.
• Immanuel Kant: Faced periods of mental distress in his later years. Kant’s dedication to systematic philosophy and his insistence on a rigid daily routine began to unravel as he experienced episodes of depression.

However, it’s important to note that correlation does not imply causation. It’s also worth noting that mental health awareness and understanding were not as advanced in the past as they are today, which could have influenced how these philosophers’ mental health was perceived and reported.

If getting laid often by a passel of different women in any given week makes me weaker, I'm OK with it. And given I do, and I'm better than you, that begs one to question your assertions...

How did you leave out the heavyweights?

Nietzsche and Schopenhauer?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

How did you leave out the heavyweights?

Nietzsche and Shopenhauer?

Buggery boozers. Nietzsche is a fave btw.

I am particularly partial to this version:

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

It is your reaction to adversity, not the adversity itself, that determines how your life’s story will develop.
— Dieter F. Uchtdorf

"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”

- Marcus Aurelius

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

Buggery boozers. Nietzsche is a fave btw.

I am particularly partial to this version:

Lol

I've always been a pessimist. Gravitated to Schopenhauer

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”

- Marcus Aurelius

He said as he was busily pounding Cleopatra till her hair braided itself.

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

It is your reaction to adversity, not the adversity itself, that determines how your life’s story will develop.
— Dieter F. Uchtdorf

Good one

 

[Vending Machine Veteran]

He said as he was busily pounding Cleopatra till her hair braided itself.

-- "Men seek retreats for themselves, houses in the country, sea-shores, and mountains; and thou too art wont to desire such things very much. But this is altogether a mark of the most common sort of men, for it is in thy power whenever thou shalt choose to retire into thyself. For nowhere either with more quiet or more freedom from trouble does a man retire than into his own soul, particularly when he has within him such thoughts that by looking into them he is immediately in perfect tranquility; and I affirm that tranquility is nothing else than the good ordering of the mind. Constantly then give to thyself this retreat, and renew thyself; and let thy principles be brief and fundamental, which, as soon as thou shalt recur to them, will be sufficient to cleanse the soul completely, and to send thee back free from all discontent with the things to which thou returnest. For with what art thou discontented? With the badness of men? Recall to thy mind this conclusion, that rational animals exist for one another, and that to endure is a part of justice, and that men do wrong involuntarily; and consider how many already, after mutual enmity, suspicion, hatred, and fighting, have been stretched dead, reduced to ashes; and be quiet at last.- But perhaps thou art dissatisfied with that which is assigned to thee out of the universe.- Recall to thy recollection this alternative; either there is providence or atoms, fortuitous concurrence of things; or remember the arguments by which it has been proved that the world is a kind of political community, and be quiet at last.- But perhaps corporeal things will still fasten upon thee.- Consider then further that the mind mingles not with the breath, whether moving gently or violently, when it has once drawn itself apart and discovered its own power, and think also of all that thou hast heard and assented to about pain and pleasure, and be quiet at last.- But perhaps the desire of the thing called fame will torment thee.- See how soon everything is forgotten, and look at the chaos of infinite time on each side of the present, and the emptiness of applause, and the changeableness and want of judgement in those who pretend to give praise, and the narrowness of the space within which it is circumscribed, and be quiet at last. For the whole earth is a point, and how small a nook in it is this thy dwelling, and how few are there in it, and what kind of people are they who will praise thee."

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

Yeah, i used to think that.

But you become more picky as you get older and experience more.

Best to settle down young, i think

Cosign. As I have gotten older I have no patience for deranged women. She says some slight of disrespect and I’m dropping her quicker than a bad habit. I have also become more cautious to any woman with red flag traps. “Trust but verify”.

If your gut instinct says "don't trust her" listen to it. Don't show it but absolutely listen to it. It is easier to trust people and girls when you are younger but the older you get the more careful you become.

The hard part is the balance between being cautious and having fun, that's why young people get more hurt and older people seem more cynical and distanced and in some cases more desensitized.

 

[Romanemp22]

Cosign. As I have gotten older I have no patience for deranged women. She says some slight of disrespect and I’m dropping her quicker than a bad habit. I have also become more cautious to any woman with red flag traps. “Trust but verify”.

If your gut instinct says "don't trust her" listen to it. Don't show it but absolutely listen to it. It is easier to trust people and girls when you are younger but the older you get the more careful you become.

The hard part is the balance between being cautious and having fun, that's why young people get more hurt and older people seem more cynical and distanced and in some cases more desensitized.

This is normal,once a man builds up his experience you become more pickier about who you will give your time and attention let alone fvck.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

This is normal,once a man builds up his experience you become more pickier about who you will give your time and attention let alone fvck.

Not every man gets the memo even after gnarly fallouts. eventually they keep turning into shark chum.

 

[Bingo-Player]

What you'll eventually ask yourself after enough casual lays is 'what is the point?' It makes no difference how hot they are, what would your life become if you spent four hours a day having random casual sex?

Time is valuable, and if you're spending it having sex with a woman you see no future with, then what are you doing? I'll tell you, you're taking time away from more valuable pursuits. The only consolation you can really give yourself is to treat casual sex as an artistic hobby where you express yourself for a short-term release. But that's just it, a consolation, anything more significant is built outside the bedroom.

