Dealing with a very confident girl

[BeExcellent]

Well @The Duke I know personally many women who fit this profile who ARE great partners. I don't have to date women to see the results.

Like the girl OP is discussing they are warm, feminine, engaging and don't bother the man while he's doing his "man stuff." They take the lead on childrearing. They listen to and defer to the man. They are capable and valuable complimentary women. They are an asset who is not causing undue drama.

The men are proud of these women; the women are loving and sweet to these men.

How is any of that a bad thing? Women like this get scooped up and wifed up, often for life.

We all have our biases and filters. I'm not jaded about quality women precisely because I don't date women. But men who I know do, and they have the successes and the failures to show for it.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Sigh. Incorrect. Confidence comes from knowing ones value and from having internal self esteem.

If a girl values her virginity (for example) and is saving herself for her husband can be one example. Another example is a beautiful, chill self assured sought after girl who knows most women are insecure & will blow themselves out with insecure clingy behavior.

What you're describing sounds more like moral values or personal philosophy. Confidence is a completely different concept. As The Duke said, confidence comes from doing. Confidence is essentially one's ability to predict outcomes based on past experience.

Confidence has nothing to do with morality, philosophy, values or opinions. You can be a complete lowlife and still be extremely confident. And you can be a highly virtuous person while totally lacking in confidence.

 

[itouchyou]

Sigh. Incorrect. Confidence comes from having internal self esteem.

How do you think internal self esteem is built?

 

[BeExcellent]

How do you think internal self esteem is built?

Through a secure attachment style. How do you get a secure attachment style? By experiencing love, validation and security in early childhood; by recieving good modeling and consistent mentoring, guidance & discipline alongside love throughout youth and young adulthood. Essentially as a result of solid parenting.

Now. Obviously not every young person recieved good parenting. Absent that an individual must possess the courage to self examine, self revise, self discipline and consciously improve, develop and grow. Using objective information.

We know from OP the 26 year old is very physically beautiful. Ok. There is nothing she DID to have good genetics. But if she was taught graciousness and politeness to embrace her beauty without being entitled? That indicates a solid upbringing. Confidence can derive from knowing one's intrinsic and objective worth just as it can derive from competency at a skillset.

If she was taught "Beauty is as beauty does....." then she was taught that behavior is more important than looks.

Confidence can derive from intelligence, accomplishment, social graces, upbringing. It is not JUST from doing. It is from being. From internal instead of external validation.

It is not simply a statistical equation anymore than dating is algebraic. I will find a dictionary link and post the different dictionary definitions, which are quite diverse in different contexts. English is not everyone's first language here, so perhaps this will help.......

 

[BeExcellent]

From Oxford English:

https://www.google.com/search?q=definition+of+confidence&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en-us&client=safari#ebo=0