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Then it just makes no sense to me why she would leave (abandoning a sure thing with me) when I clearly showed that I wanted her. And if she doesn't want to be alone... why isn't she back with her ex already? I read with my own eyes how bad he wants her back, and what she said to him. She said...

Welcome to the club ... :( It's a hard balance sometimes.

I read a few pages of that thread and I don't think she could be described as BPD. At worst she is very very mild BPD. She has some of the symptoms and she is definitely super emotional, but she is not pure evil like some of the women described in that thread. And she has never shown one hint of...

Guessing you mean this one... http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=164551&highlight=bpd She does not display many of the other characteristics of BPD though... maybe she has some kind of similar disorder.

My god. She does not display many of the characteristics of BPD... but this... is her to a tee. These BPD sites talk about how a person with BPD falls hard and fast, and about a honeymoon period of intense emotion and connection in their new relationships. I still remember our first date and...

... and I'm glad this thread has devolved into a d1ck measuring contest.

As I said before, I knew when I met her that she was going to be a lot to handle and was very emotional. And she has admitted that too. What drew me to her, as crazy as this may sound, was this overwhelming femininity and warmth she had. I don't know how else to describe it. At that time in my...

This post has nothing to do with my situation specifically. I want to say this for guys who may read this in the future: There is a difference in being truthful with yourself and being paranoid. Evaluate your situation its own merits. Sometimes your girl is telling the truth. Sometimes she is...

Elmer Gantry, I appreciate your post. I agree that IL was not there. That IS the problem. Everything else is just a symptom of that problem. I disagree with other parts of your posts, for reasons which are detailed in the parts of this thread you admitted you did not read. All, Just some...

So the question is, Will all desirable women try to branch swing? Because there will always be someone better looking, richer, or more established than you. AJ, What boundaries? Tell her she's not allowed to talk to her ex?

That's pretty scary. I think I'm feeling more jaded/cynical right now than I ever have. FWIW - I'm 28, and other than this weird thing that happened when I was 18, this is the first time I've ever been rejected by a woman I care about and truly wanted. (Yes I've been rejected approaching women...

Then why leave? I don't want to beat myself up. I did what I could do. But it is very difficult to just say, "You did nothing wrong" and subsequently believe that a woman can just flake the fvck out on you and not reciprocate your feelings. It's sick. So you either just be a great boyfriend...

I have a couple of friends who are mid-thirties. They have been a couple now for about a year or so. The woman has an ex who she claims is now gay. The ex is apparently decent looking but very wealthy. He goes to Vegas or Nassau at least once a month to play blackjack and she goes with him...

cordon, I hold no illusions that she is still into me. But she was, something changed. I'm telling you, up until 2-3 months ago everything was perfect and she showed was JUST as into me (not just in words, but in action) as I was into her. And I have just been trying to find a reason for it...

cordon, I agree that I did not deserve this. And she has said the same thing 1000 times. I honestly believe that she feels guilt because she is "supposed" to want me. It only makes logical sense that she would. But I did make mistakes, I did make things too serious too soon instead of letting...

Looking back, I think what happened with IL was that hers was sky high at first, and her feelings continued to grow deeper, and then at some point I fell for this girl. I felt something for her that I hadn't felt in many years and certainly didn't feel about the women I dated/banged/talked to in...

Doesn't matter. I read all these threads with guys saying they went NC and a girl starts banging their door down a month or two later. I don't think that's going to happen here so I won't have the choice to learn the hard way or do the right thing and just tell her to GTFO. :)

I do have regrets about how this went down; but ultimately the idea behind the advice I received here was sound. Because this is such a lengthy thread, there were misconceptions from some posters - and they are seen even in the last few posts. For instance, the sex had not "dried up", we still...

Thanks for your post. As I have said, I am moving on as best I can and I am not contacting her. It is just going to take time to get over. Ultimately I think she has major issues and fears about the future as well as baggage from the past; I also think we are in much different places in life...

Huh? I wasn't trying to figure out some meaning to it. I was just wondering if I should mail it back (as I told her twice that I didn't want it) or just do nothing. I am going 100% no contact with her. I am also actively moving on even though emotionally I'm not where I need to be. I have...