All right guys, need help with FRAME for a second.
recently I talked with a girl online and clearly failed the **** test or lost frame but either way it made me realize sometimes there’s no “winning” because if you pass the **** test you’re really just jumping through her hoop.
observe:
her: *sends girly gif of girl getting shy and smiley*
Me: *couldn’t figure out how to send gigs in this app so I just used my standard opener* hey trouble
her:
Hi
me: *noticing her status is “bored”* bored I see. What are you looking for on here?
her: Dominance
me: * so here I’m thinking “we’ll if I try to be dominant I’m just pounding my chest trying to prove my worth to her, which is putting her on a pedestal. But if I tell her I’m dominant I’m also trying to gain favor, so what should I do? I end up just playing it honest which also seems like I lose frame but this is what I mean, there’s no way to win here. So this is why I need help. Women do this kind of **** to me a lot and I have no way to counter it, it’s like the worst thing ever. I’m starting to think I should just abandon her at that point and say something like “good for you” or “yawn” or something like that. Thoughts? Insights? Sugggestions?