My fellow DJ's-in-training, I've attempted bootcamp before and I've made it as far as week four. I only stopped because I made the mistake of becoming exclusive with one of the girls I was dating.
I would like to share with you the knowledge that I've gained. Here are some Frequently Asked Questions.
Does the bootcamp really work?
YES!
As I said earlier, I attempted bootcamp last fall and I stuck to it religously for 4 weeks. I amazed myself. I never in my life thought I could approach a girl or be as social as I have become. But in order for this to work, you have to commit to this program and you have to complete the exercises. It's up to you but this really can make your life better. Take action for once in your life!
Week # 1 seems pretty simple, can I skip it?
NO!
1. If you skip the most simple part of the bootcamp, you will start taking other shortcuts and skip other steps. In order for this to work you have to follow the bootcamp EXACTLY.
2. If you follow the program and stick to it, you will start to gain mental momentum. You will feel a positive energy build in yourself that will stay with you going into the more difficult weeks.
3. If you can't even say hi to people or make eye contact, how are you going to talk to them later in the bootcamp?
EYE CONTACT EXERCISE:
I feel weird trying to get eye contact from strangers, won't they think I'm strange?
1. You don't know what other people are thinking. That is your own limiting belief. There is no way in the world you can possibly know what other people think of you so stop wasting your time and energy worrying about it. That's why you are doing this bootcamp, to shatter the limiting beliefs you hold about yourself.
2. Your goal here isn't to get acceptance or approval from the other person. You are doing this to make yourself toughen up so you can hold eye contact with people in actual social settings.
3. Everything you are doing in Bootcamp is for practice. You won't be "staring down" EVERYONE when this is over.
If someone is walking towards me, how soon should I make eye contact?
I find that if you make eye contact about 30 to 50 feet away. People will more often hold your gaze.
No one makes eye contact with me, or they look away right away, what should I do?
Like I said in the previous post, if they are walking towards you, start your eye contact sooner. If they look away, guess what? You are succeeding with the exercise. The point of the exercise is to hold the other person's eye contact LONGER than they hold yours.
SAYING HELLO TO 50 STRANGERS:
How do I keep track of the 50 hello's?
I carry a small, pocket-sized notebook with me in my back pack just for Bootcamp. After every set of hi's, I write down, the date, location, and description of the girl. That's right I make my bootcamp harder by only counting hi's to girls I'm attracted to.
Who should I say hi to?
Anyone you choose to. But like I said, I say hi to everyone and only count HB's that I'm attracted to towards my 50 hi's. Whenever you have a doubt on something like this, go with the most challenging alternative.
Should I only say hi to girls/people that give me eye contact?
NO!
Say hi whether you first get eye contact or not. One of my most memorable hi's last fall was to an EXTREMELY HOT blonde girl that I approached from behind in Target. I said hi before she even knew I was there, then she turned around and said hi to me and gave me a smile that nearly made me cream in pants. Now go say hi, be a man stop being a pvssy.
Sometimes girls/people I say hi to don't say hi back, what am I doing wrong?
NOTHING!
If someone doesn't return your hi then who cares? You're not puting yourself "out there" that much. It's not like you asked anyone out, you just said hello! You were just being freindly. Some people are stuck up, or are *******s or bytches. Face it, the world has a lot of difficult people in it. But don't worry there are plenty of normal, social people out there who will have the decency to return a simple hello.
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Where should I do the exercises?
Any public place will work. The mall, stores, bookstores, campuses, Walmart, bars, clubs, parks. Exercise trails are great places for eye contact
Can I get by only doing the exercises with people walking towards me?
Sure if you want to take the easy way out. When people are walking towards you, making eye contact or saying hi is an easy shot to make. To really grow socially, you have to do what is most difficult FOR YOU, mix it up. Say hi to people sitting down or who aren't facing you, now that takes balls!
I'm too afraid of rejection to even say hello or make eye contact, what should I do?
BE A MAN! GRAB YOUR BALLS AND DO IT ANYWAY!!
It's never easy to overcome shyness. But every one of us needs to at some point. You just have to do it one step at a time and this is one way to do it. You have commited yourself to bootcamp, if you can't do it now, then when will you? Quit procrastinating. Make your life better today, one step at a time.
I don't feel like doing bootcamp exercises today. I'll do them tomorrow.
There is no tomorrow! There is only right now. "I'll do it tomorrow" always turns into "I'll do it next year". Fvck that, you could die tomorrow. You have to make your life better TODAY. RIGHT NOW!! One step at a time. Push yourself forward! You have to do the exercises, even when you don't feel like it, You have to do them ESPECIALLY when you don't feel like it. The only way to grow is to push yourself out of your comfort zone. If you're not comfortable doing something, congratulations! You're doing just fine.
