OK guys.. catching up on my posting. Hi 5 to OceanWindRider for moving this forward!
I'm combining my EC's with my hi's. I am doing well at the hi's, so I'll be going for some stretch goals here...
A little about me and my situation... I've returned to graduate school. A lot of days, I either wander around campus, or spend time in a local coffee shop studying. I can add other places I frequent as this boot camp moves along.. just giving some context... Anyhow, am 10-15 years older than many of the students. That's made me feel a bit out of place here. It's not clear to me that I want to date with that age gap. But, I want to use the boot camp to challenge being a little uncomfortable here... To my advantage, I don't look my age. I've kept my weight down, and hit the gym regularly... Today, noticed a cute (not hot, tho) coed staring at my chest while I was walking along. I was too caught up absorbing that to do anything. My hair has thinned some, and I wonder if I use that as an excuse. Anyhow.. that's enough of my "stuff" to give context.
Yesterday, got 18 hi's in. My norm is to go for EC. About 2/3 the time, I get it. About half the hi's get a return. I've found saying "hi" works better than my other line, "how's it going?" Guess hi is more direct, and how's it going is too long in a quick walk by. Some of the more memorable hi's.. Got a brief conversation with a cute but shy asian gal. There was a brief conversation with an older gentleman at the campus coffee house about the wireless connection, I initiated the hi. There was this one cute gal, white.. I walked past, went for EC, but did not get it, said hi. She dropped out of her little world... stopped ..and after I was by her, she made a point to turn around and say hi. I went on with the biggest grin on my face, that someone would actually do that. She made me feel that good. Nice to think WE can make someone else feel that good too with a simple hello...
Today, I got about 17 hi's in. Went for EC on all, got it on about 12 or so. About half said something back. Some more memorable hi's.. said hi's to 4 HB8+'s. One gave me a smile, then looked down shyly. An HB8+ who's shy.. interesting.. I gave another a weak hi, not sure she heard it. Got nothing back. A third one, I said hi very audibly.. was walking on past. She didn't even flinch. I just thought she was rude, and said something bad about herself. Here a whole other person acknowledges her with a friendly direct hello, isn't out to harm her in any way, and she can't even recognize him. She looked pretty 2 dimensional at that point, no depth. The fourth.. said it as both of us were coming out of restrooms. She didn't say anything back, but it was a rushed situation, so I didn't make anything out of that. Glad I just did the hi as a reflex reaction to seeing her... I also said hi to 3 groups of people.. this is important to me, since opening groups is a good skill. Said hi to 6 or so guys. That's important to me, since I don't want to be intimidated by guys either, guys make great friends, and they can help establish social proof.
My stretch goals for now will be:
-hi's to the more attractive women
-hi's to men appearing dominant
-hi's to groups
-hi's to people across a room (not next to me). I'd love to open people who just catch my eye across a room.. Can't remember ever doing this.
-Keeping confident posture and maintaining EC after the hi.
-Trying compliments.
Comment on any alternative stretch goals. I'm being mindful of what we need to do down the road, which is get numbers from several women, and do it in a way that minimizes flaking.
35/50 hi's done
