Nordic_identity
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jun 30, 2020
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- Age
- 33
If it's on again/off again it's not a relationship. I often ask my AFC friends about their on again/off again relationships and how long they consider themselves to have been dating the person. They'll tell me how long they've been going back and forth but then tell me the number of months they actually were in a relationship and not broken up. I tell them, you might as well take the first relationship you had, maybe that was 3 months, put an asterisk next to it and consider that the "true" length of their relationship.Well, never thought I'd be here. I have been in a relationship on and off for almost the past 2 years. Even when we broke up I would inadvertently do the no contact rule and she would come back and we would get back together.
This time it seems this is not going to happen. Last time we spoke was on the phone on august 8/9 can't remember specific date. I went 30 days no contact and thanks to stupid YouTube videos I broke it on September 10.
Needless to say she never responded. Hurt like hell. I have been doing No contact ever since. those first 2 weeks were hell but then it was easy. after hitting her up in September and not getting a response my world crumbled.
I did not make things better by sending a "farewell" message. "Well I am not going to chase you anymore, if you want to contact me you have my number. good bye" Gosh looking back at it I sound SOOO ****ing pathethic. is as if all the progress I made over the last 2 years went down the drain and I went to my AFC ways.
Anyways I am making this post because I want to actually commit to it this time forever... it really sucks because I want her back but I know is my ego. today is day 59 or 60 not sure.... it should have been close to day 90 but anyways hopefully I can use this post to forget her....
Once you take her back no questions asked you enter her frame and unconsciously approve her behavior. She'll think, well he's taken me back all the other times so...
I know it's rough, and you feel she'll never speak to you again, maybe its true. But that should be of no concern of yours regardless. There's plenty of females out there that you can be with and it'll never be on/off again. All the little features you are so caught up on this one can be mutually found in another but this time around you can establish and hold frame.