Serenity
Moderator
Both, definitely both!
If you lean too much into being funny you turn into a clown. Good entertainment, for now, but it doesn't show that you have the masculine trait of getting sh!t done if sh!t needs doing.
If you lean too much into being serious you become dull. Shouldn't need to explain the problem with this.
I'm both serious and funny. I play both sides at different times, when appropriate. Some stuff is serious, I don't joke around with anything that actually matters to me. If there's no need to be serious I won't be serious, but I will be serious if necessary.
Displaying this is fairly simple. By default you just have fun, crack jokes, tease and essentially play like a child. If she likes it she will inevitably test you on your masculinity as well, she'll try to push boundaries. If you have no boundaries (let her get away with whatever) then you are not masculine. So to display masculinity is to simply enforce your boundaries, if she starts messing with something you actually care about you do not let her and you're serious about it. If she knows what's good for her she'll listen, back off and respect you more. Then go back to being jovial.
I'm jovial as my default mode most of the time, I carry good vibes, but there is sh!t I do not accept. Whenever someone does something I don't like, typically something unkind, I flip a switch and get serious. If they respect me I flip right back and move on, all good.
I really don't like these false dichotomies "this or that". Who the hell says I have to choose? Humans are complex and capable of most of these "choices", I'd rather play with the full depth of human complexity. Sometimes I'm this, sometimes I'm that. I identify as me, which is ever changing depending on current circumstances, so what are the circumstances? Which tool is most applicable right now and leaves me better off than before?
If you can stop imposing such limitations on yourself you can become incredibly adaptive and it will greatly benefit you when dealing with women.
If you lean too much into being funny you turn into a clown. Good entertainment, for now, but it doesn't show that you have the masculine trait of getting sh!t done if sh!t needs doing.
If you lean too much into being serious you become dull. Shouldn't need to explain the problem with this.
I'm both serious and funny. I play both sides at different times, when appropriate. Some stuff is serious, I don't joke around with anything that actually matters to me. If there's no need to be serious I won't be serious, but I will be serious if necessary.
Displaying this is fairly simple. By default you just have fun, crack jokes, tease and essentially play like a child. If she likes it she will inevitably test you on your masculinity as well, she'll try to push boundaries. If you have no boundaries (let her get away with whatever) then you are not masculine. So to display masculinity is to simply enforce your boundaries, if she starts messing with something you actually care about you do not let her and you're serious about it. If she knows what's good for her she'll listen, back off and respect you more. Then go back to being jovial.
I'm jovial as my default mode most of the time, I carry good vibes, but there is sh!t I do not accept. Whenever someone does something I don't like, typically something unkind, I flip a switch and get serious. If they respect me I flip right back and move on, all good.
I really don't like these false dichotomies "this or that". Who the hell says I have to choose? Humans are complex and capable of most of these "choices", I'd rather play with the full depth of human complexity. Sometimes I'm this, sometimes I'm that. I identify as me, which is ever changing depending on current circumstances, so what are the circumstances? Which tool is most applicable right now and leaves me better off than before?
If you can stop imposing such limitations on yourself you can become incredibly adaptive and it will greatly benefit you when dealing with women.