A girl's perspective on boundaries

[guru1000]

TarantulaHawk, our neighborhood mascot is trolling. He already admits imposing boundaries upon a plate not to smoke in his car and then supports the reverse-position, lol. He's just looking for attention; not very different than a woman. Don't feed "it."

 

[TarantulaHawk]

LMAO someone can't understand sarcasm.

Has nothing to do with a woman being stupid enough not to know what it means to go to a restaurant or store like you guys claim she has no understanding of what a relationship is.

You're The411/Demfeeelz/Tictac.

No. You just used a bad example.

LOL. If they didn't care they wouldn't have wanted to go out with her to contact her before we became exclusive.

It wasn't a "boundary". She was telling them she isn't interested in them..

It is though. She told them she has a man.

Quality women will do things for men of value. You have to tell her to get rid of other men cause you have no value,.

If she already knows your "value" she wouldn't need to verbalize what she told those other men because she'd already know you "know" your value to her and not have to verbalize what she told them.

LMAO. Why would she? I bet that's what you boundary guys do with your women to make sure she is following through with "your terms".

You "bet"? You should just know what you claim and not need to verbalize it.

LMAO. Nice projection! Sure beats having you needing to be insecure enough to stoop so low to define terms to her to get rid of men.

Any woman who wants a man will get rid of jokers they don't need.

Not sure why you and the crew have such a hard time understanding something that isn't that difficult when a woman wants you.

So why would you need to keep going on about it if you're a man of value? Shouldn't everyone just "know"?

Your "girlfriend" told you because you aren't that high value as you claim. If you were and she should just "know" you already know and wouldn't need to tell you she had to tell other men she has a man. You'd be high value enough to not need to hear it nor would she feel the need to tell you.

After all. That is what you're claiming. Try harder.

TarantulaHawk, our neighborhood mascot is trolling. He already admits imposing boundaries upon a plate not to smoke in his car and then supports the reverse-position, lol. He's just looking for attention; not very different than a woman. Don't feed "it."

I know. The kid amuses me. lol

 

[RangerMIke]

Okay, so if you are not interested in being in an exclusive relationship, why are you posting in a thread specifically about being in one?

Regarding girls that you are seeing fvcking other men: Some may find this "I don't give a sh!t" attitude admirable, and if it works for you, great. Personally, I find it repulsive to think about banging the same hole that another penis has recently been in, and it becomes more repulsive exponentially. The more other men she has been fvcking, the more repulsive I find it.

It's like another thread here recently, talking about prostitutes. Maybe one girl has had 30 lovers in her lifetime, the prostitute may have had 30 in the last few weeks. Each is repulsive, the latter is moreso. While it's cool if you don't share this repulsion, I think it is a perfectly natural reaction to. There's an evolutionary advantage to finding a womb that other men's sperm don't have access to. It significantly increases the likelihood of your sperm passing on your DNA.


I don't feel a NEED to either. It's just that in my infinite thoughtfulness, I am letting her know what my expectations are so she doesn't find herself out on her @ss. I'm just that cool a guy


I agree with leading by example, I am a big proponent of that. I think that's a major part of leading, especially with women, you have to role model proper behavior for them. I am true to my WORD also, which is why I verbalize the boundary.

Just trying to explain why I think the way I do.

Best of luck to finding a virgin. Because whatever your woman says her number is.... multiply it by three. Women love sex, and they are total slvts. If this makes you uncomfortable then.... well.... I'm not sure how you deal with reality.

 

[Soolaimon]

Go ahead and set all the boundaries you want.

After you set them it's up to the woman to follow them or not.

Boundaries doesn't prevent her from cheating or stop her from keeping men in the background hidden from you.

When she breaks them you are going to have to dump her.

She is only going to follow them as long as she is attracted to you.

When she is attracted to you and understands what a relationship is there is no need to set a boundary.

Zekko feels it's ok for his woman to talk and text other men. Basically she is entertaining other men from a far but he is against her hanging out with those men.

How will his verbal boundary prevent her from hanging out with those men when they get cozy from all that talking and texting?

It won't cause boundaries don't prevent anything.

All it does it give you guys false assurance that she won't cheat on you with her "own words" of agreement at that particular time.

When her feelings change she will cheat on you with your boundaries.

So why would you need to keep going on about it if you're a man of value? Shouldn't everyone just "know"?

Everybody here does not "know" cause they keep repeating the same fallacies over and over claiming women won't cut men out on their own when they certainly will.

