Slickster said:
The most important thing to remember in a lot of these videos is that the girl NEEDS to be open and receptive to the idea of hooking up with a random guy on the spot. I'm sure Chris will agree that if it's not there, it's just not there.
You can have tight game, look great and do everything right, however if she's not into it then your chances drop dramatically. The biggest X-factor in any approach is her "state" and it's something you can't predict or control. Did her dog just die? Is her Mom really sick? Did she just lose her job? Maybe she's just a super b!tch to everyone. Bad mood? Crazy in love with her new boyfriend? Pregnant? Etc, etc, etc. You just have to keep trudging forward and not let a rejection or negative interaction slow you down. Just move on to the next one. All these requests to see Chris's rejection videos are just silly. You aren't going to learn anything from that other than just seeing that he really doesn't give a sh!t. He is using pretty much the exact same approach in all these videos. No tricks or routines, he's just being bold and direct.
Back in the day I used to do tons of approaches and something I found out is that you tend to get a lot further being bold and direct with girls who are younger and on the shy/nerdy/timid side. These girls are automatically more "open" when an older good looking guy gives them attention because it gives them a confidence rush. Girls who are more outgoing and confident tend to be more sassy and you need to be more smooth, quick witted and have to work for it a little more.
That being said I've noticed a lot of responses saying that an uglier, skinnier guy wouldn't get the same reaction. Well if you are skinny and ugly then you have to choose your targets more selectively. Obviously you won't have the same amount of success with higher calibre women.
The 3 things that hold most guys back are:
- Lack of initiative - just get out there and approach confidently.
- Fear of rejection - accept that you can't control her state. Just keep approaching over and over and over.
- Temper your expectations - be honest with yourself about your looks and approach girls who are in your "range".
All the pick up theory in the world isn't going to help you if you ignore these 3 things. Conversely even if you don't know anything about pickup you are going to have a lot of success simply by being confident, motivated, and realistic.
Absolutely.
This is old news for a lot of people---
The girl is either sexually available or not. If she's sexually available, she is either DTF or not. A guy can test both by 'screening' which is mainly via physical advances and perhaps some flirtatious/sexual dialogue, but not necessarily. The factors that you refer to dictating state we call sexually availabilty. As you mention, ANYTHING and EVERYTHING can dictate this, including her logistics. The majority of it is out of your control with the exception of your LOOKS, STYLE and SOCIAL FREEDOM.
This concept of 'sexually availability' took me 2.5 years to figure out. Yes, 2.5 years. I was part of the mainstream PUA community that had an explanation for a go-nowhere interaction or rejection. Your voice tone was too high, your backturn was timed improperly, you didn't build enough attraction/comfort, you kino'ed too quickly, you did your routines out of order. There is valid explanation of why every interaction didn't really in wild, hot, kinky, wet sex. If the interactions didn't result in sex, you did something wrong. But don't worry, there's technique that would have changed the outcome.
Nothing about a number's game. Nothing about sexually availability.
For instance, you can grab a girl's hand and hold it any time during the interaction. You will find out where she stands. If she lets you hold it, you are IN. This is much different than "timing your kino" where you look for IOI's in order to figure out the "safest" time to touch the girl. I took a lot of criticism from inexperienced guys elsewhere on the "don't grab her hand so quickly!" They are playing a totally different game than we do. It's safe game, try to be smooth game, etc.. I know, I used to do that stuff to. It's works but anything "works" if the girl is available and dig you, but you move quite slowly.
Often I'd be in a interaction for 15minutes, starting to run out of "material" and not knowing if the girl liked me. This could have been solved by, for example, grabbing her hand and holding it.
A lot of guys end up with chicks that are aren't DTF because they are playing safe game. They end up making jokes over 3-4 weeks of text thread, multiple dates and kisses with girls that want boyfriends and are confused why it takes them so long to get laid.
This could have been solved in the first 10 minutes (or in some cases, 10 seconds, see video) by "screening" the girl with physical advances.
You save MAJOR time by being aggressive on your approach.
When you touch a girl in the first 1-2minutes or makeout/try to makeout with her in 4-5minutes,
SHE GETS IT. There is no confusing you with boyfriend material, a friend, nice guy or a *****.
You are trying to Get Laid. Some girls really dig it, regardless of their own experience level. These girls stand there or participate verbally in the interaction. The others will "Get Lost," as we say.
The guys that don't Get Laid by date #3 or #4 are usually aren't being aggressive enough and ending up with girls that are interested but not DTF. The girl is profiling them as boyfriend material and not a player that will fuk them good. You end up with the WRONG girl.
On the topic of "shorter or uglier or less-edgy or less masculine or younger/older" guy won't get the same reaction.
No they won't. That is no different than any other style of game. No "game" will work at a high level if you look like crap and dress like crap. This is because your techniques have very little to do with whether a girl wants to bang you.
The 3 factors are: LOOKS, STYLE, SOCIAL FREEDOM.
any sort of "game" is just your social freedom on display.
That is why I emphasize REALLY REALLY REALLY developing your looks and body (lowest body fat possible) and rocking an edgy style so girls will either GET LOST or they'll be DTF. I have an entire website about it.
Again, please please please remember- my advice (everything I say, above and everywhere else) is advice to GET LAID. not "meet women" "avoid rejection" "learn to be a pickup artist" "make her laugh" "how to go on a date".
Looks matters more for one-night stands and banging girls SAME DAY/NGIHT (GETTING LAID) than for committed relationships where girls will prefer a "safer" guy to a sexy guy that bangs a lot of girls.
Style matters more for one-stand stands and banging girl SAME DAY/NIGHT (GETTING LAID) than for committed relationships where girls will prefer a "safer" guy to a sexy guy that bangs a lot of girls.
anything I say, opinion I give it is with ONE GOAL in mind- GETTING LAID. The advice is contrary to other goals "avoid rejection" "how to get a phone number," etc. etc. you get the point
I'll do rejection (SHE GETS LOST) videos, each of these are like 1GB from Carlos' eyeball camera. I have to be selective about which I caption, upload, etc. but I'll do them, people in the GLL community want them too-
here's what it'll look like
Hey, I know this is random but I thought you were attractive and I wanted to come see what you were like.
"Thank you"
Hi, I'm Chris... HOLD HAND
"I'm XXXXX" pulls hand away
Cool so what are you up to shopping for shoes or something...
"I gotta go"
Hold up a second, don't be shy. GRAB HAND/ARM
"no I gotta go"
verbatim that is what happens.