Ghosted out of nowhere...weird situation and cautionary tale...never assume you'll see a woman again no matter how well it is going

[SW15]

bad burrito.

That would be a hilarious explanation.

Yeah, I knew a guy that used to do this and the women would come over, have a free dinner, and then not want to bang.

Always keep the meals light.

That always turns into an awkward back and forth interaction.

1: Let’s do X
2: I really want to! But I’m in class then.
1: Y time instead, no problem.
2: Ooh. Can’t then either. Keep going!

More than likely it was something going on in this woman's life having nothing to do with you... forget about her and move on.

True, but stuff like this can add up.

Panic/anxiety disorder. The entire seduction phase for these types of women is just managing their anxiety. The irony is that even though they are only compatible with scared beta men, they will still be out there playing the typical alpha fcks game. Important to be aware of the explosion of these disorders in society due to social media and other factors, while not catering your approach to them because you will end up skittish and fearful to escalate.

A lot of women have anxiety disorders. If you date white women ages 27-35, never married, childless, with a BA/BS degree or higher working some white collar job, she is often a chemical mix of anti anxiety meds, anti depressants, and birth control.

Anxiety and depression are common in this female group.

 

[MatureDJ]

IPost sex ghostings happen.

I was with a gal a few months, and we had a great night of sex (I was able to stay fairly erect inside of her across multiple ejaculative cycles). (This was pre-internet.) I call up mid-week, and no answer. I call up Friday, and no answer. For whatever reason, I had this suspicion that was she was ghosting me (this was before "ghosting" was a meme). Sure enough, when I got a hold of her on Sunday, she dropped the news.

After that episode, I have always presumed that absent a child in the mix, a young, attractive woman could always bolt, even when things seemed great. One would hope that, absent any abuse, the Sexual Market Value hit a mother takes would keep her around; I have not been able to do this experiment yet.

 

[MatureDJ]

Most of the times, it's the absence of sex that makes women ghost us, not vice versa.

If I don't see any IOI from a gal by the 2nd date, I ghost. I've only had 1 gal contact me after that.

 

[MatureDJ]

Women should be WAY down on the list of a man's priorities.

I'm at the point where a woman's value to me is in her sharing her DNA for my progeny and a willing sex participant that doesn't charge (at least directly ). Once I get my progeny out of her, I wouldn't have a problem going back to EscortMaxxing.

 

[derby1]

Just a cautionary tale...no matter how good it's going, never assume you will see her again in the beginning.

You did nothing wrong, you may remember i posted a similar post about 5 months back, pursuing me all night and day, long DM's,
we had a great time together, then she suddenly ghosts.

Turns out her chap was living with her all along, and she had just radiated to me whilst she was in a mood with her beta provider.

Explains why i could only get her alone on her work nights.

 

[manfrombelow]

A story from my past:

I had been dating this girl for a few months at least. Everything was going great. She had already confessed multiple times that she loved me etc. One night I jokingly commented on something and just casually said that she is "wife material" - it was meant as a compliment, certainly not a proposal. The look on her face was horrified.

I didn't lose her then and there, and in fact, a couple of years later we were still in a relationship and it was then her who started talking about marriage. I ended up dumping her (for various reasons), but this story is just to illustrate that nothing is certain at any point in a relationship.

I believe that women are often overinterpreting what guys are saying. For example, the comment about being wife material may have been interpreted by her as a sign that I was going to propose soon, which certainly was not my intent. Or in the case of the OP of the thread, an invitation to cook dinner may have been interpreted as too serious too fast.

In these cases, I think the fault is actually that of the woman, since overinterpreting things is not a sensible way of living as an adult, but what can you do.

To women, every wording must be very, very careful.

 

[SW15]

I was with a gal a few months, and we had a great night of sex (I was able to stay fairly erect inside of her across multiple ejaculative cycles). (This was pre-internet.) I call up mid-week, and no answer. I call up Friday, and no answer. For whatever reason, I had this suspicion that was she was ghosting me (this was before "ghosting" was a meme). Sure enough, when I got a hold of her on Sunday, she dropped the news.

