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[Chow Mein]

It means someone is dehumanising women in order to 'juggle' them.
If you need to juggle, you're doing something wrong.

I think FwB would be a better term, you care about them and get benefits without the monogamy.

3-4 FwB’s would be the ideal for me, with a couple of ‘friends’ that don’t live in your city.

 

[FlexpertHamilton]

It means someone is dehumanising women in order to 'juggle' them.
If you need to juggle, you're doing something wrong.

I know what it's supposed to mean as defined by Rollo and the whole "plate spinning" theory makes sense, ie having abundance/options, but to literally refer to a woman as a plate is absurdly cringe.

I think FwB would be a better term, you care about them and get benefits without the monogamy.

3-4 FwB’s would be the ideal for me, with a couple of ‘friends’ that don’t live in your city.

Even 3-4 seems like it's pushing it, why isn't 2 or 3 enough already, hell why isn't 1 FWB you see once a week enough? I would ask, why would any man feel the need to have that much sex? Having sex 4-8 days out of the month with just 2 woman is plenty...past that you are getting into sex addiction territory, where you're deleting your sexual energy and dopamine instead of repurposing/channeling it.

 

[Clockwerk50]

No, that guy's a toddler, but you're heading in the right direction. I have no doubt that you figure it out, being the sharpest crayon in the box.

You sound lowkey salty because you didn’t think of my username first SMH. I get it, it's tough being outwitted by the sharpest crayon in the box

 

[zekko]

What I feel like doing is get some therapy, this is not a good way to live as other parts of my life are getting affected. Having options is great but there’s diminishing returns as well as a downward trend to quality of life after one point in time.

The first thing I thought when I read your post is where the heck do you find the time? I'd dial it back a bit and see if that works out any better for you. But I'm sure there are some guys here who would like to trade places with you lol.

 

[darksprezzatura]

So you've already ID'd the real problem. You are using sex as an escape alongside alcohol. One of my ex boyfriends was an enormous player previously. He talked about the difficulty in juggling 7-8 women and found it exhausting in short order. Like you he had trouble keeping information straight, and he had no time for himself....and he was retired!

Several bits of advice for you.

1. Consider trimming down the rotation to the few you most enjoy as others have suggested. If you miss the thrill of the hunt, figure out how best to scratch that itch or keep replacing girls with new ones until you find what you are looking for.

2. Your life is out of balance. Therapy, reduction of social schedule (women) and finding time for you could all be important to rebalance yourself. Find a therapist (if you go that route) who is non judgemental. You'd do best with a male.

3. Ask yourself WHY you seek so much external validation. Do you like you? Are you uncomfortable alone with your thoughts? Figure out why you are allowing yourself to careen out of balance.

4. A therapist is unlikely to have a grasp of the type of abundance you experience with women. May not understand "Thrill of the hunt" or the sexual conquest as your drug of choice, but such a person can help you wrestle the deeper issues driving those behaviors.

5. Come here to vent and discuss the chick issues. Many of the old guard are gone, but some still pop in from time to time. There will always be those who doubt your story as they cannot imagine having the experiences you are having.

Being a player becomes an empty existance after awhile. Many men who have never experienced that kind of abundance and seek after that as a pinnacle of dating have no idea the meaninglessness and emptiness that accompanies that lifestyle after awhile. It boils down to hedonism, and most people who devolve into hedonism are consumed by it. And that's not a good outcome.

Nice to see you & hope some of that resonates. You gotta find something intrinsically meaningful to put your energy into. And you've got to learn more about who you are and find internal validation. Figure those two things out & you'll purge the chaos from your life.

Thanks ma’am. I appreciate your inputs, as I have since years now, you indeed are an OG.
Your thought to see if I’m okay with myself is a beautiful piece of advice. It might be beneficial for me to write things out in a journal somewhere private apart from this place. Mostly when I write something here, I’m talking to myself, maybe more coherently than I would if it was a private journal. And it helps. 100%.

There obviously are new folks here, I see some long time posters here too, which is reassuring that the culture isn’t dead here.

I am not going to prove anything to anyone here about validity of my claims. If folks think being with 20 women a day is absurd, let me give you more details.

This month, I went out of the city to meet a girl I found lovely. She brought a friend, I slept with both of them, and they were okay with it. She came over the next day to suck me off while I was building my rotation for the next week.

On the way coming back to my own city, I made a stop to sleep with two more girls together who were best friends.

Before I was leaving for this trip, I was sleeping with my stalker and another girl with a startup on the same day I had to be flight out the city.

For Friday, Saturday, Sunday, I have my plans in an entirely new city set with 7-10 different women, some of whom might possibly cancel. If they don’t I’d need to figure out how to ask a woman to leave if another is coming. I’ll definitely be sleeping with 4 new women this weekend. All this while, I’m approaching volume.

