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Google "chore play." This could've just been an epic level sh1t test, which means you failed a lot of them to get to this point, and also means you can't just fall into her frame. If this was a power play to get you to work harder around the house, then that's a fvcked up way to do it. Here's...

Really not a lot to go on here, but forget about the event, forget about the girl. It’s about you. So there’s 2 possibilities: You wanted this girl—So why did you push her away? You didn’t want the girl—So why do you want her after she cuts you off? Banking with #2. You blew things tf up...

What else do you have to do? ;) You're only 52. That gives you a couple decades, sticking to the averages. Gotta fill that time somehow. Nothing in life is 'worth' it, outside of the value you assign to it. So I can't answer that question for you. For me, there's fulfillment in going out and...

@Espi hit the nail on the head. I’ve been with a handful of the hot, reserved types. All of them, it turned out, were pretty promiscuous. They just realize they have more value by presenting a certain packaging and can control the frame better in a closed environment. Plus, social media has...

Each of us have a narrative running in our head about who we are, what we like, how we are, and what each decision we make says about us. This is social conditioning. However, we often act against our social conditioning when emotions take over. Very few 18 y/o girls wake up thinking, "I'm...

@Reyaj you're extrapolating 'principles' from bad game, over a tiny sample size. And I don't mean this as an insult, but let's look at this convo: You open with straight intent (that's socially uncalibrated). She's 19. Ya, she's single--if she isn't it's not a serious relationship and isn't...

Yo what's up @BeExcellent. Anyway, kind of piggy-backing off what she said, you don't have a SEX problem, you have a VALIDATION PROBLEM. You aren't really getting off from the sex itself. It's more about APPROVAL-SEEKING. The good news is that since you're aware you have a problem, you have...

I think age is part of it. You're 23--no sh1t you're gonna want to pull. Give it to 26 or 27 and then things'll chill out a little and you'll wish you had the motivation you do now. I think the other part of that is that you probably haven't really pulled enough to get the sense of...

Before you meet? No (might be time to drop the OLD if it consistently doesn’t give you the results you want ;)). But if it was me that’d be something I’d throw in right off the open. Kind of like: “This is who I am. I own it. I’m high value enough to put everything in the open without feeling...

There’s plenty of negativity here—don’t get me wrong—but a lot of the stuff is only negative until you adjust your expectations. Girls aren’t bad. They’re just operating according to their own biological imperatives + the social conditions that limit or facilitate those ends. Things might not...

Might have more to do with this than BPD. Every girl has BPD traits when she's stuck with a guy she's no longer attracted to. And, unfortunately, patience, virtue, commitment, and always being the bigger person is a recipe for losing attraction. On the other hand, she could be BPD. But why...

I've never advocated that. Sure, if you're high value, you'll get some freebies. But they'll generally be 1.) Below what you could get or 2.) Sexually aggressive. I get approached at least once or twice anytime I go out. If those were the only girls I went for, to maintain my current standard...

The only paradox is if you see a girl you want and don’t put yourself in a position to get her. But I’ll break things down. Girls want to meet a cool guy I want to meet hot girls Girls usually won’t approach You approach girls For a girl her looking at you (or avoiding eye contact...

Lol @ any guy thinking he’s first choice with a girl in America in 2019. Guess what? No matter how much she likes you, she’s liked another guy just as much. No matter how much she likes you, she’ll like some other guy in the future just as much. If that’s upsetting to you, your basing your...

Once a girl rejects me, then any emotional investment on my end is off the table (but it usually is within a 20 minute convo anyway, so no biggie). BUT I'm a generous guy. I'll give girls another shot or two to get the privilege of experiencing me. That said, I can't say I've turned those...

Yup, yup. Push it. Those girls got all dressed up, spent tons of time getting ready, spent money on that outfit...and they didn't meet YOU. And they're still out, which means they're not ready to throw in the towel, but it's 3AM, so they're running out of time. Just open, joke a little, invite...

Nah. In elementary - high school I was popular & good at sports. In college I was popular & good at partying. And after that I worked in a bar with pretty much nothing but attractive girls. So my experience was on having girls thrown themselves at me. But got into a two year...

Still waiting for someone--anyone--can explain to me how going after what you want is in anyway feminine. And standing back and waiting to be 'chosen' is masculine lol. But OK. But anyway, I don't think Direct or Indirect are really useful distinctions. It all comes down to subcomms--body...

Happens to everyone lol. Don't stress it. Also, for the flakes, I shoot 'em random invites to my apartment from time to time--wait a couple weeks. "Help me finish this bottle of wine so I don't turn into an alcoholic." Or small pings "stop thinking about me," and then just don't reply unless...

Biggest change for opening came from learning to be loud and to speak in a breaking rapport tonality. Imagine the words leaving your mouth are moving out in a straight line before taking a downward trajectory--or like you're on top of a platform talking down to them. Eye contact is next. You...