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Boys,
it isn't the WOMEN you dislike, it's the CULTURE producing them.
Consider the circumstances that produce these people. Men and women alike. Culture, society, families, education. Really, the girls you're seeing or dating COME from a learned background over 18, 21, 25 years, and are foisted upon the world. While people CAN and DO choose things, if their options are limited and the options provided are not good, what can be done to change the product?
American men speak of foreign, but why?
-Because they grow up (supposedly) in a very family-oriented culture where the young girl does work WITH her mother, such as cooking, cleaning, and house-tending.
Contrast: Most American girls don't do anything cleaning except their own rooms, if that. They don't work excrutiatingly HARD jobs during their formative years, like construction, sales, pizza delivery, bouncing, landscaping, stocking, etc. Alot of girls are treated so well by their daddy, they don't DEVELOP the skills or the character to enjoy work, be good at it, or have the temperment for it. They might "help", but it is not a cornerstone of the American family to say "Girls do this, Boys do that."
-Because they grow in a society with less. Most foreign countries allow for the simplicities of life. Some, on the other hand, are very into protecting women, such as Sweden. If you come from little, you expect little. Generally speaking.
Contrast: As the richest country in the world, with LOTS of borrowing on credit cards beginning at 18, we have a very HAVE it NOW society. That's a fact. The average debt of consumers is $8500 on credit cards, and when it's not PARENTS buying it for us, it's Grandparents, or even ourselves. Teens are ASSUMED to go to college, and most aren't paying CASH now, so nobody see's the transaction occur. Nobody sees the sacrifices made. How many girls are paying next to nothing to be at expensive private universities, but make little use of such degrees?
-Laws in some countries are more liberal. Some countries in Europe are more MAN-geared, where guys are afforded more protection under the laws regarding divorce, decreasing their emphasis on divorce.
Contrast: If you see America from THE OUTSIDE, it's very feminine. Women are afforded more protection under laws, both divorce and as it relates to abuse, because, for some reason they're seen as weaker. Yet they seem to exert MORE power in the media. Which is it? Weak and feeble or strong and sexual? If they're weak, why not act it, and be worthy of the protection? If they're as they are portrayed in the media, why so many benefits poured on them?
Opportunities: Alot of countries aren't up to the supposedly PROGRESSIVE values of the US that are pushed on us. We see this equality, but DEEP DOWN, guys know it not to be true. EVERY guy has dated a woman and has to wonder:
"How the fawk can business run if she can't remain calm or sane in business?"
Do we see the fallacy? The future business leaders of the world are the hores hopping c0ck on local campuses and bars, and those fickle women who can't decide what they want? NOBODY will admit it, but having worked in a variety of places, under 20% of ALL women are capable of being in a business environment. If it's not related to the end customer, squables over sex in the workplace are all for naught. I do not believe we should have hiring quotas and sex protection laws IN business. It's the best PERSON for the job, EVEN if your skills lead you to nursing, teaching, care-taking, or administrative jobs, and even that has its downside.
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Not ALL products of American culture are bad. Some are fantastic, but what I would say is...giving PEOPLE too much to begin with makes them weak, unappreciative, and lazy. It's ALMOST a rule, or law.
So you say, "What's the solution?" Get a better product.
WE know the facts. A man's role REALLY hasn't changed. For real. The same jobs are there, just on lower demand. We still work in offices. Just more hours. The suits are a little nicer, and we can work from with the Internet, but don't we still provide for the family? Don't MOST guys learn to do household activities from their dads or grandfathers? Don't we ALL go to school, start our own businesses, invest, get educated, get in trouble? I'd say so. Stats might change a bit, because the population is larger, but by and large, technology has ensured that we can earn more money, if we choose to.
What HAS changed is the product, and how we DEAL with it. Men have been wussified to a certain extent because they are using OLD weapons on a NEW foe. It's like using Bows and Arrows in war, when we're now dropping bombs. It's that way. Guys still have the same basic state of mind OR weaker. Yet the product is different.
Am I griping @ women? That's your call. Let the flaming begin by the few single women here.
Point is, can it be denied? I don't think so.
If a girl has a broken home, normally her expectations are low, which means she'll be tremendously bad as a wife.
If a girl comes from a very tight knit home, where daddy did everything, she wants/expects the same care. Maybe he doesn't have to LOOk like him, but she grew up doing that like a young girl, why should it change now?
Don't we guys want AT least what we had as kids, AND a while bunch more? Isn't the childhood a BASE of what we want? Obviously a ghetto baby wouldn't want the ghetto, but they certainly don't want less than that either.
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Realize that MOST women you see will be of this ilk. You'll have to dig DEEP to find a girl of the more "traditional" sense. I do think the products of society CAN weaken the children, and they are.
Otherwise KNOW what you're dealing with, a very strong asp, who will bite for more.
That's 1 reason marriage is in decline. So if you want marriage, you'll prob. be looking elsewhere. Likewise with long-term relationships.
A-Unit
