I had another date last night with a hispanic girl from Facebook Dating. This is a different girl then the last two I posted about. I got her number a few weeks ago and we had been texting here and there. She is a nurse, so her schedule kind of sucks. We met at the usual spot that I use. This date went way better then the one the night before but still didn't turn out good in the end. The conversation went a lot better then some of my recent dates. But, when I walked her to her car, I didn't get a kiss. I'm not even going to hit her up. She is difficult to get out because of her job and I don't think she would even go out with me again anyways.
I'm really trying to figure out what I could be doing wrong compared to before. I'm starting to think I'm coming off as more boring on the dates then in the past. I tried not to be in interview mode, but maybe I still was like that too much. I'm going to step back and look at everything. I am going to try some different things on the next date that I go on when it comes to conversation. I think I definitely need to be more funny. One thing that I used to do after we were done with our drinks, was suggest that we walk around the outdoor mall for a little bit (the bar is at a outdoor mall). Then after we walked around talking, I would invite them back to my place. I haven't been doing this anymore. Maybe I should go back to doing that. I have now had 4 dates in a row with no lays.
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After the date ended, I met up with my friends in the area with all the clubs. It was jam packed because of this sporting event going on in town this weekend. Most of the clubs were charging cover charges because of this, so we only went to two places that weren't charging. I did 6 approaches and I'm going to break them down this time.
Approach #1 (4 set of white girls): I walked up with my wings and I started talking to one of the girls. I asked her if she had went to the event that was going on (I used this all night on girls because it was a easy conversation starter). I could tell the girls weren't interested in us and they excused themselves.
Approach #2 (4 set of hispanic girls): I walked up with my wings and I started talking to 2 of the girls. One of them seemed interested, so I started talking to only her. Her friends weren't interested in my wings and they all left except the girl I was talking to stuck around and kept talking to me. She was asking a lot of questions about me and was showing high interest. She turned out to be my age but she looked a lot younger and had a nice body. After about 10 mins of us talking she said she needed to get back to her friends. I decided to ask for the number because the interaction had went so well. She gave me her number and I'm going to text her tonight. I'm not getting my hopes up for a club number though. This was my best approach all night.
Approach #3 (2 white girls): I approached with one wing. I talked to a girl with a cowboy hat on and she was from London. She had an accent. She still had the price tag on her hat. I pointed that out and she took the tag off of it. I'm not sure if they were interested but I like to sometimes excuse myself when I feel that there not hooking. So, we moved on.
Approach #4 (5 set of white girls): I approached with my wings. The girl I tried to talk to just looked at me, looked away, and didn't say anything back. My wings didn't do much better. They were obviously stuck up.
Approach #5 (2 set of white girls): I approached with one wing. The one I talked to was giving me weird answers so I started messing with her. Not sure how to really explain that. She was laughing but in the end they weren't interested probably because they were both way taller then us.
Approach #6 (mixed set, 3 white girls, 1 guy): I approached them alone. I talked to my target first but then I introduced myself to the rest of the set, which included shaking the guys hand. One of the girls grabbed my hand and had me spin her around. My target seemed interested but she said she had a boyfriend. I don't think it was an excuse because of how receptive she was to me. I told her that is nice meeting her and to have a goodnight (my usual non butt hurt line before I walk away).
I ended up leaving around 12:30 because of how crowded it was and the lack of places to go because of cover charges. Overall, I think 6 approaches in the little time I did them was a big improvement since the last time I went out.
I'm really trying to figure out what I could be doing wrong compared to before. I'm starting to think I'm coming off as more boring on the dates then in the past. I tried not to be in interview mode, but maybe I still was like that too much. I'm going to step back and look at everything. I am going to try some different things on the next date that I go on when it comes to conversation. I think I definitely need to be more funny. One thing that I used to do after we were done with our drinks, was suggest that we walk around the outdoor mall for a little bit (the bar is at a outdoor mall). Then after we walked around talking, I would invite them back to my place. I haven't been doing this anymore. Maybe I should go back to doing that. I have now had 4 dates in a row with no lays.
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After the date ended, I met up with my friends in the area with all the clubs. It was jam packed because of this sporting event going on in town this weekend. Most of the clubs were charging cover charges because of this, so we only went to two places that weren't charging. I did 6 approaches and I'm going to break them down this time.
Approach #1 (4 set of white girls): I walked up with my wings and I started talking to one of the girls. I asked her if she had went to the event that was going on (I used this all night on girls because it was a easy conversation starter). I could tell the girls weren't interested in us and they excused themselves.
Approach #2 (4 set of hispanic girls): I walked up with my wings and I started talking to 2 of the girls. One of them seemed interested, so I started talking to only her. Her friends weren't interested in my wings and they all left except the girl I was talking to stuck around and kept talking to me. She was asking a lot of questions about me and was showing high interest. She turned out to be my age but she looked a lot younger and had a nice body. After about 10 mins of us talking she said she needed to get back to her friends. I decided to ask for the number because the interaction had went so well. She gave me her number and I'm going to text her tonight. I'm not getting my hopes up for a club number though. This was my best approach all night.
Approach #3 (2 white girls): I approached with one wing. I talked to a girl with a cowboy hat on and she was from London. She had an accent. She still had the price tag on her hat. I pointed that out and she took the tag off of it. I'm not sure if they were interested but I like to sometimes excuse myself when I feel that there not hooking. So, we moved on.
Approach #4 (5 set of white girls): I approached with my wings. The girl I tried to talk to just looked at me, looked away, and didn't say anything back. My wings didn't do much better. They were obviously stuck up.
Approach #5 (2 set of white girls): I approached with one wing. The one I talked to was giving me weird answers so I started messing with her. Not sure how to really explain that. She was laughing but in the end they weren't interested probably because they were both way taller then us.
Approach #6 (mixed set, 3 white girls, 1 guy): I approached them alone. I talked to my target first but then I introduced myself to the rest of the set, which included shaking the guys hand. One of the girls grabbed my hand and had me spin her around. My target seemed interested but she said she had a boyfriend. I don't think it was an excuse because of how receptive she was to me. I told her that is nice meeting her and to have a goodnight (my usual non butt hurt line before I walk away).
I ended up leaving around 12:30 because of how crowded it was and the lack of places to go because of cover charges. Overall, I think 6 approaches in the little time I did them was a big improvement since the last time I went out.
" and I didn't respond. Maybe she will learn from this and the next guy will reap the benefits. But, when a new girl that I'm talking to tells me she would rather stay home and do nothing instead of seeing me, she is automatically nexted. I don't think I really have a abundance mindset right now. I'm just not going to put up with any BS. I'm still supposed to meet that new one at the lake tonight. Hopefully it goes well. We already spoke on the phone the other day and she seems pretty interested.