This younger generation are lazy AF plus indoctrination from all angles, don't hold it against them to be a little lazy. I was lazy until 26, I was mentally not 100% until I hit 30, I'd go as far as to say I've only felt like a normal human the last 2 years, things can change in an instance.If she’s legit working through a trauma, I’d say of course there is an exception. But nobody absent a major catalyst should be out of shape at 23. It’s not normal.
Now the 34 year old, no man has taken her off the market, that's an extreme red flag, this isn't "fresh & fit syndrome" as @CornbreadFed stated, it's a fact. 18 years on the market, nobody wife'd it, now I'm suppose to save her? It's not actually realistic to say a 34 year old, 10/10, with no baggage or mental health problems/trauma is alive in Western society.