I’ve realised that I’m extremely good looking from a very young age. I’m 6’2, jacked, tattoos, musician, apparently extremely intelligent too. I work a profession people dream of, it lets me travel around the world at the drop of a hat. I’ve been told I’m handsome, the best sex they’ve ever had multiple times. I am extremely thick in all areas imaginable.

I am slightly older, and some women have shared that they don’t like that I’m too blunt and forward, which they are entitled to.

I also have pets which girls seem to love. I love my pets more than any woman I’ve slept with. I also love my life goal more too, though I’ve been procrastinating a lot. I need to work on that.

My finances are a mess, so is my sleep cycle, I abuse uncommon substances though I’m healthy as of now.

I’ve been on this forum when I was fat unemployed recovering from breakups, and my life has completely changed.

Contrary to a lot of men here, I love women and I’m hoping to find a partner and settle down with her. I’m sleeping with many women because I want to, and I’m hoping to find someone I can have kids with and build an empire with.

I am actually interested in what women have to offer, because they have helped me in my life. I seem to understand women, because I feel they are all rooting for me and I always try to add value to a woman’s life, or even folks who I come across. Just cuz I can.

I have my own set of struggles and insecurities, which currently I’m not working on and it’s making me dislike myself. But I’ll bounce back. You know why?

Cuz I got you guys. I love this place.

 

[darksprezzatura]

BackInTheGame I can buy. I've basically got 3 plates right, 4 if I felt like involving my ex again. For him to have double that isn't unbelievable - especially assuming he lives in a better part of the country and has his own place.

20 NEW women in a month is a bit insane though. I have a hard time believing that's possible without addiction, financial ruin, and low standards.

I am indeed going through financial issues, substance addiction, but standards are reasonably high, some of these women are supermodels or close. Off the top of my head two doctors, one professor, two with their own businesses, one lawyer, one software engineer and so on, I mean smart people. I do believe financially I supersede all of them. All of them over 5’5, amazing breasts, do exactly what I ask of them in bed and outside of bed.

Instances where I slept with 4 woman a day are also there just saying. I have an intermittently busy schedule so some days I don’t even get out the house, so I split the off days with all of them.

Instances where 3 girls have come over to clean my place, suck me off and cook me food on the same day. It does seem all very mad even writing this down, but it is what it is.

 

[BPH]

I am indeed going through financial issues, substance addiction, but standards are reasonably high, some of these women are supermodels or close. Off the top of my head two doctors, one professor, two with their own businesses, one lawyer, one software engineer and so on, I mean smart people. I do believe financially I supersede all of them. All of them over 5’5, amazing breasts, do exactly what I ask of them in bed and outside of bed.

Instances where I slept with 4 woman a day are also there just saying. I have an intermittently busy schedule so some days I don’t even get out the house, so I split the off days with all of them.

Instances where 3 girls have come over to clean my place, suck me off and cook me food on the same day. It does seem all very mad even writing this down, but it is what it is.

I'm not going to write you off as a BS artist because I don't know you well enough. Plenty of people think I am, so I'm sure it's possible you're achieving what you say you are.

I'm curious though, what allows for this? Do you make really good money? Are you really attractive? Does your work naturally surround you with these women (photographer, p***star, etc)? I don't care how much "game" you have, sleeping with some people's entire life's worth of women in the span of a single month is pretty insane...especially if they're all "new".

What exactly do you do/are doing that you're able to achieve and maintain this?

 

[BeExcellent]

Ok. So here's something else to think about. If in time you'd like to settle down & do the family thing, think about this:

What kind of partner are you? This is the main reason I'm suggesting you carve out some alone time. What thoughts come up from inside you? Create. Write. Pour it out. Rediscover yourself and the music written on your soul, you are having fun certainly but you are also blotting out pain from somewhere inside.

Get out a mirror & dissect yourself. Find that wound. Heal.

You have come a long way and are having experiences many can only dream of. Awesome. But you still have to brush your teeth, work out, and other things that only you can do. Sure its nice to be spoiled. It will also make you selfish and lazy if you are not paying attention.

Part of your success derives from the fact that you adore women. Many men here hold women in contempt, harbor a dislike or hatred for them because they cannot manipulate successfully due to creepy woman hater vibes. You have the opposite issue. You love women and women adore you for that. I have the same thing where men are concerned. Love men. Men feel that in the way I interact and get very attracted. It is a type of magnetism and it will help you immensely.....

But what is the woman who eventually wins you, what is she winning? Who is the man she gets as a prize? Are you a prize worthy of a lifelong partnership with a woman who could chose most anyone? Are you willing to give, to care, to invest, to overcome your insecurities, to help, to love?