Your "girlfriend" told you because you aren't that high value as you claim. If you were and she should just "know" you already know and wouldn't need to tell you she had to tell other men she has a man. You'd be high value enough to not need to hear it nor would she feel the need to tell you.

WTF? Nice projection and trolling again.

She told the other men that she had no use for them when she decided that she wanted me.

The same thing I told other women who still wanted to date me.

There was no reason to "inform her" or "define terms" when she did what I wanted her to do without me having to tell her.

I can't believe how ignorant and clueless you people are about women.

I guess in order to be "high value" like you (and some of the others claim) you need to inform the woman that she can't see those men anymore thinking you have value when you don't.

If you had value in the first place you wouldn't have to tell a woman not to see other men. She would already recognize your value to drop those men who should be of no use to her.

You guys have to define terms and come up with gimmicks to get your women to drop men. That's pathetic!

If a woman is that stupid that you need to inform her of what a relationship means and she can't figure it out on her own then you deserve what you get when you get cheated on later in the relationship.

 

[TarantulaHawk]

Everybody here does not "know" cause they keep repeating the same fallacies over and over claiming women won't cut men out on their own when they certainly will.

You still had to explain yourself from the beginning. Since your "value" didn't do it for you.

WTF? Nice projection and trolling again.

She told the other men that she had no use for them when she decided that she wanted me.

The same thing I told other women who still wanted to date me.

There was no reason to "inform her" or "define terms" when she did what I wanted her to do without me having to tell her.

I can't believe how ignorant and clueless you people are about women.

I guess in order to be "high value" like you (and some of the others claim) you need to inform the woman that she can't see those men anymore thinking you have value when you don't.

If you had value in the first place you wouldn't have to tell a woman not to see other men. She would already recognize your value to drop those men who should be of no use to her.

You guys have to define terms and come up with gimmicks to get your women to drop men. That's pathetic!

If a woman is that stupid that you need to inform her of what a relationship means and she can't figure it out on her own then you deserve what you get when you get cheated on later in the relationship.

You still had to verbalize to others your boundaries. You have a girlfriend she has a boyfriend. It didn't matter your value. You still had to verbalize them.

Try again.

 

[guru1000]

You still had to explain yourself from the beginning. Since your "value" didn't do it for you.


You still had to verbalize to others your boundaries. You have a girlfriend she has a boyfriend. It didn't matter your value. You still had to verbalize them.

Try again.

StrawSooli has so much value, he need not say anything to anyone; it's just understood. Lmao

 

[TarantulaHawk]

StrawSooli has so much value, he need not say anything to anyone; it's just understood. Lmao

Of course.

He just feels the need to keep verbalizing what is already "understood" to himself, his girlfriend, and everyone else in his exclusive relationship. Hahaha

 

[RangerMIke]

RangerMike,

I do not think zekko said anything about virgins so not sure where that is coming from.

By his own admission, he stated that women who slept with other men he finds repulsive... only why I know NOT to be repulsed by sex is to find a virgin.

 

[zekko]

Best of luck to finding a virgin. Because whatever your woman says her number is.... multiply it by three. Women love sex, and they are total slvts. If this makes you uncomfortable then.... well.... I'm not sure how you deal with reality.

Believe it or not, I've never been one of these guys who insists on finding a virgin. There are some out there, but they're too rare to be practical. As you say, you have to deal with reality. I was talking about the effects of evolutionary advantage on gender dynamics.

My point was that in general, the higher the girl's number, the more slvtty/low quality she appears to be. My other point was that I find it particularly disgusting to be banging a girl who is also currently banging some other guy. Which is one reason I tend to prefer relationships.

 

[guru1000]

Where is StrawSooli hiding? Maybe he has so much value, he need not impose any more boundaries in this thread :crackup:

 

[TarantulaHawk]

Where is StrawSooli hiding? Maybe he has so much value, he need not impose any more boundaries in this thread :crackup:

Strawman Sooli should star in the "Wizard of Odd". "If he only had a brain."

Sooli is lurking thinking of ways he can throw whatever sh1t he can to see what sticks like an A.D.D afflicted chimp in the Zoo. We need him to meditate, medicate and do whatever he needs to do to focus on his own useless boundaries he verbalizes in his exclusive relationship.

We need to all focus on sooli's own useless boundaries he chooses to use in his exclusive relationship. Instead of focusing on everyone else's useless boundaries.

After all. Sooli did verbalize he's in an exclusive relationship which is a useless boundary in and of itself that he shouldn't need to verbalize to others. Why would Sooli have to verbalize he's in an exclusive relationship if it should be just "understood" by himself, his girlfriend and everyone else based strictly off Sooli and his girlfriends value alone?


