Private Sex Party

[Lotus Effect]

Buddhism, that's cool, I like that. I guess it's all in the eye of the beholder as I personally don't see it as misconduct (consenting adults not hurting anyone). But - each of us is different and must do what's best for ourselves personally.

Yeah, it is actually pretty cool, and much of the manosphere early materials are linked in a sense with budhist aproach, especially Pook.

And yes, I understand you point. Actually, in that regard, I agree with you.

What the texts says, as misconduct, is not about consent tho, it is about the act itself, as a form of indulgence / degradation.

The texts say something along these lines:

"Aroused sensuality leads to the decline of one’s nature; extreme pleasure will be followed by tragedy. For the sake of vitality and longevity, on should try to abstain from such."

So is just kind of a guidance.
I'm not a strict follower (otherwise I wouldn't be here), but I do agree with the mindset behind it.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

"Aroused sensuality leads to the decline of one’s nature; extreme pleasure will be followed by tragedy. For the sake of vitality and longevity, on should try to abstain from such."

That is such a weak argument:
"Every time I pleasured myself on a woman, I was sad afterwards and she was crying about me coming on her face like an animal and not making her climax first and so maybe people shouldn't enjoy sex."

 

[Lotus Effect]

That is such a weak argument:
"Every time I pleasured myself on a woman, I was sad afterwards and she was crying about me coming on her face like an animal and not making her climax first and so maybe people shouldn't enjoy sex."

This is not an argument mate.

This is a passage from one of the 5 precepts of budhism man. I just gave clarification on the matter.

As I've said, if I was strict, I wouldn't be in this forum in the 1st place, talking about orgies, and plate spining, and fvking chiks as an animal.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

As I've said, if I was strict, I wouldn't be in this forum in the 1st place, talking about orgies, and plate spining, and fvking chiks as an animal.

I'm a strict follower of the Tao.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Yes of course mate,

I thank you for sharing it with me.

Again, this specific situation never happened to me.
I shared this with some close mates of mine, and their opinion are very much like yours.

And I wouldn't say she is low character. Much on the contrary.
She had her folks the other day, and they spent a week here in Lisbon with her. She was very happy about it.
Always go on and on about family. She got a big family. I guess 3 or 4 sisters.

So yeah, let's see.

PS: This: "Good companionship is not easy to come by, and life is much shorter than people think". Is gospel

I wasn’t planning to contribute anything else but something came across that caught my attention in real life today.

I have a history with a woman that is a personal trainer now at my gym. She came to the gym not knowing I went there, but in relation to that happening I looked her up. The last communication we had was in late June regarding working out and hooking up. The instagram and texts could not be mistaken.

Guess who is engaged, and seems like she has been for quite some time? Half the town must be running through that woman.

I just thought this was interesting in consideration of your situation.

 

[Lotus Effect]

I wasn’t planning to contribute anything else but something came across that caught my attention in real life today.

I have a history with a woman that is a personal trainer now at my gym. She came to the gym not knowing I went there, but in relation to that happening I looked her up. The last communication we had was in late June regarding working out and hooking up. The instagram and texts could not be mistaken.

Guess who is engaged, and seems like she has been for quite some time? Half the town must be running through that woman.

I just thought this was interesting in consideration of your situation.

I don't know if I lack the english skills or if my brain is just more slow today.

But can you elaborate more. I quite didn't got mate.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

But can you elaborate more. I quite didn't got mate.

He banged a 'single' personal trainer in the past who now started working at his gym (not knowing that he trained there), and now he found out that the PT has been engaged to be married quite a while, probably even before he banged her.

 

[Lotus Effect]

He banged a 'single' personal trainer in the past who now started working at his gym (not knowing that he trained there), and now he found out that the PT has been engaged to be married quite a while, probably even before he banged her.

Thanks bro!

That part I kinda got. Even that maybe he was not the only one pounding her.

What I quite haven't got is how does that relates to the private sex thing.

Well, now that I wrote it down, I guess he means that my girl is playing coy, as was his PT? Is that it @Divorced w 3

 

[Divorced w 3]

Thanks bro!

That part I kinda got. Even that maybe he was not the only one pounding her.

What I quite haven't got is how does that relates to the private sex thing.