After that episode, I have always presumed that absent a child in the mix, a young, attractive woman could always bolt, even when things seemed great. One would hope that, absent any abuse, the Sexual Market Value hit a mother takes would keep her around; I have not been able to do this experiment yet.

When you got her on the phone on that Sunday, what did she say?

If this incident that happened 2007-present, you'd be lucky if she responded to a text message. I'll explain.

One of my most painful ghostings happened in the absence of sex. Many years ago (before swipe apps were invented), there was a third date makeout session at my apartment that didn't escalate into sex. Never saw her again in person.

This happened after the iPhone was released but before Tinder dropped. I had recently moved a new city. I was using a dating website (mistake) instead of day gaming. My male friendships were starting to blossom but not much yet. Anyway, I got to that third date and her texting becomes sparse after it, eventually not responding to a text about a week after that date. I was so upset about it. Six weeks later, after a bad night out at a bar trying to get my dicck wet, I sent her the most condescending text I could and I got a response. She said that she didn't owe me any explanation for what she did 6 weeks earlier.

I didn't behave in the best manner there in the post date texting but I had no right to receive the treatment that I received. I had too much invested and too much one-itis there without getting the bang. Perhaps attraction had an expiration date. Perhaps she didn't like my apartment. Perhaps it had nothing to do with me. That interaction was the rudest interaction I had up until that point and it stuck with me.

 

[soulforge]

If I haven't had sex with a girl by the second date, I tend to ghost her!

3rd date.. Nah I already moved on, no matter how hot she is.

 

[Georgepithyou]

I'm at the point where a woman's value to me is in her sharing her DNA for my progeny and a willing sex participant that doesn't charge (at least directly ). Once I get my progeny out of her, I wouldn't have a problem going back to EscortMaxxing.

Nothing wrong with a co parenting arrangement, there are websites just for that.

 

[Fruitbat]

Another dude. End of.

Ive done this to women, but I always sent a cursory text to explain to look elsewhere.
Ghosting happens because she hasn’t developed the character or skills to conduct herself with integrity.

there is nothing particularly wrong with being nexted for another guy. It’s happened to every man, and the more it happens the better, for you are at least pushing yourself and getting with women who clearly have a lot of options.

Just be sure to never get with her if she crawls back when it doesn’t work out - unless it’s purely to smash. She isn’t worth much more than that.

 

[derby1]

Ghosting happens because she hasn’t developed the character or skills to conduct herself with integrity.

women as a group dont have honour or integrity. This is a masculine trait that if so she would have picked up from a male who was a leader.

 

[Fruitbat]

Integrity? Lol yeaaa. What you see as integrity is nothing more then a covert action plan.
Women say and do nothing without their ego involved. Solipsism101.
Yes i agree there is an illusion of integrity but from a sexual strategy view its only skin deep.

I’ve said she doesn’t have that

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Reread this.
I would have gave her crickets after all that BS.
Stuffed animal dont mean shyt to girls.
Win you a stuffed animal? Lol.
"My 12 guage needs some new targets"

Maybe it will come around but man who wastes their time on this shyt.
She must have picked up on something else?
Women B women. Lol

I don't feel the need to pretend I am a badass with false bravado apparently.

 

[Guy69JackBlue]

I don't feel the need to pretend I am a badass with false bravado apparently.

All the talk on here about "she must submit to me!"...

When do you see this actually happening? Lol.

 

[Larry Lurex]

I admit that I ghost women at the first sign of clinginess, though not out of spite. Yeah, I can be an immature *******.

I think some breathing room is vital to give a woman to miss you, and to have the opportunity to chase you as well.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

No you just need validation as to why she ghosted.
Being Redpilled and knowing Rp concepts is 2 different things. Thats why women frustrate you.
You shot your shot and she wasnt interested. "Right now"
But you thought you were in and you weren't.
The point of your post is to never go there in the mind at all. Right?