First you gotta love you. Then you gotta start looking at the women you come across with the same filter I suggest you apply to yourself: A character filter.

Character is not about looks. Its about who you are, and who you are when nobody is looking.

A friend of mine in an internationally famous band just married his long term fiance. Not fancy or fussy. At a courthouse without fanfare. Very private. They are a really fun couple, very dynamic. They are also disarmingly normal. Nobody is blown away by who he is as a performer (and he's incredible), he's just himself. She loves him and knows his nerdy quiet side & his quirks....he is smitten with her. They are very kind to each other and they treasure each other. He does music for a living. He's very humble & frankly gets uncomfortable socially if someone gets overly giddy about his music. That's the music but its not him as an entire person. And sometimes his wife comes to stuff without him if he's touring. It's like "yeah he's touring through XYZ place...." no different than someone else saying their spouse is on a business trip, because it IS a business trip.

Character. Yours and the character of the woman. That should in time become your focus if you'd like to find a good life partner.

Meanwhie manage the crazy and have fun but be careful out there.

Cheers

 

[Bokanovsky]

OP, it sounds like you are carrying a heavy burden. Having to sexually satisfy 15 women in different jurisdictions and all the logistics and planning that come with it cannot be easy. Even Muhammad, the great Prophet, only had 12 plates. Out of curiosity, are you doing this for humanitarian reasons?

 

[darksprezzatura]

I'm not going to write you off as a BS artist because I don't know you well enough. Plenty of people think I am, so I'm sure it's possible you're achieving what you say you are.

I'm curious though, what allows for this? Do you make really good money? Are you really attractive? Does your work naturally surround you with these women (photographer, p***star, etc)? I don't care how much "game" you have, sleeping with some people's entire life's worth of women in the span of a single month is pretty insane...especially if they're all "new".

What exactly do you do/are doing that you're able to achieve and maintain this?

I am in the top 1% of the country’s workforce. I spent the last decade with studying what I do.
I’d say I’m above average in terms of looks.
I don’t work around women at all.

I do play the numbers game. It’s possible that I’ve approached over a hundred women last month itself. A paltry 20% success rate is nothing, means 4 out of 5 women rejected me, didn’t meet me, left me on read or friendzoned me. It has happened, I won’t lie. Yet 20% of a 100 is still 20 women who liked me enough to sleep w me.

 

[darksprezzatura]

Ok. So here's something else to think about. If in time you'd like to settle down & do the family thing, think about this:

What kind of partner are you? This is the main reason I'm suggesting you carve out some alone time. What thoughts come up from inside you? Create. Write. Pour it out. Rediscover yourself and the music written on your soul, you are having fun certainly but you are also blotting out pain from somewhere inside.

Get out a mirror & dissect yourself. Find that wound. Heal.

You have come a long way and are having experiences many can only dream of. Awesome. But you still have to brush your teeth, work out, and other things that only you can do. Sure its nice to be spoiled. It will also make you selfish and lazy if you are not paying attention.

Part of your success derives from the fact that you adore women. Many men here hold women in contempt, harbor a dislike or hatred for them because they cannot manipulate successfully due to creepy woman hater vibes. You have the opposite issue. You love women and women adore you for that. I have the same thing where men are concerned. Love men. Men feel that in the way I interact and get very attracted. It is a type of magnetism and it will help you immensely.....

But what is the woman who eventually wins you, what is she winning? Who is the man she gets as a prize? Are you a prize worthy of a lifelong partnership with a woman who could chose most anyone? Are you willing to give, to care, to invest, to overcome your insecurities, to help, to love?

First you gotta love you. Then you gotta start looking at the women you come across with the same filter I suggest you apply to yourself: A character filter.

Character is not about looks. Its about who you are, and who you are when nobody is looking.

A friend of mine in an internationally famous band just married his long term fiance. Not fancy or fussy. At a courthouse without fanfare. Very private. They are a really fun couple, very dynamic. They are also disarmingly normal. Nobody is blown away by who he is as a performer (and he's incredible), he's just himself. She loves him and knows his nerdy quiet side & his quirks....he is smitten with her. They are very kind to each other and they treasure each other. He does music for a living. He's very humble & frankly gets uncomfortable socially if someone gets overly giddy about his music. That's the music but its not him as an entire person. And sometimes his wife comes to stuff without him if he's touring. It's like "yeah he's touring through XYZ place...." no different than someone else saying their spouse is on a business trip, because it IS a business trip.

Character. Yours and the character of the woman. That should in time become your focus if you'd like to find a good life partner.

Meanwhie manage the crazy and have fun but be careful out there.

