BUSY or BULLSH!T???

[Jus_LikeCandy]

So, all in all, I am being manipulated and I am not happy. Weigh the good and the bad, that feeling I get when I am with him and the feeling I have when I am away from, which i experience so much more. It's not good...

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

I am NOT talking about a philosophy man, I am not talking about a game man, I am not taling about trapping women, being mean to women, beating womens azzes, or any of that shyt.

Women are supposed to be playing the game, and like I said, that is their nature....there is nothing wrong with that. If you go against nature, you cant win.

Men are supposed to be free, free to choose what they want, say what they want, and do what they want. If they get married, I am not saying the guy cant have feelign for their girl, I am not saying dont get married. In the end, the woman is really supposed to trap you.

The problem is, men get trapped too soon. What I mean by her trapping you, is that first you must be free. I cannot trap something that is already trapped. What I mean by free, is free of doing whatever the hell you want, and living life as youwant, saying what you want,etc. That does not make you a jerk, a man supposed to be living his own life.

She sees that, and she hears of that, so she dresses up sexy to get you to approach her. Then she wants to get to know you, and this is why she goes on your dates. Then she wants to trap you, by getting you to be with her, only, and to do whatever she wants you to do( the second one should never be)

You can see where mystery and challenge come into play. The whole reason you even get puzzy as being a don juan, is becuase you are free and that are trying to get to know you, if they do that quickly, then you lose mystery. If you tell her everything about you, where is the chase?

I will make a thread out of this. Don juans dont play games, we are the X-box, women WANT to play us. Ever been bored playing a great X-box game? No? Exactly. Thats why real men CANNOT bore women, because REAL MEN, are being played. She is in tune, tyring to figure him out, trying to figure out how to get him, you got me people?! I will make a thread out of this....and explan further.

 

[LikRetsam]

Excuse me for overstepping my High School boundaries but I have been summoned...

Most of these replies are weak and uninformed. You do not [all] understand the difference between hard to get, increasing interest and stupidity. From my understanding, these people have been together in the past and are together now. Hard to get and having a "busy" life all end once she's yours. There is no more chase once you are together. Do not give your girlfriend time and pretty soon you won't have a girlfriend to give time too.

As for the actual original poster, this guy isn't worth your time. 6 months away from him were hell because you wanted them to be hell. This guy is clearly not interested and especially not after a previous break up. This "schedule" is pathetic. If a girl was interested in me she'd make time to be with me. Actions speak louder than words.

And what the **** was that "Once a week first 3 months" bull****? There's a difference between being desperate and interested. Letting them know you are seeing other girls doesn't excite anyone worth being with. It makes them think you are an arrogant b@stard. No, it doesn't inspire some mysterious competition or jealousy. The harder they try, the less you care. It's obvious. And any person worth their salt would drop you to your fantasy world in a second.

But you know what, the LTR part was the best. It was the part where you showed that you were talking out of your ass and not from experience. But it's okay, one day a chick will expand your views. One day emotion will come to play in your game of seduction.

And please, quit flaming the women on this site. Many have come before you and have flamed their share and the point is you can't do anything about it. Let alone it's not very becoming of you. A board focused for men? I think not. A board focused for people to improve themselves? Yes.

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

Lik, that was very good kid, but haha, I still dont think you guys understand....

Once in a relationship.....okay, I will not go further, this thing is five pages, read my new thread in a minute, Don Juans are free, and why women want them in their cage.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

This guy is clearly not interested and especially not after a previous break up

Why the heck would he come back?? Out of the clear blue, he calls and says he wants to see me, he misses me and that's how it all started again. WHY?????

 

[frivolousz21]

pyssyeater- I still think ur taking this game thing to far...women dont all play games???

where do u get this **** from.....maybe a ton of inmature college chicks do..and some even after that..but believe me a lot of women my age 22 and up..arent playing games.

do they want a successful man?

yes, of course they want to date a guy with money, career, goals, values, seuxality.

You can see where mystery and challenge come into play. The whole reason you even get puzzy as being a don juan, is becuase you are free and that are trying to get to know you, if they do that quickly, then you lose mystery. If you tell her everything about you, where is the chase?

man I get laid becuase I am attractive....not just being cute or whatever...but because I am funny, confident, dress nice, have goals, passions, COMPASSION..

believe it or not..but im a very passionate and compasionatte person..and this emotion when displayed to women..is HIGHLY attractive.

there is a diff between being a pyssy afc and just being a confident man!


