the SECRET to going from beta to alpha , OVERNIGHT

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There are plenty of survival advantages to being a Beta male. Low T = better fat reserves, longevity, less risk behaviour, parenthood etc

But if you want to become more alpha, you have to raise your BASELINE testosterone. (Not the spikes in T from weight lifting but your BASELINE) And the only way to do that... is to win at things

It's your own brain that decides how much T you get by anaylizing your environment and deciding where you fit into the heirarchy

The more you win, the better
 

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stop caring
Easy to say, but men have natural instincts that are hard to suppress. If every man in the world suddenly stopped being interested in sex tomorrow, women would be going up the wall, but unless that happens to be an unknown side-effect of Covid that's not going to happen.
 

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Be selfish, but your needs and wants first before anyone else. Not being emotionally committed to a 'result' (i.e. caring) is important, but if you put yourself first, the not caring part just comes though serendipity.

I'm not saying you have to be an @ss about it, but you have to put value on your time. Never do ANYTHING without getting reciprocity. Go ahead and be giving... but that giving has to be done ONLY with chicks that give back.

Twisting yourself into a knot to make people happy is the fastest rout to weak behavior. And trust me when I say this, with 30 plus years of dating experience behind me, chicks are completely turned off by men that cater to them.

Not only does being selfish and demanding reciprocity make you more attractive, it also drives off chicks that really don't like you. Women that you really do not have a chance with will call you a pr1ck and selfish a-hole, she won't like you but she didn't like you anyway, so fvck her.... You're not going to turn that around anyway, but at least she will respect you.
 

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There are plenty of survival advantages to being a Beta male. Low T = better fat reserves, longevity, less risk behaviour, parenthood etc

But if you want to become more alpha, you have to raise your BASELINE testosterone. (Not the spikes in T from weight lifting but your BASELINE) And the only way to do that... is to win at things

It's your own brain that decides how much T you get by anaylizing your environment and deciding where you fit into the heirarchy

The more you win, the better
True that, even the simple fact of increasing your bank account is a strong enough signal to tell your brain that you can afford more not necessarily in economical terms.
 

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There are plenty of survival advantages to being a Beta male. Low T = better fat reserves, longevity, less risk behaviour, parenthood etc

But if you want to become more alpha, you have to raise your BASELINE testosterone. (Not the spikes in T from weight lifting but your BASELINE) And the only way to do that... is to win at things

It's your own brain that decides how much T you get by anaylizing your environment and deciding where you fit into the heirarchy

The more you win, the better
If it was only that simple...

Actually the easiest way to raise it would be to lift weights, not eat processed foods and sugars and sleep at least 8 hours a night.

Also ensuring you have enough Iodine in your body plays a major role...supplementing with Lugol's may be a good idea for many.

But you could easily raise it by doing TRT if those don't work enough and you have an issue hormonally.
 
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Be selfish, but your needs and wants first before anyone else. Not being emotionally committed to a 'result' (i.e. caring) is important, but if you put yourself first, the not caring part just comes though serendipity.

I'm not saying you have to be an @ss about it, but you have to put value on your time. Never do ANYTHING without getting reciprocity. Go ahead and be giving... but that giving has to be done ONLY with chicks that give back.

Twisting yourself into a knot to make people happy is the fastest rout to weak behavior. And trust me when I say this, with 30 plus years of dating experience behind me, chicks are completely turned off by men that cater to them.

Not only does being selfish and demanding reciprocity make you more attractive, it also drives off chicks that really don't like you. Women that you really do not have a chance with will call you a pr1ck and selfish a-hole, she won't like you but she didn't like you anyway, so fvck her.... You're not going to turn that around anyway, but at least she will respect you.
I agree with you 100% and that also matches my own experience. In the past I was far more patient and all this does is get you into the friend zone.
 

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Agree man. Its a mind thing. You can't complete anyone.

