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These are some lessons I learned in the past 4 months. Some of you will remember will my story (in short affaire with 13 year older woman, dumped me for new toyboy etc etc, was devastated because of it). I worked with this woman at the same place and when we were over I kept working there (she...

It's been a while since I posted in this thread but I'm 4 months in NC besides asking her what to drink or answering when she asks something. Certain members will know the complete story and I'm not going to bore you with telling it over again... But am going to tell what happened. The last...

In a way I want to be where I am right now, in a way not. I landed my dreamjob this year and started with a hobby for which I saved a while. But this time last year I felt better emotional. And being optimistic is hard and I don't know if it helps, I tried it for a while but nothing. I feel...

I have posted and started so many threads, I've read so much books and articles, but I can't seem to get a way out of my beta ways. Every relationship I had (3 and I'm 27 now) were where the girl initiated and was clearly head over heels for me. Every little bad event that happens in my life I...

I work spare time as a waiter to earn some extra money. Today this happened. I ordered a meal, but it was the wrong one (they looked the same but the customer wanted the one he wanted instead, which is of course perfectly normal and was completely my mistake). The chef (who is 7 years...

This is a really ego-centric post, but I'm strugling with very low self-esteem and am wondering if these two have some sort of connection. The question is clear, are women intimidated by good looking men? I get called good looking by women (aging from 20 to even 80 plus), by gays,... I feel...

Amen I had been on such a long dry spell that I am even ashamed to admit it on a forum where no one knows me. But when I did get laid after that long period, I didn't feel any different or better. It's all in your head.

Hi all I've posted a lot of threads or even hijacked some to explain that my social skills are holding me back. I have a lot going for me, my looks, give myself 100% at everything I do, thrilling hobby, just got into a company where I was chosen out of a group of 300 people. I work as a...

No I know it's because of my social skills. I don't talk to people because I fear that if I talk to them and act normal, they won't like me or dump me... Every conversation I have with people dies rather quickly, I don't know how to be interesting or keep something fun...

I'm basically in the same position. 26 and waiting tables (although I like it). I recently have been let into a company though which job position I would love to do for the rest of my life (had 1% chance of being chosen). I started a thrilling new hobby and get compliments about my physique...

And what did you do to get out of it? I don't really know what would be 'normal' so I don't what I could improve or more important, how to improve.

We all know self-esteem is key to practically everything. I still don't know why I have such low self-esteem and more importantly, I don't know where it comes from. For anyone who is interested and some more background, check some of my other threads I started. Reasons why I should have great...

There is this one sentence in your post that I want to know more about, because I feel this is the main issue I have and I don't know how I can develop this further. "I learned how to talk to people anywhere, ask good questions, and get them to like me." If you want you can send me a pm about...

A part in me still tells me you have to have IT in you like you do. I don't think I will ever improve and think this is because of the way I'm 'wired' and because of my father passing away when wi was 12. Even my shrink tells me he can't figure out why I'm thinking and acting this way. But in...

On some level it's true I want that one magical answer, that one moment of epiphany were I would change my mindset for good. I've read my fair share of self-help books etc. I find it hard to believe that changing how you think (ie having positive thouhts and affirmations) would really help. I...

I want to fix the problem of course but how do I do it? Just throw myself out there and just talk? Even it would sound stupid?

I decided to start working somewhere else and drastically lessen my hours at that bar. A part in me does this to minimize the chance of seeing her and this new guy. But the main part is because I want to work somewhere else, with younger customers etc. I haven't seen her in almost two weeks...

I don't know why I feel this way. I think it's because I can't talk to people and so I don't talk that much to people because I can't, basically a vicious circle. This of course eats my confidence. When I say something that is a bit forced, I can hear it in my tone and the way I say it. And we...

It's weird, I feel some of my friends are better than me in some ways (more salary, more talkative). But I just started a new hobby (paramotoring), and I feel in some way (although I feel bad thinking this way that I'm better because I have a new thrilling hobby) it would be an advantage (I want...

I am quiet overall, I get this comment from everyone. It's more with girls yes and even more with girls I'm interested in. But with my family I barely say anything. With my friends it's more but even them think I'm quiet.