Alle_Gory said:
Ruckus: You can easily be honest and say the same things. For example: "i'm looking for 4 girls to have sex with on fvck buddy status." = "im looking for someone special who I can have fun with." and the rest they don't need to know.
How is deliberately misdirecting not lying?
This is like lying by omission. Not a straight up bold faced lie, but still a lie.
Just man up and lie and be done with it. It might make you feel better deluding yourself that it's not a lie but your INTENTION is still to lead the girl into thinking something other than what is going on.
I can't believe the number of girls i've been around who say things like "just so you know i don't have sex without a relationship." So yeah, it's just easier to blow that off. I'm not opposed to a relationship, but i'm not going to be like "I WANT TO TEST THE SEXORS FIRST TO SEE IF IT'S WORTH IT TO BE IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU." They don't want to hear that. They'll disagree with your method anyway. So lie away, get laid with her thinking it'll lead to a relationship eventually, and still determine things on your own time table. She's doing the same damn thing anyway. Woman's perogative and all that. i.e. right to decide to treat you like garbage on a moment's notice because of a change of emotional status thus relegating you to less than human status.
Luke Skywalker said:
I don't think so. If you aer looking for fvck buddies then go on AFF, or some other adult hook-up site where you can be honest about what you are looking for and be understood. They say that it's on the intimate section or adult dating sites that people are just the most honest.
Like i'm gonna post a picture of myself on an adult site. There's enough stigma against regular sites. Your picture does 90% of the attracting anyway. I'd venture to guess the women on adultfriendfinder are either harder up or more willing to sleep around with multiple men.
I would want 4 girls who are exclusively sleeping with me.
On plentyoffish there's even a stupid thing where if you ever emailed anyone about an "intimate encounter" then you are blocked from emailing people who aren't set to that whether that's what you're looking for from them or not. If i'm gonna be treated like a dirty low-life bastard by society just for wanting my penis to be wet without worshipping at the temple of slave to womandom, then i might as well act the part.
You don't have to lie about that.
But I don't care about lying so i have no reason to try to avoid it.
Why do people act like it's bad to lie? Do you not watch tv? All those advertisements are basically lies. Hey it's super deluxe ab machine that will TAKE INCHES OFF YOUR WAIST!! Lie, lie, lie. People get degrees in lying. It's called marketing. You can mince words all you want, but hyping up a product to be better than it is is lying.
How am i any worse by letting a woman believe i want a relationship in order to have sex? A lot of you guys are still in the mindset that it's the man doing something to her and she's just giving permission and you're an evil dude for persuing something so dirty and bad. No, she wants it. She wants to be lied to. She just doesn't want to be conscious of it. People even lie to themselves. Good ol' cognitive dissonance.
I market myself. I lead women to believe I provide more functions than I do.
How about this? Under no circumstances do I want children. Ever. If i tell women that then i've severely limited by pool to select from. I'm not going to handicap myself. They don't advertise that they rarely give blow jobs and when they do they're unenthusiastic. And if you asked they're likely to make it sound like they don't mind at all. So yeah, i'll make sound like i don't mind kids. Just like the rest of our society. We're fine with liars. Lying politicians, lying advertisers, the lying maked-up faces and the lifted bosoms of our womenfolk. Our society approves of lying. Please, politician, lie to me so i feel safe!!
The thing is: I do want a relationship. It's just not the goal starting out. I just overhype their chances of getting one out of me.
Honesty and integrity is something between men. Women simply do not operate on the same playing field so interacting with them has to have a different set of rules than how you deal with men. Why handicap yourself? She sure as hell isn't playing by the rules that men set up between themselves so why are you?
Word is bond WITH MEN.
p.s. haha i'm so full of sh1t.