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I didn't go either year. The high school I went to was a small private school so there weren't that many girls I could have asked, and at the time I was convinced that no girls liked me anyway so I didn't even try to get a date. There weren't any girls at school that I regularily talked to or...

Do you yourself cold approach much?

No I don't realistically expect that. With any woman you meet these days, you have to assume that there's other guys she's talking to. Still tho with that situation I mentioned earlier about the girl from class I felt weird about potentially hooking up with a girl who was already in a...

Especially when just going out and approaching is something I'm not really able to do atm. I'd need to break it down into smaller steps

It may be slightly different from cheating but if a girl trades up like that she might do it again in the future. My thoughts on the hot girl from class, for example, was that if she was willing to leave her man for me, then she would in turn be willing to ditch me for somebody else. Still I'm...

I didn't really consider that to be a lead tho. It wasn't meant to be one

I can't remember the last time I got any IOIs from girls I came across irl. It's been a while. I'm not in any situations where I'm engaging with single women I could date anyway so I'm not getting any IOIs from that. Likewise I've never really caught women checking me out when I'm in public...

The point of the exercise was to do no more than ask for the time. It wasn't a real approach

First sentence is accurate. As for the latter point a lot of my attitude comes from the fact that I've never been able to effectively approach irl, either cold or warm approach. Not learning how to appraoch during my teenage years really screwed me over in the long run

Accurate

I mean perhaps but I never feel like they want me to. All of the women I met on apps I would have never approached irl, and these women were mostly mid as I've said. The few times I've gotten a girl's number irl it was when the woman approached me. In my current state a woman approaching me irl...

Hmm that's pretty good. One problem I have is I have no idea what openers I should use, but something that low key sounds much better. Still I wouldn't be able to bring myself to approach in public right now. I would feel pretty weird about it and something like that is really out of character...

Trust me, even when drunk I can't do it

Yeah I am doing CBT with a therapist, but I'm not really sure how he'd be able to help me in this specific area that I'm talking about. A few days ago my psych informed me that he's got some health problems that require surgery and he'll have to take at least a few weeks off from his practice...

I'm not really into the idea of cold approach. It may be ideal for some guys but I'm not one of them. What would a more under the radar style look like?

That's not ideal either. It's very unlikely I'd find the sort of women I'm looking for there and I don't drink much anyway. I'm not able rn to just go and start approaching

I myself am more cautious about pretty much everything, so with the concept of approaching in general it's something I'm far less likely to do I guess

With warm approach I essentially mean when you're in an environment where there's a woman you see there on a regular basis and you might know her to some degree and then you try approaching her in earnest. In this situation you're not complete strangers, but you still might not know her that...

I’m really disproportionately sensitive to rejection/negative comments, I’ve had that since I was a kid and apparently it’s an ADHD symptom. Any negative criticism I get for any reason really hits me hard and make me feel all down on myself. As it stands now I’ll never really be able to get good...

Still tho I feel afraid to even try irl since there’d be a feeling in the back of mind mind that I’m just bothering a woman by doing that