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Danger and SamTheHobit The social part is my biggest issue. I am known as the silent guy, although I like it (basically because of the mystery part), in the end it doesn't get me nowhere. Yesterday I had to work with a beautiful and fun girl, customers before had said to me she was checking me...

Than it's the fact that I'm too silent and my body language stinks of low self-esteem. Books and material I must read on these subject?

A question I keep having is, how do you cultivate the right mindset? It is key to everything as it almost pops up in every thread. It can't be just changing negative thoughts into positive (although it probably is a part of it). But I do so many things I consider as positive to change my...

Hi all Currently I'm 27 and am struggling with the following problem. I'm quite good looking, I work as a waiter and hear often (from the person itself or via another one) that they find me good looking. Often friends tell me they noticed a girl checking me out, these are quite often are...

I believe this thread is becoming my place to write down the days I feel the baddest. Today is one of those. I implement everything I read here and it does work. Of course I'm still not completely over her and thus things I hear and she does still hurt me. Yesterday I was working but it was...

But how do you treat them like sh*t? I think of it in this way: - replying with as few as one word - not talking to them - pointing out the obvious sh*tty behaviour But I guess when responding so little and never initiating contact they would lose IL? What do you do that is considered sh'tty...

So being short is a sure way of not having the life you want? I'm about 5'8" (172cm) but I've heard the line "if you were a few cm (inches) taller, I would go for you" a lot of times. I'm good looking as I get this compliment often, but I don't see girls engaging. So I'm doomed?

I seem to know I indeed am better off without her. There is still this one issue I noticed today that is till bothering me and I request your help to get over it. Every single f*cking day, my ex her name has to come up with customers and my bosses. If it's not "she doesn't work here anymore...

I know it's all in my head, but I can't control it. I try to think positive thoughts but everything is being analyzed. Yesterday at that party, we stood around a table, I was constantly thinking "how should I stand so I look the most confident? Leaning on the table is not good as it comes over...

Today I went out to an after work party. It's been a while since I went to a party, I usually just go to a bar. After reading so many stuff, I just saw everyone acting in a way to be noticed or to try to be self confident. Girls dancing or laughing too much at a given moment, guys wearing fancy...

I want to keep you guys updated and of course say what has happened as it helps. I feel better overall, not what it should be, but yeah... Tuesday I had my first lesson for my new hobby, it really feels good and I can't wait till I'm certified to perform it by myself. Tonight the last people in...

I’m gonna summarize what I have to do. 1: obviously quit the drinking, this is already happening, 3-4 days in the week I touch nothing, the other days is because I’m out with friends and even then it’s not like it used to be. I indeed feel better overall when I don’t drink so compulsively...

This is my third 'real' break up with a girlfriend. The first relationship I ended and I had of course no problems with. The other two she ended it and I was and am devastated. I just drove by her new toyboy car in a small street where I have to drive by when I am done with work. I know it was...

I have a degree but am currently working in this place as I'm going through a selection procedure for something else. If that fails I'm gonna look for a job with my degree. Thanks MonkeyKing but I can't place it, i can't understand why. I know she's not worth it, but I just can't let it go and...

Well here I am again. They broke up and got back together again last night. I think because of my boss and other people wanting them to be together because they all sat together for a while. Funny that they never did this kind of effort for me. I can't seem to get over the fact of why him and...

I was 24 when I wondered why it didn't worked out with a girl and started looking on the internet for answers, somehow I stumbled on this site.

I know, I'm just having such a hard time persuading myself to believe I'm better, but this situation just keeps telling me I'm not, otherwise she would choose me... I don't want to change jobs, I work as a waiter (for now, I do am looking for something else full time as I have a diploma, but...

Ok guys I try to follow the advice given and it works to some point. But I need to get the following of my chest. Apparently she is BACK together with her toyboy. This really is not about love that I'm down because of this, this is purely because of why him and not me, why is he better then...

One last question guys. I want to start a new hobby, this will cost me a lot of money, like half of what I have and of what I have saved since the 1st of January. I'm 95% sure I want this hobby for myself and not for validation. Should I go for it?

You don't need to apologize Grewd, it really is the best way to make it sink in. I honestly respect all the advice and try to implement it, deep down I know it will help. It's just that something deep down is also wrong with me, that reason why I can not implement it the fullest. I've had two...