There's a good thread on in-person singles events & mixers linked below. Those structured singles events are usually complete shiit.
Mostly every unattached person has dealt with this. The potential invitation to a "singles event" or "singles mixer". It is a chance for unattached people to meet. It's not a general night out at a bar, which has unattached people interspersed with attached people. Everyone here is unattached by...
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If men are to arrange dates through in-person means, it would have to do through something less structured in the real world. That would mean approaching strangers in the following venues
- outdoor settings like parks or paths
- indoor retail settings like malls and grocery stores
- fitness classes (at the end of class) or on the general gym floor
- nightlife venues
It could also mean a return to social circle game. I've never had a social circle capable of arranging dates for me and I'm in my late 30s. Social circle is the best form of game for finding one girlfriend who is likely to be a longer lasting girlfriend than the girlfriend who you'd find through approaching strangers, app swiping, or sending DMs with far less grief and frustration.
The difficult part is building the social circle that can arrange these sorts of dates. I was never able to do that due to multiple relocation from childhood up until my late 20s. The guys who do social circle game best are the ones who spent their entire childhood in one place and then stayed in that same area as adults. So long as they were not social outcasts in K-12, they are able to take advantage of their deep local ties and a get a good hometown type girlfriend.
Your biggest mental health problem from lack of sex has been a reliance on porn. Here's what happened. Women weren't paying attention to you. You had sexual needs. You indulged in porn. You indulged in more porn. That caused PIED. That affected your confidence and self-worth.
Porn is a sedation tied into depression and anxiety too. Porn also messes with your dopamine more than cocaine or heroin.
To me, weed and beer are less dangerous sedatives than porn. It's an overall better case when a man is neglected by a woman to be a non-porn using, non-fapping alcoholic than a big time porn user.
Incel status is also closely related to poverty. If a man is sliding into incel territory and has money, he stops being incel by paying directly for sex.
Eliot Rodger was PISSED that his BMW 328 was not getting him attention from women. His 328 was a solid car. Eliot Rodger also wasn't doing enough in-person approaches. Lifetime, he only did one approach, and it was an approach lasting less than 30 seconds. He expecting girls to come to him, which doesn't happen, even with a sweet BMW 328.
