BUSY or BULLSH!T???

[Mortukai]

I haven't read ALL of this thread (it's 5 pages, so stfu), but I've read the first and last pages. So forgive me if this has already been mentioned, but...

Do you think perhaps it's a possibility that this guy is doing what he's doing because he sees how effective it is on you? Hmm?

Think about it. You are here, tearing your hair out over HOW TO BE WITH HIM MORE. You are stressing over WANTING HIM.

I think it's patently obvious to anyone here that you are nuts for this guy. He rocks your fvcking world, and you want him to be a bigger part of your world.

Do you think, perhaps, that this guy has also noticed this? You might think you're all tricky and subtle and mysterious around him, but he's known you for long enough to see through all that crap, much more than you'll ever admit. Us guys usually don't let girls know just how much we can see right through them, because as soon as we let them know, they do backflips trying to confuse and misdirect us so we can't figure them out again. So we let them believe their smokescreen is impenetrable.

But trust me on this, this dude has noticed the patterns. He has noticed that the more he has fun and hangs out with his buddies, the more you want him and the better the time is when you are together. In other words, by minimising the QUANTITY of time he spends with you, he notices a drastic increase in QUALITY of that time. This would all be subconscious too.

He has you exactly where he wants you: wanting him BAD. Whatever he's doing, is bloody effective. If you're half as hot as you've mentioned you are, then this guy is clearly one baddass DJ to make you go so crazy for him.

Do yourself a favour girl, don't try to mess up what you've got eh? If you enjoy the feeling of attraction you feel for this guy, it's much better that you don't do something stupid that would minimize that attraction, like, I dunno, spending more time with him and becoming bored with the everyday facets of his life. Learn to be happy with what you've got, and enjoy the power of your attraction for him.

 

[Eternal]

...

Long story short:

Guys who are arguing with each other: chill out

Guys who told her to shut up because her guy has a life:

Jus_like_candy: There are a few things you need...

www.datingissues.com

:kick:

Your guy has a life and you are mad about it...:crackup:

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

ETERNAL!! OH MY GOD! I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY MAN ON THIS DAMN THREAD!

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

Okay!! That makes sense. When we see eaxh other, we are all over each other cause we missed each other. So, if I saw him more, that feeling would be gone?? I really don't think so. Maybe for him, but, for me it wouldn't. If you truly care for somone, you can't get enough of them..... I care about him. I just don't like feeling like the after thought. I feel used, and taken advanage of. I have a lot to offer and it's like he doesn't even want to see that.....If I say these things to him, will that be effective?

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

GUYS.........DO NOT.......
DO NOT
DO NOT
DO NOT
DO NOT
ANSWER HER ANY MORE!!!!
STOP IT
STOP IT
NEW AND OLD GUYS
NEW AND OLD GUYS
STOP IT
STOP IT
DO NOT ANSWER HER ANY MORE!!!!!!

 

[frivolousz21]

IF HE ONLY SEES YOU 1 TIME A WEEK..
IT MEANS HE DOENST WANT TO SEE YOU!

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

FRIV, you fvckin dumb-azz....stop it already, she cannot be a don juan, just fvckin stop this shyt.......candy, get the hell off this site...........god damn, god damn, why in the fvck cant these motafvckas see what the hell is going on......dumb azzes....

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

Pvssy Eater, stop being a pvssy....

 

[Mortukai]

Yes, you've got a lot to offer.... Do you think he doesn't know that? You've said so yourself, this guy can have anyone. He is super popular and the girls are all over him.

But he's with you.

YOU.

Not anyone else.

And he has his pick of the litter.

And he's known you for what, 18 months in total?

I think it's safe to assume that he knows what you have to offer, and he likes what he sees enough to be exclusive with you.

In other words, he likes you enough to NOT stick his d1ck in all the free pvssy that is constantly being thrown at him, despite having every oppurtunity.

Please, JLC, try, real hard, to realise that your guy likes you plenty. It's not about how much he likes you at all. That is not at issue. It's all about how much this dude has his sh1t together. Which is a lot. He has his life in order, he is being a man, and he is ALLOWING you to come along for the ride ON HIS TERMS. Which is EXACTLY WHAT HE SHOULD BE DOING BECAUSE HE IS A REAL MAN.

As hard as it might be for you to see it, this is a huge reason why you find him so attractive. Because he's a fvcking rock. No matter what, he's beinga rock. No matter how much you try to break him by crashing down on him with your emotional waves, he's being a rock. A weak rock would be smashed and forgotten on the tides of your emotions. But this guy is a fvcking strong-ass big mofo rock, and he ain't going nowhere, so he's constantly presenting a challenge to your waves.

Give it up already girl. You don't need to be here. You've found your Real Man. Embrace him. Don't try to change him, because you fell in love with who he IS, not who you want him to become (which would be very unattractive to you because when a girl changes a man the result is a wuss). Just embrace him and your love for him, and go and continue being the woman he chooses to be with. Just be careful of yourself, because you might fvck up and cease being the woman he chooses.

But you don't need to be here in this forum.

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
Pvssy Eater, stop being a pvssy....

Times like this I wish I was still a mod so I can close this...

