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A very valid point. I'm guilty of this too. In fact, whenever I have messed things up with a girl or a girlfriend, it's because I turned my back on the great principles I learned here. I thought I knew better, thought I would try it my way because "this girl is different" or "my situation is...

Yeah, time to back off from this one now. It seems like there is potential there, but something is holding her back. It might just be a bad time for her. I can relate to this in all fairness. I've cancelled and flaked quite a lot the last months, mainly because I've not been over my ex. A...

I have found that particular meditation the most effective I've tried. It allows me to notice and let go of those thoughts that bring on the negative emotions and keep me down. I also started making a little journal, listing the thoughts I notice the most. As to be expected, my ex, her kids...

I'm a perfect example of one of SoSuave's success stories and I owe this site so much credit. I arrived here a low AFC. I can't really explain just how clueless I was, but I'd been taken for a ride by a golddigger, been treated like a lapdog and in one of my most cringeworthy experiences I was...

Same here mate. I'm still having my low moments and it still hurts. I made a big mistake with my last date meeting her at a place my ex and I went and it brough back a lot of memories. But we're definitely moving in the right direction now and it's going to get easier...and there's a whole lot...

I just want to ask you guys. How many of you have a goal that you're working towards right now? What is that goal? Or has winning back your ex taken over your ambitions and priorities in life? You see, one thing that will help you get over this break up pain more than anything is to have a...

Great reading mate and very inspirational! I'm really glad you handled it so well and it sounds like you just increased her IL a lot! It sounds like you're really getting yourself together after your break up misery and embracing this single lifestyle. A great example to everyone getting over...

I know what you mean mate. I used to "call girls out" on the slightest thing because I always thought it would show her I'm alpha or that I would pass some kind of sh1t test and increase her IL. I did that sort of thing for years and it always backfired on me. Girls just figured I was acting...

Don't think the worst of it. Sometimes women will want to reschedule because they're having a bad hair day and would rather wait until they're looking/feeling their best. It can be something very trivial, it could be nervousness or a whole lot of other things. To be honest, I've flaked on a...

Be careful of Facebook and social networks guys. I'm seeing so many of you doing so well keeping no contact, healing and recovering and then getting knocked back because you saw something on Facebook. My sister told me yesterday that my ex still has her as a friend on Facebook. She started to...

Great post, but this is the part that really jumped out for me. People are saying that spinning plates and playing the field goes against their conscience, but you have to ask where does that conscience come from? I know that the guilt I feel when I spin plates is the result of going against...

It's strange how the mind can lead you into thinking these are good ideas at the time. I used to go about my days obsessing over similar things I could say that might have some influence on her. When I wrote my letter, I purposely mentioned how much her kids loved me, discussed how many things...

Another helpful video clip... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hSz_S2ElD4Q

I'm not going to rip into you for this as you sound very emotionally fragile and desperate at the moment, but doing this kind of thing really isn't helping you and is going to drive her further away. It's going to be quite obvious to her that it's you. I've received these kinds of anonymous...

I just wanted to add that one of the things I've noticed now that I'm spinning multiple plates is that I'm messaging them without any fear of consequence. To a couple I'm escalating sexually and been playfully forward, and they've responded well. Others I've been saying how well I feel we...

Here's a cool talk from Tyler from RSD on the abundance mentality... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MjHSISVojoY I've never been one to care much for pick up artists, but in recent years Tyler has really matured and is offering some solid advice, especially in terms of abundance...

Thanks man. I must admit, I do have quite a lot of women throwing themselves at me lately. It may be my efforts in the gym or my renewed confidence and self perception. A lot of guys would love to be in my position and I can see how the break up is starting to benefit me. It's just really...

But this is where you have to take responsibility. As bad as she is, you chose to go back to her 10 times. I know that it's hard to get past the emotions and you always want to believe they have changed, you want the relief from the pain or rejection or the ego boost of getting your ex back...

Nothing quite as frustrating as being rejected and not knowing why. I actually made a point of asking a few girls why (the cool ones who were mature and open) and got a few different answers. One was that I was too fidgety and restless, another said I seemed tense and nervous and kept looking...

To be honest I accept that there are going to be these lapses. You can't just rebound with another chick or two and suddenly replace or forget years of memories and intimacy with someone else, especially if you felt she was your soul mate. I felt that too and if I'm being honest, part of me...