Spinning plates or dating multiple women is overrated advice

[Hamurabimbi]

It’s exhilarating but, ultimately for me, not sustainable long term.

 

[svencandy]

I think the purpose of spin plates, is to be looking for a long term partner.
By being sexually active, you will reduce the chance of progressing a relationship that may not be good, but it's your only source of intimacy

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi BeExcellent,
@Scaramouche...Oh that will never do,call me Scarra,all my friends do....Yes since being "debauched" at 12 by Older Boys who got a vicarious thrill out of sharing a Gang bang with two young guys...I enjoyed the experience and from the age of 16 have always had an active Svex life....I like Women,can't live without them,the great thing is it gets easier and easier as the the aging demographic tilts things your way....Your own Ben Franklin had a penchant for Older Women wrote an essay on the little Darlings,he also opined that in aging the only thing you may rely on is a Good Woman an Old Dog and cash at the Bank...thanks to the grace of God I have all this and am grateful....Sure I am a Philander,there are 134 Synonyms for this word,one being a Don Juan,suggests the phenomena is very wide spread...These days I appreciate a Lady who finds pleasure in giving service an encounter with a Chinese Medicine Doctor some years ago opened my eyes to the delights of the Erotic East...As a young Man the Abdication of Edward the King Emperor was fresh in the minds of people around me,he gave up an Empire,at that time,the Worlds greatest economy for a rather plain Jewish Divorcee...Why? because for a few mispent years she had visited Shanghai Bordellos to learn the Ancient Art of pleasuring a Man...She had learned the Shanghai Squeeze,the art of controlling an ejaculation by subtle pressure on the Sphincter and more...For one brief Afternoon I was also an Emperor,scales were lifted from my eyes....A woman doesn't have to be young,nor beautiful to please me and be valued as long as she is willing to learn.

 

[BeExcellent]

Hi BeExcellent,
@Scaramouche...Oh that will never do,call me Scarra,all my friends do....Yes since being "debauched" at 12 by Older Boys who got a vicarious thrill out of sharing a Gang bang with two young guys...I enjoyed the experience and from the age of 16 have always had an active Svex life....I like Women,can't live without them,the great thing is it gets easier and easier as the the aging demographic tilts things your way....Your own Ben Franklin had a penchant for Older Women wrote an essay on the little Darlings,he also opined that in aging the only thing you may rely on is a Good Woman an Old Dog and cash at the Bank...thanks to the grace of God I have all this and am grateful....Sure I am a Philander,there are 134 Synonyms for this word,one being a Don Juan,suggests the phenomena is very wide spread...These days I appreciate a Lady who finds pleasure in giving service an encounter with a Chinese Medicine Doctor some years ago opened my eyes to the delights of the Erotic East...As a young Man the Abdication of Edward the King Emperor was fresh in the minds of people around me,he gave up an Empire,at that time,the Worlds greatest economy for a rather plain Jewish Divorcee...Why? because for a few mispent years she had visited Shanghai Bordellos to learn the Ancient Art of pleasuring a Man...She had learned the Shanghai Squeeze,the art of controlling an ejaculation by subtle pressure on the Sphincter and more...For one brief Afternoon I was also an Emperor,scales were lifted from my eyes....A woman doesn't have to be young,nor beautiful to please me and be valued as long as she is willing to learn.

You are kind my dear Scarra. Your contribution is valuable. For myself and others. Thank you

 

[EyeBRollin]

I quite liked spinning plates. However, having a LTR has its benefits.

 

[SargeMaximus]

I want it but women seem to sense when I’m with a girl and back tf off. Happens all the time.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Hi BeExcellent,
@Scaramouche...Oh that will never do,call me Scarra,all my friends do....Yes since being "debauched" at 12 by Older Boys who got a vicarious thrill out of sharing a Gang bang with two young guys...I enjoyed the experience and from the age of 16 have always had an active Svex life....I like Women,can't live without them,the great thing is it gets easier and easier as the the aging demographic tilts things your way....Your own Ben Franklin had a penchant for Older Women wrote an essay on the little Darlings,he also opined that in aging the only thing you may rely on is a Good Woman an Old Dog and cash at the Bank...thanks to the grace of God I have all this and am grateful....Sure I am a Philander,there are 134 Synonyms for this word,one being a Don Juan,suggests the phenomena is very wide spread...These days I appreciate a Lady who finds pleasure in giving service an encounter with a Chinese Medicine Doctor some years ago opened my eyes to the delights of the Erotic East...As a young Man the Abdication of Edward the King Emperor was fresh in the minds of people around me,he gave up an Empire,at that time,the Worlds greatest economy for a rather plain Jewish Divorcee...Why? because for a few mispent years she had visited Shanghai Bordellos to learn the Ancient Art of pleasuring a Man...She had learned the Shanghai Squeeze,the art of controlling an ejaculation by subtle pressure on the Sphincter and more...For one brief Afternoon I was also an Emperor,scales were lifted from my eyes....A woman doesn't have to be young,nor beautiful to please me and be valued as long as she is willing to learn.

Poetic

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I don't 'spin plates'. I just have multiple lovers. Different approach, way less 'exhausting'.

 

[SW15]

What I have observed in every player/playboy type I’ve ever known, is that they all typically give up that lifestyle in time and find a stable LTR or get married even. They may chase tail for years or even decades but in time they want more meaningful connection than an endless rotation of women provides.