We're waiting Sooli. Remember. Focus. Focus. It's about your useless boundaries you've verbalized to everyone about your verbalized useless boundary of your exclusive relationship.

 

[sylvester the cat]

Strawman Sooli should star in the "Wizard of Odd". "If he only had a brain."

Sooli is lurking thinking of ways he can throw whatever sh1t he can to see what sticks like an A.D.D afflicted chimp in the Zoo. We need him to meditate, medicate and do whatever he needs to do to focus on his own useless boundaries he verbalizes in his exclusive relationship.

We need to all focus on sooli's own useless boundaries he chooses to use in his exclusive relationship. Instead of focusing on everyone else's useless boundaries.

After all. Sooli did verbalize he's in an exclusive relationship which is a useless boundary in and of itself that he shouldn't need to verbalize to others. Why would Sooli have to verbalize he's in an exclusive relationship if it should be just "understood" by himself, his girlfriend and everyone else based strictly off Sooli and his girlfriends value alone?


We're waiting Sooli. Remember. Focus. Focus. It's about your useless boundaries you've verbalized to everyone about your verbalized useless boundary of your exclusive relationship.

Why are you resorting to personal insults? I know Danger is averse to personal insults. If you have a genuine case to make then make it without the personal insults. That is if you have a case to make.

 

[guru1000]

Actually Sylvester, insults aside, TarantulaHawk makes a cogent argument. According to StrawSooli, verbalizing boundaries is not necessary to a man of value, as the "rules" will be simply understood as the man has value and thus the "pick of the litter," hence not subjugating himself to any woman who doesn't already understand all the rules.

In this context, the fact that StrawSooli verbalizes boundaries to us about not verbalizing boundaries, his gf about their exclusivity status, and his orbiters to buzz off as he's in an exclusive relation, contradicts his "great" value. So in accordance with StrawSooli's philosophy, either he has little value thus having to verbalize boundaries or his "value doctrine" is fallacious. Further, if only low-value men verbalize boundaries and if he verbalized a no-smoking boundary to his gf, then by fact of this incident alone, StrawSooli has little value; and if his value is low, then the reverse-argument would be that he would then have to verbalize boundaries--so why is he arguing against boundaries? LOL

 

[sylvester the cat]

Actually Sylvester, insults aside, TarantulaHawk makes a cogent argument. According to StrawSooli, verbalizing boundaries is not necessary to a man of value, as the "rules" will be simply understood as the man has value and thus the "pick of the litter," hence not subjugating himself to any woman who doesn't already understand all the rules.

In this context, the fact that StrawSooli verbalizes boundaries to us about not verbalizing boundaries, his gf about their exclusivity status, and his orbiters to buzz off as he's in an exclusive relation, contradicts his "great" value. So in accordance with StrawSooli's philosophy, either he has little value thus having to verbalize boundaries or his "value doctrine" is fallacious.

Why the need to refer to Sooliman as Strawsooli? Why the personal insults? Does he call you 'verbioseguru'? or ''grandiloquentguru'? Is your case that flimsy?

 

[guru1000]

Any man who names himself after a cat has his own set of problems. Isn't that right, Smilie?

 

[TarantulaHawk]

Any man who names himself after a cat has his own set of problems. Isn't that right, Smilie?

Sylvester is either:

A) Sooli himself.

B) Sooli's exclusive other half.

C) Concern trolling to divert attention from the focus on the topic of Sooli's useless boundaries in his exclusive relationship.

We appreciate the run in Sylvester. Our focus is not on everyone's useless boundaries in exclusive relationships but on Sooli's useless boundaries in his exclusive relationship.


Anytime you're ready Sooli.

 

[No.Danny]

You guys must be fun at parties.....

 

[sylvester the cat]

I am averse to making the person the subject of the argument instead of the topic itself.

However again this is an example of the incongruencies you display that I had referenced before.

With solly's constant personal attacks and "insecures" riddled through-out his posts, doesn't it strike you as odd that you called out ONLY guru who seems to have done so only in response to solly's pervasive insults?

Dunno. Guess I just expected better from guru.

 

[sylvester the cat]

Stop being such a vagina

Lol. Lick me.

 

[:-)]

If a woman's behavior is unacceptable, tell her.

She either WILL comply or she won't.

Your boundary may be unacceptable to her, or she simply doesn't care if you walk. Then, she will not comply.

So you walk.

Why is this a big issue?

We're on page 12 of yet another countless boundary thread. Did you really think this was going to be a thread ender?