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Hi I am now 52 and find the dating scene in New Zealand to be apalling at this age, almost to the point of needing to move countries. Almost every women say 43+ are overweight, or have purple hair, or are just unattractive. About 5% are very attractive ("hotty"), but all seem to have issues. I...

I kept politely and sympathetically reminding her that the chance is <1% statistically and that is AFTER she finds another man she wants to marry (I told her I wanted to marry her and she did too). She wont have a child out of a marriage. The poor girl just won't give up on her dream so left me...

She has now moved out. I am heartbroken. 1 month ago she got custom-made gifts for me saying "Best Boyfriend Ever" and a sign saying "I love you to the moon and back" then moved out as I confirmed I didn't want a child (I'm 52)

Got custom-made gifts for me saying "Best Boyfriend Ever" and a sign saying "I love you to the moon and back" then moved out as I confirmed I didn't want a child (I'm 52)

Oh my. Can I ask - why did it end?

@Kotaix this was wise. I said no after 6 more weeks deliberation, and she of course has ended the relationship. She is flying back to Singapore in 3 weeks. She just told me today no more lovemaking - which hit me hard. I would make love up to the last day as I love her and am attracted to her -...

You need to meet the "gay" guy. If you dont meet him, she aint going, or she is going and you are over. OR - you go with her.

Not the right girls. The right girl will care. I had a girlfriend once in NYC. Her sister came over from San Francisco for a weekend and a dinner was planned. I had to go to Emergency with a stomach ulcer. Girlfriend: "You could have planned this for when my sister wasn't here" - she wasnt...

Life's hard. Love is hard. Harsh but maybe true Rick.

Fair call

Thanks. I made it clear I definitely wouldn't adopt, but if we do try and are unsuccessful then the pressure may mount. I also made it clear that as we are both fertile (tested two weeks ago) then IVF won't have any better odds than trying naturally (<1%) - but she still says she would try IVF...

" cvm dumpster" is a bit disrespectful mate. No, she didn't.

Thanks. Interesting. Almost every other guy responded with "no f_n way". I do have a kid already by the way - living on the other side of the world aged 10.

Thanks. Yes: https://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/52-have-baby-with-partner.276035/

Fair warning - thanks. As a side note, I assume (apart from genetic issues for older mothers) that's then the same for every guy in every relationship - then why do guys bother having kids?

I agree. Despite the advice on the other thread I am still 5% open to having a baby so in a bit of limbo - i.e. not ending the relationship. Why I am 5% open? As despite some tantrums she is attractive, slim, perfect ass, intelligent, humorous, clean (easy to live with), great in bed, religious...

Thanks for the reply but I don't agree with this. I agree with taking 100% responsibility - but also know that being 100% responsible is a "lie" as Anthony Robbins says. Believing in 100% responsibility helps you to think HOW you are responsible, but it is not literally true that everything is...

Thanks - empathetic.

Good advice, also the advice from Bat Soup above.

Fair. The thing is, I live in a city with a total lack of attractive single babes over the age of 40 (I don't rate my chances for ladies below 40 when I am 52). The obesity rate is massive. My slim attractive lady moved from Singapore to be with me.