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Such emphasis here is on what males are or are not doing and I was thinking...you know...just as there is no "golden chalice" to anything, women are just as much figuring these things out too...they have their own issues they bring to the table, and every single person [male or female] is...

PS -- Fairshake -- I would say that yes focusing on pvssy is a self-destructive act in some ways..it can become a consuming sort of force..the victory is not in getting laid, isn't that a DJ tenant? There are tons of great and amazing men focusing on their own self-progression and place women...

jt4aa -- yes, okay, definitions can be limiting, but this is a thought experiment. People today say there is a shortage of "real men" and what exactly they mean by this and what is their definition is my concern here -- and mostly bred out of curiosity and a discussion with my lady about "man"...

Pipe man, this is good stuff and I agree with it. I think Sue Madre you are correct too, good people won't violate your trust -- and this is a two way bridge -- if we are good men we are holding ourselves to the same expectations.

I suppose the hope and desire of the LTR is to continue growing and expanding. Life brings us to new planes of experience, and we hope that the woman we have with us will come to those places too...but there are no guarantees in life -- everything is a learning experience, that's for sure. But...

For sure -- and if she really didn't want to, she could have come up with some sort of joking response rather than demonizing squirrels for showing interest in her.

I suppose it really depends on what you want out of this one...if you're just trying to get into her pants than keep at it man, but she may be a hard one to keep in the basket...she is enjoying her pool of men around her...this is exciting for her. Where else would her ego gloat from? Hopefully...

I agree with you guys. Okay, maybe "gina tingly" wasn't the best of phrases. There is definitely more to being a man than turning on women -- in fact, emphasizing only on this is missing whole other aspects of life. I'd say being a real man is really becoming the person whom you wish to be --...

I do understand what you are saying. She's female, you're male -- there is a reason you are both talking and you know very well what the dynamic is there. However, everyone has different backgrounds, a level of comfort with their own bodies or own sexuality -- some people rush into things more...

This is something I am curious about -- how do you, personally, define this? What is a MAN? We're not all wearing cowboy hats or branding steer like they did back in the day..many men today live entirely in urban environments wearing fashionable clothing..so what characteristics define a man...

Look everyone makes mistakes and you really don't know the details of a certain person's circumstances...it's not like everyone here hasn't probably been lucky at least a few times of not getting a girl pregnant.. There are lots of good people out there. Some people move past their mistakes...

Well grieving is a natural thing when we lose something. To not take time to feel sadness over your loss would be a mistake. But we have to in many ways too come to understandings of acceptance, have hope, and build a brighter future. Just because you failed in one relationship, doesn't mean you...

I think the general term is used to describe the dude who is not finding his successes...getting walked on by women...I would say even the word "alpha" can take many different meanings.. Instead of defining beta, what would you say the attributes of an Alpha male are?

PS -- I've probably been guilty too of overtexting at times -- we live and learn as your tag says and recover from our mistakes. I think good people allow for some level of mistakes (to a certain line) -- and we too as males need to understand the same thing about our ladies -- ie, they are...

Pipe -- this is great advice and exactly what I'm looking for. I agree with most of this and have internalized these things -- I really hope things keep flowing well for you. These are lucky ladies, that is for sure.

Bleh, a blaze here and there can be mental medicine..use it that way..don't become absorbed in it and find balance. Nothing wrong with some changed consciousness from time to time, that's an age old act. Have some self-control. Express moderation. Know when is right and when is wrong. I'm not...

Spot on observations. Texting, ect is a nice buffer and technology is an easy way to avoid the realness of a situation. I am working to change my methods and utilize technology only as a medium towards real-encounters. I'm not saying chatting with your lady about her day for 20 minutes on the...

Squirrels I also think that people go wrong when they hit rough patches and give up. There is truly rough patches in all relationships and in times of being alone. Not every moment in a relationship is going to have the same lust and bang that it started with. But being steady and pushing...

Squirrels, I think it's natural for men in a relationship to want to keep their women happy. This isn't necessarily a bad thing. It's simply because a man cares about his lady and wants the best for her -- there is nothing wrong with that. Some level of schmooze can be good as it is...

Go_ddamn I miss you guys. I need to fine tweak myself. I've fallen asleep behind the wheel recently... Revamp. More thoughts in the morning. Thought digestion. ** Blues, gut response from some present circumstances -- too much praise, ect will run dry and become "cheap" and expected..women...