To not be needy you first must learn to be alone. Make loneliness your close friend.
See what happens

This is not MGTOW. MGTOW is an unhealthy reaction.
i agree, i was mgtow for a short period before i realized its kinda feminine/childish in nature, like taking your toy and running to the corner with it cause some girl rejected you. i cared TOO much
 

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There are plenty of survival advantages to being a Beta male. Low T = better fat reserves, longevity, less risk behaviour, parenthood etc

But if you want to become more alpha, you have to raise your BASELINE testosterone. (Not the spikes in T from weight lifting but your BASELINE) And the only way to do that... is to win at things

It's your own brain that decides how much T you get by anaylizing your environment and deciding where you fit into the heirarchy

The more you win, the better

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i heard of a few body language hacks such as standing tall, sitting up straight with legs open and the victory pose that i heard also works. thats why everytime i kick ass in somethin i feel GREAT. this stuff actually works
 

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Agree man. Its a mind thing. You can't complete anyone.

To not be needy you first must learn to be alone. Make loneliness your close friend.
See what happens

This is not MGTOW. MGTOW is an unhealthy reaction.
I don't agree with enjoying loneliness or being lonely. Someone can be alone and not be lonely. When you feel lonely it is because you are needing someone to be with.

You should enjoy being by yourself and doing things by yourself which then makes it impossible to be lonely. Maybe thay is what you meant but if you are feeling lonely sooner or later you are going to mentally fall into the "I need someone" trap that leads to neediness and desperate behavior.
 

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Go from the pvssy that makes you disrespect yourself to get in, into one that desires you often and helps you out...
nothin beats genuine desire , whenever i stop caring about women, and start enjoying my games and other hobbies and weight lifting , women seem to just come, whenever i chase women i always end up with the worst
 

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I don't agree with enjoying loneliness or being lonely. Someone can be alone and not be lonely. When you feel lonely it is because you are needing someone to be with.

You should enjoy being by yourself and doing things by yourself which then makes it impossible to be lonely. Maybe thay is what you meant but if you are feeling lonely sooner or later you are going to mentally fall into the "I need someone" trap that leads to neediness and desperate behavior.
yeah i think thats what he meant, the way i see it being alone often allows you to ascend quicker.
but being alone as in being single in a relationship , not monk mode, thats not for me. but hey whoever can do monk mode and if it works they should keep doing it, stick with whatever is ''winning''
 

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I don't think it can be done overnight. It is a process. Stop caring is a good practice. Lifting weights and eating a healthy diet. No porn and no mbate.
 

Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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If you 100% don't care, then you are full MGTOW/volcel/gave up on women.

I mean on SOME level, you still have to LIKE women and still want SOMETHING from them.
He likes pvssy just like the rest of us. He's worried about his business and if they aren't trying to be in his business he won't care what they think. We don't have to pursue women... They like different men in the various environments.
 

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He likes pvssy just like the rest of us. He's worried about his business and if they aren't trying to be in his business he won't care what they think. We don't have to pursue women... They like different men in the various environments.
Agreed and understood. I think the OP is right.

I was just putting the caveat in that extreme IDGAF is not recommended though.

TLDR: IDGAF is very good up to a point.
 

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I don't understand the alpha-beta dichotomy.

It's a spectrum where you lie on.

Social status, physical appearance, hormones, mindset, education, wealth & resources.

I agree with @RangerMIke on caring about our own selves first.

Read books, apply that knowledge.
Workout, eat right.
Sleep well, meditate.
Be the man with a plan with his life.
Become more useful to your own self everyday.
Network.
Get money right.
Approach, learn social skills, vocal tonality, body language, posture, eye contact.
Apply.
Work on your own life, make it something you're proud of.

Being aloof and nonchalant will 10/10 get you laid more.
But how can you pretend or actually "not care" if you're doing it to get laid.

It's a paradox.

Short circuit it by taking control of your own life, focus on yourself. Period.
 
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