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yes man, yes. this is not easy. good relationships are not for the weak. nor those who cannot be self-motivated.

Backbreaker, This was a really good thread, and I completely agree. Part of my problem has been *seeing patterns and behaviors that are beyond my level of acceptance but accepting it anyways*, I don't know if we men justify the behavior due to lack of options or lack of confidence or what...

LOL. You might be right! Meh, fvck it. There's always more.

Welcome back man--I would be interested to see what this forum had been like years ago...SS is quite an interesting place on the internet. I am sorry to hear about your 7 year LTR that ended, I know that is probably rough. I know too you probably have learned a great number of things from the...

This: And this: And: This is all very solid advice--as were many other's advice too--moving on with humor or just side-stepping the issue would have 100% been the right move.

I get it now; fine. Honestly, I don't disagree and I hit 'eject'. But at the same time the onus is not just on me, because *I* felt awkward by her comments, it took me off guard. So yes I should have smooth sailed through the ASD, but I claim no pro-status here--I was simply genuinely enjoying...

My buddy needs a wingman. What are some of your best methods/approaches to increase a woman's attraction for your buddy? That is without seducing her yourself...a way that deflects the seduction onto the other person? I will start digging through some bible info to find wingman advice...

LOL. These are some great responses. Yes palm slap indeed...been thinking about that today...argh. But yes the paying the pvssy forward bit, hilarious, I bet this will definitely change the way she responds in the future to situations like this... She may contact me. I'll update if things...

Dude, I feel for this thread. Man -- look I say you try getting in the best dam.n shape of your life and turn yourself around in a way that you couldn't have expected. (and in a way she couldn't either)... This might reignite some life in you and give her a glimpse of you she hasn't seen...

This probably would have been 100% the right course of action.. Just weird to me: Why would a woman say the opposite of what she wants? LOL this may be one of mankind's greater questions... I would have responded more positively to "let's sleep together".

I will try this next time. ...I should have known better.

LOL. Well I should know better but I didn't. You are all probably entirely right. Live and learn right, won't repeat this same mistake. Actions were all leaning towards getting more and more physical...I failed to read the language and actions over the words... For the future: What...

Well...if she branchswings on to you, be aware she may swing away when a guy who +1's you comes around... Planting seeds of distrust to purposefully unravel someone's relationship is IMHO *pretty fvcked up*. That basically is direct manipulation and that sure seems like a good thing doesn't...

So here is a strange story I am currently trying to get off of my mind...rather I guess I am somewhat confused, thought the experience might be worth posting. Will try to keep this short and to the point. Took a trip over a local mountain pass with a friend, whom teaches snowboarding on...

Biochemically this is exactly what is happening -- as your nicotine serum level in your bloodstream drops, this initiates a stress response (anxiety restlessness craving) by which new nicotine in pacifies the stress response (stimulated by the dropped serum level). So when people say ciggs...

Backbreaker -- man I think what you are going through is normal -- there is so much more to life than just sex anyways. We all have biochemical cycles and just because you aren't in the mood lately doesn't mean you don't love your life or love sex. Look I love cake. Sometimes I eat cake a...

I think there is definite truth in the fact that we all have demons in our minds that we are fighting...I think this is a universal thing, and maybe only small handfulls of individuals have found true ways to temper those demons... I always try and shift my mind towards the the opposite...

Everyone does things their own way -- I don't think there is anything wrong with a response like that and it is straight forward and the truth. You're not being a d!ck, you just can't be her friend because of the constant upwelling of thoughts/emotions/past...I would just drop the 2nd sentence...

Dude I completely agree with this. I look back on some of the my pitfalls, and a lot of it WAS because I was trying to use tactics to be with someone whom really, I shouldn't have been with, because at the core we are incompatible. There is a difference between having a suite of magic tricks...

Dude hang in there. Cold calling is one of the hardest things to do. I know this from experience. What is your pitch? Do you feel confident in your approach on the phone? How about going door-to-door. I know you don't probably want to reveal too much of your business, but I wonder if there is...