hey yall. just seen i got a strike.. maybe this might remove it.
i went out to manchester this weekend and had a blast. i went to a club on Friday night. i did talk to a few girls thought nothing really hit.
i tired opening with the "thumb war" thing since it was loud in there.
didn't
really work.
What? Thumb war is awesome and I have used it with great results, haha. Do not allow a woman to change who you are or the jokes/sayings you have. Thumb war shows you can just be a kid sometimes and enjoy a simple moment without overanalyzing situations.
anyway so other then that. i didn't really get much going for myself IN Manchester. HOWEVER. on the train ride home. i did talk to a girl for a little bit.
I sat across from her and for awhile we just kept looking at each other. she had headphones on. anyway. so after awhile
some guy dropped a coat on her head and i said something about it. then the convo just flowed from there.
Good, these openers are the most assertive because they create a "natural" flow in the interaction. Keep using these and don't be discouraged to use literally anything to open.
we talked for awhile about general stuff and things. she seamed pretty responsive.
after awhile I asked for her number and got it!
we got to talk about food since we had a long journey. she siad she was going to eat at subway. so a little while after i got home i messaged her with.
" enjoy the subway don't forget to get a chocolate chip cookie."
Mmm...you could have done better with this. If I were the chick, it would seem to me that you were just sitting around bored and had nothing better to talk about than a cookie in a restaurant. Improvise next time and CALL in a day or two instead of texting.
that was at like 6.. at 10 she messaged back. saying thanks it was yummy what's your name? ( i forgot to give my name. will remember for next time)
so after
playing the ****y and funny fluff talk for a few messages.
be careful with C&F over text messages. It is very easy to misinterpret what someone tells you in writing--especially if that person is a woman. i asked when she was next free. she replayed with
" haha no idea
maybe in the next couple of weeks."
This alone should have given you and idea of her low IL. A woman who is interested in you will not wait a "couple of weeks" to see you. Remember that you are the prize in this game, not her. If she really wanted to see you, she would have made time to see you. It's important that you learn to recognize these signs to avoid wasting time in plates that are not microwave safe, if you know what I mean.
i replayed with
" cool. so on Friday we are going for coffee and record shopping at 1:30"
This is weak. Again, most women don't take texting seriously. It is more of an entertainment source for them. There are many who have self-esteem issues/insecurities (especially with the women portrayed in the media that are "perfect"). This is the disease AW have, so keep an eye out for these girls. On a good note, I think the way you "verbalized" inviting her to go out with you is money! You simply made a statement of when and where you were meeting and did not give her a choice because you are the man; most women like this. I personally have a statement that is 90% similar to yours and rarely does it not work. If you get a girl giving you BS about your statement or saying you are controlling, it is most likely a sh!t test. If she says "why?" or "what makes you think I'm going?" keep your cool. Casually diffuse the test by giving her a reason & keeping an immaculate composure. Try something along the lines of "Cause I'm Packers2010 and it will be a lot of fun ; ] You know what I'm saying?" :yes:
she hasn't messaged back. That's ok though. if she doesn't i will just open her again on say Thursday or something and pretend it never happened.
She hasn't messaged you because she probably thinks you are not "manly" enough for her. I mean, you haven't taken the leadership by calling her. How does she know you will kiss her when it is right or that you won't be afraid of another male and confront him if he disrespects her or poses a threat? At a subconscious level, most women look for men who are no afraid to move forward, do what they want, or to take a stand. In fact, it is a turn-on for a significant number of women. Here is a little experiment for you: go out and interview a 3-5 women about their preferences when it comes to men and see what answers you get!
pretty stoked to get a number that didn't flake. anything from here on out is a bonus! she studies close to me also. witch would be good for meet ups and stuff. but whatever. i was messaging girls on POF and texting her at the same time so.
I used to get excited over little stuff all the time. I even came up with these day dreams and fantasies of how it all "fall in place" on its own and how good it would be. Unfortunately most of the time it doesn't work that way. When she starts calling you, or trying to get you to go out with her (inviting you places, banging you, etc) then you, my brother, have scored. In the meantime, try to stay away from strong emotions when it comes to new plates (unless they have proven themselves).
i'm going to see how far i can push this. maybe to a day 2. i know it's unlikely.
if all else fails i might just do the " AFC thing" and go the " lets just be friends" root. i DON'T have any friends here yet, so if all fails on the " dating side" of things, i will just DROP the ****y and funny and just tell her i am inviting her out as a friend only.
No comment.
The Plan ahead:
my idea is if she replies with the " i have a bf" crap. i will just tell her:
i don't even know if you have made the friend level yet! that's why we are meeting for coffee if it was a date it would be in a fancy restaurant like MacDonalds.
WHAT I LEARNT FROM THE ABOVE HAPPENINGS!
i realize now i can open in a situation. i used to go up to girls who was buying drinks at a bar and ask them what they was drinking and go from there I am having trouble talking to them face up. as in. if they are sitting on the train doing nothing.
i need to work on this.