LikRetsam -

you are wise beyond your years

 

[LikRetsam]

For the same reason you took him back. You thought you needed each other.

 

[DJDamage]

When a woman loves you and you frustrate her on occasions because you don't do what she says but you are doing your own things - Its a good thing.

Its a fantasy that women create that they want guys to spend more time with them, go shopping with them, see their movies and do whatever they want you to do while believing their attraction will still be there. Women will always push for more things once they know they can. Its their nature to want everything but in reality they want a guy who is strong with a backbone who will stand up for himself and not let her whims affect him.

If you listen to women all the time what they want, you do not become a challange anymore which causes the attraction to decrease, please watch the following video clip which will tell you what you become!!!! (WARNING WARNING AFC video at its worst. The following video will make you ill! have a bucket near by for vomiting purposes)

http://www.ryanmcfaul.com/mirror/gb_medium.html

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

Well, I guess he realized he didn't need me or miss me as much as he thought....

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
Why the heck would he come back?? Out of the clear blue, he calls and says he wants to see me, he misses me and that's how it all started again. WHY?????

im not gona pretend i know what he was thinking. And I don't think anybody else on here should eather. I learned the hard way not assume that what people put on here is the whole pucture. We don't know what kind of guy he is, or what kind of gurll you are......The basick truth is; he eather likes you, and REALLY don't have time to spend with you, or he needs his WEEKLEY PIECE OF ASS (MORE likely since he does have time to go party with his buds)......

 

[frivolousz21]

Its a fantasy that women create that they want guys to spend more time with them, go shopping with them, see their movies and do whatever they want you to do while believing their attraction will still be there. Women will always push for more things once they know they can. Its their nature to want everything but in reality they want a guy who is strong with a backbone who will stand up for himself and not let her whims affect him.

I agree with you 100 percent!


but I sitll dont think we need to play games..just being a confident man..will do..it works for me

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

I don't think it is a fantasy to want a man to go out to dinner and clear more than 1 day in his schedule for you. this isn't even the whole day...an evening..

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by DJDamage
Its a fantasy that women create that they want guys to spend more time with them, go shopping with them, see their movies and do whatever they want you to do while believing their attraction will still be there. Women will always push for more things once they know they can. Its their nature to want everything but in reality they want a guy who is strong with a backbone who will stand up for himself and not let her whims affect him.l[/url]

VERY TRUE

But in this case i don't think it is unreasnable for a woman to want to see her man more then once a week

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

And, not only is it once a week, it is usually late, so we just ended up chatting for a bit and going to sleep!!!! Doesn't get any worse than that. I feel deprived!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
I feel deprived!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I didn't think chicks thad that problem:crackup:

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

We do!!!! That is not funny. I am soooo deprived. But, he doesn't want me sleeping with anyone else, so what is a girl to do???

 

[Mister Big]

Originally posted by frivolousz21
but I sitll dont think we need to play games..

Playing games can involve many situations from harmless intial flirting games to cruel relationship mind games. When games involve manipulation, guilt, or lies, I check out every time. If someone uses these approaches on me, I count myself lucky and NEXT her immediately. There are too many other options to settle for less and compromise yourself.

Both men and women can subscribe to this behavior because many lack confidence and emotional intelligence. Younger women and DJs can get away with this for at least a short time because they are more in demand, know it, and manipulate others into not recognizing the manipulation. Just because you can doesn't make it a way to live your life.

 

[Mister Big]

Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
But, he doesn't want me sleeping with anyone else, so what is a girl to do???

Of course he doesn't want you with someone else. What man wants this? This doesn't make what you have any more special. It is simply human nature. I think you've got enough ideas. Get to work and get back with the results.

 

[frivolousz21]

I agree with you Misterbig that makes a lot of sense to look at it that way.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

This is so confusing. i don't want to lwave and I don't want to deal with this constantly headache. I love him alot. I just wish me saying this would be anough to change things, but it is not and it hurts like he11. Should I give an ultimatum, slowly drift, or just call a quits completely?