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Another short lapse for me... I went on a date tonight with this hot woman who has been offering to fulfill all my fantasies. I've been so turned on by our messages lately and really hot for her and she for me. We met up and the tension was so high, she was really into me and ready to go at it...

I believe recognising what it is about nice guys that women hate is a big step in your transformation. Likewise when you look back at girls who rejected or dumped you and you think "Ah, now it makes sense why they did that" or "Yeah, I deserved that". Women like to try and keep men as men...

So why did you go to her party? From her message it looks more like she's looking for someone who will give her more space and take a more casual approach to the relationship. If you were giving her space and playing things cool, then I doubt she would've written that message. This is very...

Indeed! I think we are lucky in a sense because a lot of guys don't know what to do after a break up. They get broken down, lose their confidence and don't know how to rebuild it or get back in the game, whereas we know what we need to do to move forward and we can learn from our experience...

Hey there folks. I just thought I'd drop in to share this guided meditation: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4vgKzXdwtRE It's quite a simple process that just involves taking a time out and observing and detaching from your thoughts. This is a process that really helped calm me down during my...

Good advice. This is something we all need to sink in. A man of value is not someone who calls out a girl and demands that she feed his ego. A man of value is someone who creates his own source of contentment and doesn't need anyone to stimulate his ego or offer reassurance. I've been in...

You withhold your part in all of this but judging from her message I'm guessing you have been too demanding. In fact, it sounds like you've been making the same kind of mistakes I have made in the past, that when a girl isn't showing me enough attention or respect, I'd basically throw a tantrum...

I second this completely. I'm not purposely manipulating girls out of bitterness towards past rejections. I'm recognising that what I've been doing, investing in one woman and giving too much of myself is not working for me, so I need to make a change. I've done the plate spinning thing...

You're overthinking everything man! This must be frying your brain! When every text you send to a girl has a strategy behind it, then you're going to fall flat on your face purely because you're too uptight. Relax!! Have fun. Stop thinking about the end goal with this chick, stop being so...

One of the girls/plates I've been seeing just uploaded some Christmas photos with her friends. Uh oh! Turns out one of the friends in her photo was someone I dated a couple of months ago. She was really into me, but I was still on the rebound from my ex at the time and rejected her. Kind of...

This is something you just have to accept. I would say most girls from dating sites will flake on you unless you can build a good rapport and make a lasting impression. But sometimes, even at your best, women will flake because they share a different sense of humour, different interests, or...

But there lies the problem. We resort back to our good guy nature and shrink back into our comfort zone to avoid that feeling of unease - the fear off loss or the guilt that comes from being selfish. If we had remained as we were and continued to put our own interests first, these women...

Have you ever felt those twinges of guilt when you're spinning plates? You're talking and flirting with different women and letting each one feel special, and you can see their interest rising and their hopes building. You can't help feeling like a bit of a selfish as$hole at times. Or when...

Totally agree. These women will drag your confidence and your flow down and they will cause you to miss out on more opportunities. One thing that is very helpful for guys to learn is the power of acceptance. A lot of us can be control freaks, we want to believe we can make a woman interested or...

I would just amend this a little... Girls are ruthless UNLESS they are really attracted to a guy. Girls can be needy, clingy and eager to please and validate themselves to any guy they're really into. For those guys, they make it easy. But if her interest is low or drops, she has the...

It sounds like we've all had a setback over the holiday period and I can definitely relate to everyone who said they secretly hoped the ex would get in touch. I actually cried a little last night and have been missing her like crazy. It's the first time for over a month I've felt like this, but...

Well I noticed her becoming distant with me and putting off meeting me. It seemed very sudden, but she also stopped saying "I love you" which she used to say all the time. I sensed something wasn't right and when she asked me for space, I took this at its worse and I decided to end things...

It all comes down to how you deal with your break up and your mentality to begin with. A lot of people I know adopt this victim mentality or push blame onto others...this is WAY too common on this site. When they get dumped, they claim the world is against them, life sucks, women are all evil...

This sounds like a similar situation to me. My ex gf was going through depression and was pushing me away, making me feel miserable and then blamed the break up on me, using her depression to lay a massive guilt trip on me. Talking from personal experience, you have to be very mindful of...

Sadly a friend of mine killed himself about a year ago after separating with his wife. They also had kids together. I don't know what went on in his head as I never got to talk to him about it, but he looked like he was rebuilding his life from what I could tell and then out of nowhere he ended...