Look "Jus_LikeCandy," shut up already. You are mad because your guy has a life that doesn't include being around you. You hate this because you HAVE to be the center of his life. Women like you sit back and cry when their guy doesn't run right over when they call. If anything, tell HIM to come to this site. He can show a lot of people on here how to act like a MAN, not like a whining wimp.

 

[spider_007]

Originally posted by PVSSY-EATER
ETERNAL!! OH MY GOD! I THOUGHT I WAS THE ONLY MAN ON THIS DAMN THREAD!

Listen up budd, it's nice that you are a man and all, but forget that for a moment and put your self in her shoes, if you will.

It's great for the guy. He obviously knows haw to keep a bootey call (but then again he could be doing that intentionally). Naw she wats something more then a one week thing. Can you blame her!!!!!!! In fact if you really love somebody, wouldn't you want to be with her.... I AGREE, A MAN hast to wach his step, because we have a habit of losing it, but is i really wrong for her to want to be with him......

 

[Eternal]

Originally posted by spider_007
Listen up budd, it's nice that you are a man and all, but forget that for a moment and put your self in her shoes, if you will.

It's great for the guy. He obviously knows haw to keep a bootey call (but then again he could be doing that intentionally). Naw she wats something more then a one week thing. Can you blame her!!!!!!! In fact if you really love somebody, wouldn't you want to be with her.... I AGREE, A MAN hast to wach his step, because we have a habit of losing it, but is i really wrong for her to want to be with him......

It's not wrong for her to want to be with him, but the way she is acting isn't the way to get it done. She's basically throwing a temper tantrum because her guy has a life. He's acting like a challenge, which I can garuntee you that she acted like before. She can't stand the fact he isn't coming everytime she talks to him.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

Mortukai, That is really awesome. The best explanation yet. I guess this is true. All of the other men I have been with have basically gone along for my ride. I guess the excitement comes from going along with his.....

I guess I would be bored or less interested if he was to bow down or fold because I wanted him to. I like his strength and his determination. We both share that same stubborness....

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

whats going to eventually happen, if that this site will turn into a place for women, and all the real men are goign to be pushed to the side.......and the whole damn world will revolve aroudn women, because of azzholes who teach women how to be men, and at the same time, come to a site that teaches AFCS how to be men, so men can rule and lead like they are supposed to. He says, look at her side.....

she likes the fact that he is a challenge, and she is just here trying to figure out why and how, so she can conquer that. Any idiot should know this by now, hell, even if you have been on this site for two days. Guys who have 300 posts under their belt need their azzes kicked. She is here snooping around trying to discover some hidden truth, and you guys are just helping her instead of tellling her to get the hell off a MANS SITE, AND THIS IS A FVCKING A MANS SITE, and go learn how to be more of a woman.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

I am not trying to be like a man Pvssy Eater. You have it all wrong. I am not playing games with him or trying to "conquer" him as you put it. When a man falls for a woman and they date, he is being conquered? That is ridiculuos!!! That is bull. Bitter men like yourself feel this way. When you experience love, no that petty @ss junior high sh1t, but Real Love, you will change your fvcked up views.

 

[Mister Big]

Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
When you experience love, no that petty @ss junior high sh1t, but Real Love, you will change your fvcked up views.

"Real Love" involves more than one date a week, period. I see 4 women casually right now and all of them get a better deal than you do in your so-called "LTR." When I skip a week with any one, I plan something special to retain her interest. Some don't deal and I understand why. Most of these women really like me, so I am sure that you are not that different in your emotional situation with your man.

I have maintained a level of constructive positivity until now. Here is something graphic to consider. If your guy is not with other women, he must be rubbing it off in a circle jerk with his Frat buddies in the time he's away from you. Sex once a week by choice is not near enough for any real man unless you are fighting for the heavyweight boxing title. Maybe you should call Cheaters to investigate him and confirm my suspicion: that he is cheating on you with rosy palm and her five sisters. lol.

No woman that's worth dating would buy this "I can only see you one time per week" shyte after several months of seeing just each other. Once a week is too low a fequency to be in an LTR without some significant reason: away at war, transcontinental romance, etc. You are being played and have degraded your value into something pathetic. He has either a very low sex drive or is tagging several women just like you on the side. Not a good situation either way you cut it. Wake up.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

God, I hate this. i feel like I have degraded myself. That is why I feel like shyt. I feel like I am being used and like I am worthless to him. I just care for him so much and hope that one day things will change. but, the possibility of that doesn't look so good. It is going to hurt so bad going through this again...I should have just left it go in the first place.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

And, this one day a week thing is not planned. If I look back at the history of the last two months, that is what it has been.....One day a week. Someone says he is keeping his distant until he knows he can trust me again...I don't know.

 

[Mister Big]

Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
...I should have just left it go in the first place.

Better foresight is something you gain in time. Attraction and emotional history make it difficult to establish the best path with someone else. I try to learn from my experiences and don't repeat negative trends regardless of the person involved. It took me a long time to figure this approach out and it works well. You are young and can move on easily from this. Count yourself lucky.

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

mister big, haha, do you really think you can help a woman be a woman? hahaahahahahahahaahahahahahahaa