I'm always confused about this.
1) One group of men say "Make her laugh, have fun, bring out the little girl in her and she'll be yours."
2) The other group of men say "Be serious, focused, no nonsense type of guy, and she will be yours."
All things considered (dress, height, look, money), which is it?
Neither.
Both groups of men are wrong. There is no simple 'do this and she'll be yours'.
If you're an extroverted entertainer, some women will be attracted, some will think you're a clown, some will not get your humour, some will be offended.
If you're an introverted serious worker, some women will be attracted, some will like your quiet confidence, some women will think you'll be a good security blanket, some will think you're humourless, some will think you're boring and dull.
I'm pretty successful with women, but I don't pretend to be something I'm not. What works for me, doesn't work for everyone. And for every woman that is attracted to me, there are plenty who aren't attracted to me at all.
Women like to talk with me, so I received a lot of (unasked for) feedback on why these women approached me. None of their feedback can be codified into a recipe to be attractive in general. They consider me 'interesting/intriguing' for a variety of 'reasons', none of which are 'reasonable' but mostly emotional. I make them 'feel' things they 'haven't felt for a long time'. They 'feel good' in my company.
So, apparently, I engender 'feelings' in women, but I cannot tell you how you can do the same, because their 'reasons' for feeling good in my company are their own projections based on facets of my personality. So, for instance, submissive women will focus on my dominant side. Intellectual women are attracted to my author side. Romantic women are attracted to my poetic side. Et cetera.
I stand out from the crowd. Some women like that, some women don't. I don't care, I do my own thing. Some women like me and what I do and want to join me. Some can, most can't. I'm selective in allowing women into my life.
I don't pay attention to the women who don't approach me, so I have no idea
why they don't do that. I'm not attracted to all women, but I don't tell the women I'm not attracted to why I'm not attracted to them. Most of them cannot change themselves to become attractive to me anyway.