Well, now that I wrote it down, I guess he means that my girl is playing coy, as was his PT? Is that it @Divorced w 3

I’m not saying much, other than it’s an interesting contrast to your situation. The woman in my scenario never let this on once - a simple ‘I am in an open relationship’ would have been appreciated so I doubt the relationship was open. She was never going to be anything more for me than what she currently was, but I have a funny feeling that her partner fully understands what’s happening under his nose. At the very least, you do. Take that for what it’s worth.

 

[Salvation]

Have been to ~5 sexparties (just swinger parties that were privately organized on sexdating platform) and also swinger clubs and 4some and 3somes.

No man there will try to touch you, i would be very suprised by that.

I would ask her
What people will be there (eg pairs?)
What is the idea/concept of this thing
Has she been there before

Ask yourself what do you like, what is interesting to you
What does she like about the idea of it, what makes her horny
What makes you horny
And think about what you would like to happen and what you would totally not like to happen (and know about hers too)
I would talk about that before with her (more thinking and talking the more the relationship is important to you, sure you can also do none of that and just have a new experience)

 

[Lotus Effect]

Have been to ~5 sexparties (just swinger parties that were privately organized on sexdating platform) and also swinger clubs and 4some and 3somes.

No man there will try to touch you, i would be very suprised by that.

I would ask her
What people will be there (eg pairs?)
What is the idea/concept of this thing
Has she been there before

Ask yourself what do you like, what is interesting to you
What does she like about the idea of it, what makes her horny
What makes you horny
And think about what you would like to happen and what you would totally not like to happen (and know about hers too)
I would talk about that before with her (more thinking and talking the more the relationship is important to you, sure you can also do none of that and just have a new experience)

Thank you so much for the insight mate!

Incredible stuff!

I was thinking about approaching it somewhat like that! Thanks for the North Star bruv.

Can you elaborate more on the relationships you had with the partners you brought with you?

and how it developed afterwards?

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

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I know I'm late, but damn.

The whole sex party/orgy/swinging thing just ain't for me.

Why? Because I'd rather not be in the same room where there are unexposed d!cks besides my own.

That's just me.

As for advice, there is nothing I can say but "do you".

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Why? Because I'd rather not be in the same room where there are unexposed d!cks besides my own.

Don't go to a European sauna or Turkish bath house, if you're that worried about seeing other penises.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Thank you so much for the insight mate!

Incredible stuff!

I was thinking about approaching it somewhat like that! Thanks for the North Star bruv.

Can you elaborate more on the relationships you had with the partners you brought with you?

and how it developed afterwards?

I'd say only do it if you don't really care about the relationship. In general, these type of things typically lead to a shift in the relationship even if neither side really respects it.

Can be fun, but only if you are cool with watching your girl get tore up by another dude.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Don't go to a European sauna or Turkish bath house, if you're that worried about seeing other penises.

Hey leave the Turks out of it.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Hey leave the Turks out of it.

Hey I didn't say anything about the diminutive size of their penises, did I?

Oops.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Hey I didn't say anything about the diminutive size of their penises, did I?

Oops.

Think you want Asians for that one.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Don't go to a European sauna or Turkish bath house, if you're that worried about seeing other penises.

Advice noted, and taken.

 

[Salvation]

Can you elaborate more on the relationships you had with the partners you brought with you?
and how it developed afterwards?

Asked one ****buddy if she wants to try swinger club. She said probably not, but willing to try. We tried, i had sex with a woman of a pair, but she didn't. So we got in contact with a pair there, did some talking, i and her partner ****ed the new woman, she did not **** the man. Continioud being ****buddies later, till it ended at some point.

Other ****buddy, had some groupsex with her, 4some, 4some failed, swinger club meet. And fun fact she met someone taller and with bigger **** than me and they were together for a while. For some strange reason i didn't take that hard.

 

[Isildur1]

How well do you have your ego under control? Sex / kink parties can be fun, but you have to be able to emotionally detach from watching your cute yoga instructor enjoy getting railed by another guy. It's not for the possessive types.

one of my wings took a woman to a sex party and she instantly got jealous as soon as another girl hit on him - not sure its everyone's cup of tea and if one is serious with a woman it can really have damaging and detrimental effects on relationships - i've personally never been offered a "threesome" before but can understand it can create jealousy and envy in relationships too so needs to be treated with caution