I haven't read through this thread. I know one thing is for sure, that the majority of replies to the OP will be legit and valid because we have legit and valid men on this forum. With that said, my reply to the OP is that yes, absolutely, men on the spectrum can succeeded with women.
If I could give one piece of advice to men on the spectrum in getting women, it would be for the man not to push too hard. Be yourself, then pull back. Then be yourself again, then disappear... I saw my former stepson. He was on the spectrum. At 21 he and I went to bars together a lot. He always had women all over him. He was very confident in how he initially presented himself. And with me as his wing I always talked him up so much. Women after him would often give me more attention than him. But I always tried to put the focus back on him. After all, I was married to his mother at the time and never wanted to be more than his wing man. But yes, women were attracted to him big time. His mistake in killing said attraction was being TOO MUCH.. He gave off a "desperate" vibe that I could never get him out of. I think if he would have taken more advantage of casual talking to multiple women in one night, rather than laser focused attention on one woman and appearing desperate. Then never letting up and never recognizing the other opportunities around him, he would have done much better.