All the talk and text lead you to be manipulated into thinking you had her.
After date 1
Her. When are you free?
You:
Her: Hey yadda yadda (emote)
Her: not gonna talk to me? (Yadda yadda)
You. God you girls just can't leave a guy alone can you? ill text you this week when im free.
Her. Hey
You. I making some sushi. Bring a bottle and a movie. (If she declines hit up another girl) (shes not avail?) Then eat your meal and go do something fun and don't worry about what happened to these girls. Its not personal.

Some of you may think this is harsh. But its mild. By 2-3 dates in you should have her head twisted the fck up whether you like her or not. She still ghosts? Who cares at this point. Its always next.

Need validation? I just posted it is a reminder as to never assume anything with these women in the early days.

You seem to have some personal anger issues to deal with... I'll let you go deal with them. No need to engage

 

[BDDazza]

Went on a few dates with this cute blonde chick, had a great vibe, attraction on both sides, make out sessions, on the second date she grabbed my hand as we walked and asked if I would want to go to the county fair with her in a few weeks and I teased her and said only if you plan on winning me a giant stuffed animal, and she laughed and said she will try her best...

Everything seemed like it was going normally with a chick that was really into me, she was texting me a lot after the date, saying we should do x,y and z sometime because it looked like fun.

Asked when she was free again a few days after I saw her and she gave me a list of days and I picked Monday and invited her to come cook dinner with me and the chick seemingly freaked out. I mean I have invited women over for dinner on a 3rd date probably 50 times, and 48 of them accepted, the other 2 said they weren't ready for that yet and we did something else. None of them freaked out the way she did.

So she gave me an excuse that she wasn't feeling good and thought she might be getting sick, said she went and got a COVID test but it came back negative, blah blah blah. She said she wasn't sure where her comfort level was with all of this because she just started dating again and blah blah blah. She asked if she could take a raincheck and we would figure something out when she felt better.

So I told her to yeah no issues, feel better and we would figure something out then.

And that was the last I heard from her...it's been like 10 days, noticed she deleted me off the dating app, has not responded to either of the 2 messages I sent.

I mean there is an off chance that she might be really sick or something but I have a feeling she just ghosted me. Doesn't seemingly make any sense to me since we had such a great vibe, there was mutual attraction and we had so many things in common. It felt like a situation that I had been in 3 or 4 times before where things just easily progress...

Except this time I get ghosted...don't really get it but I assume there must be another guy in the picture or maybe she had a boyfriend/is still married and they found out...you never know these days.

Not the end of the world because I have several other women I am dating but she definitely seemed to have a lot of potential.

Just a cautionary tale...no matter how good it's going, never assume you will see her again in the beginning.

It's over, nothing that you did wrong from what I read but I suspect there was another guy who came into the picture around the same time and she picked him instead.

From my experience a girl who wants to meet, will meet. If she makes excuses or doesn't counter offer then its over.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Just a cautionary tale...no matter how good it's going, never assume you will see her again in the beginning.

Which again is why guys should always go for it. Burn it to the ground or place on disregard. Acquiring a ig or # is just being process oriented and sourcing girls. I treat the game like Vaca or spring break. Very short time frame. Dtf or next. Can hit me up after or not. I'm still sourcing.

Not walking on ****ing egg shells or being the phleb who sits when he pees.

LET'S GO or next!

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

The bolded part: It happened to me too. The girl saw me as one night stand only. It's natural. But only one out of 100. To the other 99, sex keeped them hooked to me. Without sex? Ghosted!

I want to be seen more as just ONS not 'I can change him!' No you can't. She can use her vjj and try though.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

My priorities are crypto and trying to retire by the end of the year...I just don't really get what the issue was. It was like a light switch flipped when I invited her to come have dinner with me as if I was a serial killer or something.

Respect.

I am praying for another crash and accumulate.

I stopped caring about why women do anything. Lizard brain Evo psych and female logic. Comply or bye.

Dropping breadcrumbs and leading her back to my gingerbread house. Or #next!

Mystery is GOAT! If anything is taken away from MM the game is COMPLIANCE.

Women will crawl over barbed wire and claw the eyes out 9f every man women and children to get to the alpha male. It's this level of desire that's prereq for leveling up in a rotation. Very few and far between.