Cheers

Yes, absolutely spot on. I do align with what you’re saying. What value I bring to the table, and being clear about my expectations from my future partner is a good way to look for my partner.

Increasing standards and backing off from those who don’t align is a good way to filter through too many people taking up my time.

Time is all we have.

I take notice of how my date treats people who can do nothing for her. How she talks about people who aren’t there. How focused is she about work, career and her passions.

I like women who have clarity in their thought process and don’t need to emote all the time.

I have certain goals in life and certain traits which I’d like to see my partner align with. And maybe it’s better to not pursue an entanglement the moment I believe they are not aligned. It’ll save me time and allow me to invest it elsewhere.

 

[jhonny9546]

I want a woman who is empathetic, caring, emotionally stable/string, has a high libido, tall, has things to do as in a life, career and so on. A strong family background is beneficial. These are gems. Physical standards are the same as regular guys, this waist big boobs, nice ass, flawless skin. This is a ten in my opinion.

I know one which is all this but she is a 6, but she have a lot of drama..
It's really hard to find one as you described

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I know one which is all this but she is a 6, but she have a lot of drama..
It's really hard to find one as you described

So... you actually don't know one.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I think FwB would be a better term, you care about them and get benefits without the monogamy.

I prefer the term 'lover' (or affectionately 'kitten'), since they are not 'friends' that I go to events with, and their main connection with me is primarily sexual/kinky.

I have certain goals in life and certain traits which I’d like to see my partner align with. And maybe it’s better to not pursue an entanglement the moment I believe they are not aligned. It’ll save me time and allow me to invest it elsewhere.

When I was younger and had 5-10 lovers at a time, I noticed that while I didn't see women for longterm relationships, women also regarded me as a 'social butterfly' (as one put it) and not monogamous LTR material. And they were right, I wasn't at that time, so it didn't matter.
When I matured out of the primal urge to having sex with every available attractive woman in my late twenties and became more selective with my time, I still had a lot of attractive women around me, but I chose to only have sex with 2-3 of them. And I noticed that women took me more seriously and regarded me as a potential life partner.
That eventually led to me crossing paths with more LTR prospects.

So you can see that as another motivation: in order to make women see you more seriously as an LTR prospect, you might want to be less of a fvckboi and more of a selective womaniser.

 

[Divorced w 3]

This has to be razor Rambo

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

This has to be razor Rambo

You're just jealous because he's:

extremely good looking from a very young age. 6’2, jacked, tattoos, musician, apparently extremely intelligent too. I work a profession people dream of, it lets me travel around the world at the drop of a hat. I’ve been told I’m handsome, the best sex they’ve ever had multiple times.

but you should not forget how the description ends with:

I am extremely thick in all areas imaginable.

Thick: 4. INFORMAL of low intelligence; stupid. "he's a bit thick"

So, nothing to be jealous about.

 

[Divorced w 3]

You're just jealous because he's:

but you should not forget how the description ends with:


So, nothing to be jealous about.

So you remember him too. I may have been a lone voice on here when a lot of people were following that pied piper so to speak, but I was right and this writing style is like he was resurrected from trailer park purgatory. It certainly wouldn’t be the first time a troll or catfish jumped back in here under a different handle. I could out another catfish right now; I won’t do it. I don’t know why the need to change handles? At least have the good sense to run the text through ChatGPT and get a different tone to it.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

So you remember him too. I may have been a lone voice on here when a lot of people were following that pied piper so to speak, but I was right and this writing style is like he was resurrected from trailer park purgatory.

This dude was already around by the time Razor came out as a poser, so I doubt if it's the same dude.

 

[Divorced w 3]

This dude was already around by the time Razor came out as a poser, so I doubt if it's the same dude.

VPN?

 

[jhonny9546]

It is clear that, with your gaming experience, you have reached the top. I try to learn new things every day, and the journey never ends.

Usually, there are two situations when interacting with women, and I can never understand which one is the right approach. Perhaps this is something you have experienced as well.

You know, when you are talking to a woman, I have identified two distinct patterns:

1) the conversation flows naturally. You laugh genuinely and feel involved; things happen automatically. For example, if she is doing something, you lend a hand without her asking, and vice versa. It feels like you’re engaging with a close friend (male). There’s no friction, and sexual tension could still arise. The mood is almost always positive and filled with smiles.

2) the interaction feels more distant and formal—almost as if saying "I don't like you." Tasks done together become challenging, leading to misunderstandings such as "I would have done it this way" or "No, it was better this way." There’s a lack of understanding, yet sexual tension could still arise.

I’ve always wondered which of these two approaches is the right one to determine if someone is suitable for us, long term. Version 1 certainly sounds more appealing, but "nice guy" version.