You'll become pickier with your time, and not care about fumbling baddies. If she understands your world and you genuinely enjoy each others time then she'll stick around.

Whilst you make valid points on a wider spectrum of philosophy we are on a pickup forum and OP is asking how to deal with a dry spell

Objectively theres not going to be a boat load off difference between say a 6 & 7 which is the range the majority of men are going to be interacting with

these women probably aren't the types a man dreams of conquering but often living a normal lifestyle this is all he is going to come across and most men struggle to even get these into bed because they lack the experience of being with women and in turn this repels them

I think I saw a statistic the other day that the average man in the UK has sex about once a year

I talk to a lot of women their number one complaint about men is always the same ..... men saying or doing something stupid which turns them off because fundamentally men do not spend enough time with enough women to understand them.

The female mind must be stimulated before her body will submit to sex you can't stimulate her mind when you have no idea how it works

 

[Ricky]

He said as he was busily pounding Cleopatra till her hair braided itself.

Wrong dude

think you are thinking of mark anthony

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Wrong dude

think you are thinking of mark anthony

You are correct was thinking of Mark Anthony.

 

[BadBoy89]

Truth I did have couple of opportunities with 4s,5s but I promised myself I wouldn’t bang just anything.

Is a “6” anything ?

 

[Solomon]

Cosign. As I have gotten older I have no patience for deranged women. She says some slight of disrespect and I’m dropping her quicker than a bad habit. I have also become more cautious to any woman with red flag traps. “Trust but verify”.

If your gut instinct says "don't trust her" listen to it. Don't show it but absolutely listen to it. It is easier to trust people and girls when you are younger but the older you get the more careful you become.

The hard part is the balance between being cautious and having fun, that's why young people get more hurt and older people seem more cynical and distanced and in some cases more desensitized.

I Went on a date this Friday night, and the woman said something and this instantly happened

As you get older and more experienced you can ask certain questions and depending on how a woman answers the red or yellow flags will present themselves. If you get really good at it, you will be able to qualify/vet women to a point that you'll know on the first date or even before if the woman you're dealing with is even worth your time or if she is looney

 

[anonymous12345]

@Romanemp22
The one thing a woman thinks she can control me with, sex, is something I'm constantly fine with abstaining from because I've developed healthy outlets for that energy, and those outlets only make me more attractive. While I prefer that she spread her legs, I really could not give a fuuck if she pulls away.

Have the same mindset, good mindset. Had a date with a woman older than me with great rack at my place, and she basically tried to coerce me into paying for a dinner before we'd play more. What the hell does she think? She's into some kind of commerce. Also odd that some women don't see sech as pleasure, but, as in this case, a tool for manipulation.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

. Also odd that some women don't see sech as pleasure, but, as in this case, a tool for manipulation.

This is a litmus test for me and I watch for it very closely in the beginning while courting a woman, I’ve mentioned it in other threads.

If she doesn’t like having sex enough to do it for the pleasure of it she’s not for me because I’m a horny heathen that would rather be inside an attractive woman over most other things. It’s usually not a problem with gals that are in great shape and workout frequently, they love their bodies and are healthy. Protip: Xfit gals are the horniest women around as are most female athletes. My prey of choice.

They usually out themselves fast, so thank the heavens she did. I’d count it as a blessing, cause homie don’t play dat.

In an hour or so I’m headed out to my second date with a cute little pixie, and I’ll be watching very closely for the signs. If I can’t get some lubbinz, at least a passionate kiss and a little groping, she gets relegated to second class, backburner, time waster status. Might* message her again if I’m coming up snake eyes some random day in the future.

Often after you turn back the attentiveness they reach out and ask to meet again, knowing they’ve got to do better or be benched.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I Went on a date this Friday night, and the woman said something and this instantly happened

As you get older and more experienced you can ask certain questions and depending on how a woman answers the red or yellow flags will present themselves. If you get really good at it, you will be able to qualify/vet women to a point that you'll know on the first date or even before if the woman you're dealing with is even worth your time or if she is looney

I don't know if this is a good reveal or not lol, but I can tell the loonies and time wasters within a second of looking at their main profile pic on OLD.

 

[H8CourtshipWithAPassion]

i ended a long dryspell with some escorts/sex workers, no regrets

 

[Solomon]

I don't know if this is a good reveal or not lol, but I can tell the loonies and time wasters within a second of looking at their main profile pic on OLD.

Ha ha it's funny you say that cause some girls you look at their profiles and the can't hide the crazy, ever wonder why you see a hot a$$ chick yup cause they crazy. I know from the first convo if a woman is serious about meeting or not. I also text a women certain questions that let me know if she is worth my time or not. Recently matched with this 28 year old who lost her virginity to her recent ex she couldn't stop talking about him so I had to block
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Women have no holds attitude when it comes to disqualifying men, men IMO would be better off doing the same within reason or their standards, will you lose out on a lot of chicks? sure but If a woman is wasting your time, only seeking attention cause her siuationship is on time out etc you never had them to begin with!