This is my first post buy I have been lurking here for about a year now. I appreciate any insight anyone can offer me on my situation because I have now clue how to handle this one.
My gf and I were dating for 11 months, and our 1 year anniversary is on the 14 of april. It started 2 weeks ago when my girlfriend was under alot of stress because her and her mom are on the verge of losing their home and may move to an apartment because her dad lost his job. she called me on a tuesday asking if she could come by on wednesday and do her homework on my computer since hers was broken. She said she would come by at 7:30. Well wednesday I worked 8 hours and got home at 6 with a horrible headache, but I waited for her and she never showed up so I went to sleep cause I felt so bad. The next day I checked my phone and she had called at a little after 9 leaving a voicemail saying the church class she and her mom teach ran over by an hour. When I called her she chewed me out about not picking up my phone. She was acting really mean so I told her she broke our plans and should have called and it wasn't my problem. She went off on me so I hung up and didn't talk to her again till late saturday night.
On sunday she called and pretended nothing had happened and didn't even apologize for it so I just let it go cause I don't need any more drama in my life. Well we see each other sunday and she won't kiss me or let me touch her so I leave. On the phone later I lose my cool a little bit because at this point her behavior has annoying me. I made a huge mistake and I crossed the line by insulting her. I won't say what I said but it was horribly cruel and crossed the line. She hung up on me and I tried to call her back and apologize but she turned her phone off.
That was 2 weeks ago. Now 1 after that she says she loves me very much but wants us to be less serious because she feels trapped. We used to talk everyday now she only calls one or two days a week and we don't talk at all if i don't initiate contact. I need to add in that I got very afc and clingy during this time because I panicked at the thought of losing her. I called way to much and texted her way to much. it was pathetic but at the time I was in alot of pain from the thought of losing my perfect relationship because I was an ass and I will admit I cried big time in front of her. we still hung out on the weekends like we normally do but she is very distant and barely wants to touch me
Fast forward to tonight. This is what drove me to make an account here. She calls me and asks me to go out to eat with her. I agree and we meet up, watch a movie at her house, then make out before I leave. She asks me if we want to do anything for our anniversary. I asked her "we can if you are still my gf" to which she replys "I am not going back on what I said about being less serious so don't demand it"
I can't figure out how to save this. I am almost down to my last option of cutting all contact with her, which I really don't want to do. Her attraction to me is dropping by the day. I messed up and got very clingy because I do love her and I am afraid there is no way to recover from that. We used to talk everyday and now we almost never do unless I initiate it. She won't kiss me for more than a few seconds won't let me touch her sexually now, and we never hang out one on one now her friend is always with us.
I know thats long and complicated but I really need help and I don't want to next her but I am ready to accept it and do it if its my only choice.
Thank you
My gf and I were dating for 11 months, and our 1 year anniversary is on the 14 of april. It started 2 weeks ago when my girlfriend was under alot of stress because her and her mom are on the verge of losing their home and may move to an apartment because her dad lost his job. she called me on a tuesday asking if she could come by on wednesday and do her homework on my computer since hers was broken. She said she would come by at 7:30. Well wednesday I worked 8 hours and got home at 6 with a horrible headache, but I waited for her and she never showed up so I went to sleep cause I felt so bad. The next day I checked my phone and she had called at a little after 9 leaving a voicemail saying the church class she and her mom teach ran over by an hour. When I called her she chewed me out about not picking up my phone. She was acting really mean so I told her she broke our plans and should have called and it wasn't my problem. She went off on me so I hung up and didn't talk to her again till late saturday night.
On sunday she called and pretended nothing had happened and didn't even apologize for it so I just let it go cause I don't need any more drama in my life. Well we see each other sunday and she won't kiss me or let me touch her so I leave. On the phone later I lose my cool a little bit because at this point her behavior has annoying me. I made a huge mistake and I crossed the line by insulting her. I won't say what I said but it was horribly cruel and crossed the line. She hung up on me and I tried to call her back and apologize but she turned her phone off.
That was 2 weeks ago. Now 1 after that she says she loves me very much but wants us to be less serious because she feels trapped. We used to talk everyday now she only calls one or two days a week and we don't talk at all if i don't initiate contact. I need to add in that I got very afc and clingy during this time because I panicked at the thought of losing her. I called way to much and texted her way to much. it was pathetic but at the time I was in alot of pain from the thought of losing my perfect relationship because I was an ass and I will admit I cried big time in front of her. we still hung out on the weekends like we normally do but she is very distant and barely wants to touch me
Fast forward to tonight. This is what drove me to make an account here. She calls me and asks me to go out to eat with her. I agree and we meet up, watch a movie at her house, then make out before I leave. She asks me if we want to do anything for our anniversary. I asked her "we can if you are still my gf" to which she replys "I am not going back on what I said about being less serious so don't demand it"
I can't figure out how to save this. I am almost down to my last option of cutting all contact with her, which I really don't want to do. Her attraction to me is dropping by the day. I messed up and got very clingy because I do love her and I am afraid there is no way to recover from that. We used to talk everyday and now we almost never do unless I initiate it. She won't kiss me for more than a few seconds won't let me touch her sexually now, and we never hang out one on one now her friend is always with us.
I know thats long and complicated but I really need help and I don't want to next her but I am ready to accept it and do it if its my only choice.
Thank you