Your observation is valid. Caleb Jones (Alpha Male 2.0, Blackdragon) had a similar observation in this 2015 article.

The Only 9 Options for Men as They Age - Alpha Male 2.0

-By Caleb Jones As I’ve discussed before, most men, even Alpha Males, have no intention on being players for the rest of their lives. At some point, even the horniest players will want to “settle down” in some form or fashion. Today I’m going to...

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3. Be a player forever

This option means you stay in Charlie Harper mode forever, well in your old age, even as a very old man, eventually switching to paid sugar babies or hookers as your looks deteriorate.

This option is barely worth talking about because very few men will choose this option. The vast majority will chose to settle down and pair bond in some form or fashion. Regardless, it’s still an option technically.

The only big problem with this option is loneliness. I have never seen a guy choose this option and not wrestle with recurrent feelings of loneliness. Some form of pair bonding is more conducive to long-term happiness for a man, particularly as he gets past age 35.

The men who have stronger seduction skills eventually get a motivation to pursue a more meaningful connection with a woman as they age and this typically starts around one's early to mid 30s.

The men who aren't player/playboy types have weaker seduction abilities and often have a blue pill ideology. Most of these men will end up in a marriage by their 30s, usually with one of the few women who they can seduce with their meager attraction/seduction skills. These men are often called betas and often end up divorced somewhere in middle age and around the time their first child gets into elementary school.

Spinning plates is:

-exhausting
-expensive
-demoralizing
-time consuming
-hard keep track of everything you talk about with each girl
-leads to errors since you are likely to treat each girl the same (which is a critical mistake)
-unnecessary to cultivate abundance

True abundance comes from the self-assurance that you know you can find another, better girl.

Part of this is true. The player lifestyle is often exhausting, expensive, and demoralizing.

Few men can get the confidence and self-assurance without having had a track record of seducing many women. The seductions don't necessarily need to be simultaneous but a man with a poor history of attracting and seducing women will often lack confidence.

 

[Chow Mein]

I don't 'spin plates'. I just have multiple lovers. Different approach, way less 'exhausting'.

I like your approach on ‘lovers’

I somehow just find ways into a woman’s heart where they know I can’t be committed. I just need to give them the time and attention to be with me. One of the lovers has been with me for 2.5 years and the other 2 being over a year. They know they aren’t the only ones and do bring it up from time to time, but they still stick around.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

They know they aren’t the only ones and do bring it up from time to time, but they still stick around.

It shows that you're probably good company outside the bedroom too.

I don't really get the 'exhaustion' part, but I guess the 'spinning' is lying to the 'plates' about the nature of the relationship. Dishonesty within relationships takes a mental toll.

My lovers know I'm not being exclusive with them nor do I expect them to be, so I don't have to walk on eggshells and worry about being 'found out' and the ensuing drama that would bring.

Of course, being up front with non-exclusivity 'costs' me potential lovers who demand exclusivity, but I prefer that to losing my peace of mind.

 

[BaronOfHair]

Spinning plates is:

-exhausting
-expensive
-demoralizing
-time consuming

Enjoying the company of multiple women is similar to being a Hezbollah operative, tasked with regularly raining rockets down on a neighboring state... IT can be exhausting, if you don't find immense enjoyment in doing such a thing

 

[jhonny9546]

in aging the only thing you may rely on is a Good Woman an Old Dog and cash at the Bank

What about kids?

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Jhonny,
This quote was from Benjamin Franklin,advising a younger Man on selection of a Mistress....But I agree with him,I have five Kids,one is a delight,she could be relied upon,the others in varying degrees are disappointing...But then being fair about it,I probably reaped that which I sowed!

 

[jhonny9546]

The way to gain experience is to have as many bodycount, as many relationships at once, and as much variety as possible.
So a man should have this in his life.
If not in his 20's, well, do in your 30's, but you need to have a period of this aboundance.
But a lifestyle based on it, it's unrealistic.
How many years would be enough to gain experience, would be an interesting number to know

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

How many years would be enough to gain experience, would be an interesting number to know

If you mean 'gain experience' with 'nothing surprises me anymore', I'd say 7.3 years. Approximately.

 

[BeExcellent]

If you mean 'gain experience' with 'nothing surprises me anymore', I'd say 7.3 years. Approximately.

There you have it. Set your timer boys....you should each emerge from your cocoon some 7 years hence as erudite gentlemen well versed in the seductive arts.

Cheers

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

There you have it. Set your timer boys....you should each emerge from your cocoon some 7 years hence as erudite gentlemen well versed in the seductive arts.

There's only one critical condition for that estimate. You have to be pro-active and not hang around here soaking up seduction information and not taking action (watching videos isn't taking action). And don't forget to read the small print.

Taking PUA bootcamps and workshops will only increase the timespan.

 

[BadBoy89]

Definitely agree that a man should find a deep, emotional, loving connection with ONE women and commit to her forever and ever and ever.

I only have one condition: The man is allowed to have a young hot mistress on the side to make love to on the weekends, preferably hot Chinese or South Korean.

 

[BeExcellent]

Definitely agree that a man should find a deep, emotional, loving connection with ONE women and commit to her forever and ever and ever.

I only have one condition: The man is allowed to have a young hot mistress on the side to make love to on the weekends, preferably hot Chinese or South Korean.

Simple. Combine young hottie with deep loving emotional connection. Those girls get wifed up young boys. And typically don't come back on the market unless the husband dies or does something dumb, like cheat.