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No, because I don't want to date the kind of women that love scumbags.Is this what you did?
You're getting it all wrong. To get women you don't have to improve yourself. You have to make yourself worse. You need to become the scumbag that women love. The scumbag that they complain about on their dating profiles and swear they'll never date again... and then do.
No one reading your original post is going to infer you meant low value women....No, because I don't want to date the kind of women that love scumbags.
You can't take an observation from a tiny sample of women and extrapolate to all women. Leaving aside those truly masculine women who thrive climbing the corporate ladder, the rest of those single ladies self medicate with wine or are on anti depressants, have cats/dogs as surrogates for men and generally are unhappy human beings.At work, this phenomenon is apparent with an increasing number of divorces and single women in their 30s and 40s. The women don't seem sad about it, quite the opposite, most of them are very motivated by their career. The only logical conclusion is that they want to do this, they want to be single.
I try to see them about once a week, but it doesn't always work out due to schedule conflicts etc. Also, most of them are escorting only a short period of time (often during university studies) and then move on to other things in life.That is why self improvement can be sick advice. You end up with attention from undesirable women that are 4 points below you and you feel ripped off. The fact that you are escortcelling shows me you have to pay for the company of women (that in a normal and functional society ) that you would otherwise deserve. At least you can afford that hobby. How often are you escortcelling?
I don't know, perhaps single women are not happy, but most of them certainly are not making any effort to attract a man. If they were truly interested in men, the first thing they would do is to get in shape (because all women know that's what attracts men).You can't take an observation from a tiny sample of women and extrapolate to all women. Leaving aside those truly masculine women who thrive climbing the corporate ladder, the rest of those single ladies self medicate with wine or are on anti depressants, have cats/dogs as surrogates for men and generally are unhappy human beings.
My logical conclusion is that they haven't found a man they truly connect with and that's why they're single, not because they chose to be.
Okay, so we have established your tastes of younger University age women. But you are 38 years old. Are you going for like 30 min / incall, or longer periods? What is your monthly budget? Why would you want a civvie women if you are meeting a hot Stacie University woman like that every week? You have made a ceiling with that lifestyle as you are not going to get the same type of women you are seeing through that arrangment and I think you have spoiled yourself out of the dating market. Most people on dating apps have to settle with 3-4 points lower than themselves.I try to see them about once a week, but it doesn't always work out due to schedule conflicts etc. Also, most of them are escorting only a short period of time (often during university studies) and then move on to other things in life.
"Social skills" amount to being a phony, vacuous extrovert. I can't advise anyone not to practice them -- failure to do so will come with consequences. But declining to debase yourself in that way is laudable.I'm not a 3 percenter and I do just fine. Social skills and conversational skills are lacking IMHO. OP can paint any picture of himself he wants, this is what makes sense to me.
Nope...social skills amount to understanding how to act with other people in public settings. Trust me when I say "being normal" never got you so far as it does today with the amount of weirdos and dudes that have zero social skills in person."Social skills" amount to being a phony, vacuous extrovert. I can't advise anyone not to practice them -- failure to do so will come with consequences. But declining to debase yourself in that way is laudable.
That is precisely what I described.Nope...social skills amount to understanding how to act with other people in public settings.
That is precisely what I described.
I think you are a bit too curious/concerned about my lifestyle. I love beautiful women and I love sex. Not all of them are university age, either, some are between 25-35. Also, high quality escorts don't do incall or short visits.Okay, so we have established your tastes of younger University age women. But you are 38 years old. Are you going for like 30 min / incall, or longer periods? What is your monthly budget?
Eh, idk. Any/all? Can't say I feel entirely at home in any of those buckets. BP tends to be fixated on looks, which in my experience is just wrong. RP, I subscribe to descriptively more than prescriptively. MGTOW, maybe, probably heading in that direction as life marches towards its dyspeptic conclusion. Tbh, I think the incels are right about most everything, and most everyone is just too egotistical and cowardly to admit it.
That's nothing like you described actuallyThat is precisely what I described.
The problem with talking to escorts is that you might not catch what works and what not during conversation. And continue to be socially awkward (not saying OP is)He is talking to escorts.
You said that social skills amount to conforming to social expectations. Social expectations in North America require you to emulate extroversion, conceal your true opinions and feelings (mandatory positivity), pretend to care more about people than you actually do, and make small talk about things that you likely find uninteresting. Ergo...That's nothing like you described actually
And it's incredible to me just how much of a disqualifier any hint of 'neurodivergence' so often is. It can cancel out everything else, even if everything else is solidly above average.if you're on the spectrum, your only choice is going to be to mimic the lifestyle and behavior of men that are successful with women. This could be self destructive and it will require you to sublimate your desires, but thats what it will take.
You sound like a person who has no clue how this works. Clearly you have issues with social skills.You said that social skills amount to conforming to social expectations. Social expectations in North America require you to emulate extroversion, conceal your true opinions and feelings (mandatory positivity), pretend to care more about people than you actually do, and make small talk about things that you likely find uninteresting. Ergo...
You mean like autistic? Nah, I function quite well socially and like I mentioned above, never had trouble making friends. Also, I've had relationships in my younger years with normal women.if you're on the spectrum
There are, but they're still greatly outnumbered by their male counterparts. Moreover, they don't face anything approaching the discrimination by the opposite sex that male neurodivergents do. In the latter case, it's pretty much open season from all quarters.There are plenty of neurodivergent women out there.
We should probably get together as a society and try to figure out why this is happening on such a mass scale.
I have every clue how this works. What you're trying to do is rationalize the possession of a set of qualities and behaviors that are, at best, morally neutral as something laudable that makes you superior, when by any reasonable moral criteria they are not.You sound like a person who has no clue how this works.