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This is a true statement. However, my original post was not about focusing on competition because that is how the vast majority of society functions. Rather, my focus was on accepting the reality that competition drives most people -- and using the competitive drive of other people to further...

Anson, what you seem to be denying is the reality that all human progress is based upon competition. Without the desire to be stronger, faster or smarter, evolution itself would stagnate. Primitive as it may sound, self-competition is a degree of enlightenment not yet achieved in man's current...

I am a firm believer in that each and every human being is destined for greatness in some fashion. Each and every day I see someone, my age or younger, achieving a particular goal and think to myself “I could do that if I put my mind to it.” A psychologist might call my belief a “grandiose...

I disagree. The incorrect mindset is not as simple as "I am better than you." A man who adopts this particular mindset is not better than the man to whom he compares himself -- and he knows it. Abstract belief in "betterness," when reality belies such belief, is a classic sign of insecurity...

It's very easy to pretend that you don't care about other men hitting on your HB girlfriend, but it's difficult to actually *not* care. Most men cannot be in love with a woman, while at the same time not care whether she stays or goes. Put simply, love often breeds insecurity and dependency...

Know when to hold 'em, know when to fold'em... I was about to grab some sleep, but came across this thread and had to reply. I agree that saying "no" is the first step towards establishing one's individuality and is a form of self-empowerment. On the other hand, there are times when one...

Well put by all who replied. The old adage "all work and no play makes Jack a very dull boy" seems quite appropriate. I agree that you shouldn't sacrifice your studies for a good time. I made that mistake, and am still partially paying for it today (10+ years later). With that said, there...

I couldn't agree with you more. I go to the gym to work out. Period. End of story. I don't go there to pick up. If you're going to the gym for anything more than a really good work out, you're going for the wrong reason. If, on the other hand, a girl notices you in the gym, there's...

Sigh, I wish I could make it clearer, and perhaps I can. The "mindset" cannot come before your committment to change. If it does, you will never change what is holding you back, because you will have falsely convinced yourself that you are the "prize" just as you are. In you relations with...

Actually, here's another old adage: Women want to marry men who will give them the lifestyle to which they would like to become accustomed. Women struggle all of their lives to be prettier than the next girl in order to have the hottest guy or richest guy (or both, with the latter becoming...

I hate to step in the middle of a flame war, but Pook has raised a very valid point. Some of the most vocal feminists, those who give feminism its "public face," are not the most attractive. Concomitantly, feminism lures many unattractive "rank and file" women who blame men for their inability...

I'm a huge fan of Vegas, even though I live on the East Coast. If you're going, you have to resign yourself to dropping serious coin to have a good time. Then again, if you're going to have a good time somewhere, there's no better place than Vegas (other than possibly NYC). As for going to...

Not to turn this thread into a "whatever happened to NSS" discussion, I can see why NSS asked Allen to ban him. I have also tried to get away from this place for a period of time, and notwithstanding my criticisms concerning the recent lack of quality posts, have come back. Many others have...

Well put. Belief is a question of faith, not one of logic or reason. Yet blind faith does not change reality. You must accept who you are right now before you can become who you want to be. Self-improvement is the key to long-term success with women, and can be achieved in a variety of...

Interesting analysis. Taking it a step further, it would seem that a beatiful woman's ego is tied to her desirability, and thus she must believe on the surface of her psyche that she is the prize to be won. Much deeper in her psyche, however, must be the fundamental belief that *you* are the...

Here are some excerpts from an interesting website I found while searching the term "feminist" -- http://www.counterrevolution.net/antifeminism.html On the goal of feminism: The aim of feminism, therefore, is to create a new kind of human being in a new form of society in which the ties...

TheBest, You cannot *think* you are the prize when all outward appearances (as well as your own inner sense of self), clearly demonstrate that you are not. It is better to think "I can become the prize if I work on my [appearance, personality and/or education]." In doing so, you accept the...

There is an enormous difference between *thinking* you're the prize, and *knowing* you're the prize. The first is fantasy, the second is reality. Thinking you're the prize is not a self-fullfilling prophecy. You will eventually become aware that you're the prize by your efforts, not by your...

A great many posts on this site have advised that men should think they’re the prize to be won in order to be successful with women. For the most part, such advice is garbage, and is not worth the time either to read nor repeat every few months. The mindset of thinking you’re the prize will...

I quite agree. You shouldn't try to please other people -- you should try to please yourself. As a general rule, you very rarely have to accept what is happening to you in life -- even if it looks like you can't change things. I'll give you a good example. When I was in graduate school...